Not sure how to feel (LONG STORY)...

I understand your irritation, I swear I do but stop giving that much energy to something / someone that make no difference in your life. Time to let it go....they are doing the best they can do for their own life and their own circumstances.

Be happy for others people even if it is not the choice you would make for yourself.

It is not worth the energy.

Good luck

This, this time a million.

One thing I have learned in life is that if I allow what other people do and say to effect my life, its my fault, period. In laws are always going to say and do things that get on our nerves, best thing we can do is pick our battles and figure out which ones are worth fighting and which ones are worth a hard eye roll.

It will get easier as you get older, but one thing you can ask yourself now is, "what do I get out of holding onto these feelings that I do"? Cause you are getting something out of it, trust me, or else you would not let such trivial matters get you so upset that you bring them to a public internet forum.

You absolutely are jealous, and you need to face that. Don't ever think weight loss surgery is easy or that a person who has the surgery has no will power. After surgery, you still have to control what you eat, and that does take will power. I have a LapBand, and it's rough. I still have lots of trouble losing weight, mostly because I still have to control what goes in my mouth. When I get stressed, I eat. Weight loss surgery doesn't change that. It's a constant struggle. If you love these people, realize that they've had to deal with being fat for a long time, and they're probably finally happy to be free of that overwhelming anchor around their necks. Try to be happy for them.

It sounds like you have a lot of anger, and it is going to be up to you to figure out how to deal with it. Taking it out on others (whether you come right out and say it or whether you just yell at them in your head) is not going to help you or them.

Is this the only area in your life where you feel like this, or do you feel anger in other areas of your life, and have no way to deal with it? It might help to talk to someone about it, either a counsellor or even a close, trusted friend.

In the meantime, try to practice re-training your brain not to dwell on the negative thoughts. And remember that you are not in their skin, you don't know everything they are feeling/experiencing, either. You probably wouldn't like it if someone was observing you and wondering why you didn't stand instead of sit, or take the stairs instead of the elevator, etc. etc. Try not to worry so much about what they are or are not doing, and focus on your own goals.

it irritates me when my weight loss is overshadowed by theirs because they're losing ten lbs a week compared to my 2 lbs a week.

There's nothing about this situation that you can control to change but the way you look at it. 2 lbs a week is fabulous, and at the end of the day, you're doing this for yourself. Stop comparing your results to their results because their circumstances are very different. I suspect you're feeling down on yourself or guilty or ashamed, or some other similar feeling, in the way that people that watch the Biggest Loser do. If you're not living at a resort with limited food options and tons of exercise equipment and motivators, don't expect yourself to lose what the people on tv lose. If you still have a fully functioning stomach, don't expect to lose what they do.

Take pride in what you do and be kind to yourself; you'll find yourself less irritated by the ways of others.

Without knowing her reasons, it's impossible to know why his mom parks in that spot, but people can take a very long time to change something that's habitual, whether that's a behavior or a way of seeing themselves. My guess is that someone who needed the surgery may not be as confident in her weight loss abilities as she may appear.

Just go on with your own loss at your own rate.

Listen - everyone's journey is different. Your boyfriend's mother may have some conditions that still justify her using the handicap spot even at the gym. It may also be force of habit. For some gastric bypass and other weight loss surgeries are the only way they can lose weight. However they also have to embrace that along with the counseling (usually at least a year's worth) that goes with it and the lifetime follow-ups. I know several people who have had it and some have done well while others look like the walking dead. One person I know actually gained weight and claims "it didn't work." Of course maybe it didn't work because she still eats the wrong foods and way too much of them - such as cookies, cakes, etc. When I asked her if they didn't tell her to stop that she said yes but they just taste too good to give up.

Losing weight and keeping it off is a lifetime commitment/job and we all know that but knowing and doing are two different things. You boyfriend's Dad's comments may seem hurtful but they probably aren't meant to be. He probably views weight loss as a competition and has a need to "win." Let him enjoy himself. Most weight loss surgery people lose a lot of weight at first and then hit a plateau that is worse than what the rest of us hit. Then comes the hard part.

The other thing to remember is that losing weight is a journey that you all are on. You each are taking a different road to achieve the same end goal. You could ask them if you could attend some of their counseling and/or support group meetings with them to encourage their goals. Who knows - you might gain some major insight into them.

Be supportive and in the back of your mind keep remembering the story of The Tortoise and the Hare. In the end they both crossed the finish line - and that really is all that mattered - not who got there first or who worked the hardest.

Just a suggestion on the parking conundrum. Would you feel comfortable issuing a "challenge"? For instance, "Let's get our warmup started early by walking further each day into the gym! First person to walk from the back of the lot to the gym without being winded wins."

It sounds corny even when I type it out, but maybe an offer of a mani/pedi to the winner to sweeten the pot. You could even say, "Could you let me out further to the back of the lot? I think I'll walk to get warmed up." Maybe before you know it, she'll be parking and walking with you. Especially if you highlight how wonderful that brisk walk was in easing your workout!

I sense your frustration and feeling overshadowed. Just remember it's new for them to lose weight and they are just excited about their success to date. There will be a day when all of you will be able to stand around saying, "Remember when I was so much larger?"

Hang in there and keep fighting the good fight. You're doing wonderfully!

1. Then don't do it.
2. I have had Gastric Bypass- You don't lose 10 lbs in a week doing nothing lmao, even with your insides rearranged. But he's a jack wagon for trying to outshine your accomplishment.
3. I have had no problems with my hair. I take 1 multivitamin, and If I wanted long hair- I would have it- My hair grew 3 freaking inches last month. Things I hate?? Paying 30+ dollars for a hair cut- and having it grow out super fast. Dumb!
4. Ask her why she parks in the handicap spot. If it bothers you- say it jokingly- but say "Why cant you walk?" Or just get over it. You are resenting them not out of jealousy- but because you feel they have it easier than you do.

These are really what I call Non issues. None of them are actually your problem. You obviously are doing great without the surgery, and you obviously don't want it, so why are you posting all this stuff against it? Resentment. Let. It. Go. Resentment is poison.

My doctor told me that I had to have surgery. I told her no. Nothing against others who have done it, but I want the satisfaction of doing it myself. In addition, if you don't solve the problems that got you to the point we are at, we will be there again.

My self esteem is damaged by being obese. It is all about being out of control. To me, surgery is giving up and making someone else responsible for you,

To me, all that surgery does is gets you is a mulligan. If you don't practice, all the mulligans in the world won't help.

Also, the complications and side affects are not minor and should not be taken lightly.

I can guarantee you there is nothing easy about weight loss surgery. I had lapband in 2011. I have to work just as hard as everyone else to lose weight. That means staying within calorie limits and incorporating regular exercise. There are ways to get around the band or the sleeve or the bypass.

I'm always amazed at how judegmental people are against those who have had weight loss surgery. It reminds me that people will find any way they can to make themselves feel better or superior over other people.

At the end of the day, you have to live your own life. And I suspect you'll be a lot happier with less stress when you stop focusing on others. Your accomplishments are your accomplishments. What someone else is doing doesn't have anything to do with your success. If you want to lose weight, then do it for yourself. Not everyone is going to pat you on the back every time you lose a pound. And your motiviation to keep losing shouldn't come from potential recognition from others. Your motivation should come from you wanting to change. There will always be someone having a better weightloss week than you whether they had surgery or not. That doesn't diminish the value of your accomplishment. Focus on you.