Fussy eater

I don't understand people who allegedly want to lose weight or eat healthy, but insist they must be able to do that on a diet of brownies, pasta, white rice, and milkshakes. Come on.

Vegetables are amazing, and how can you dislike every fruit? Seriously, as someone stated, there are many delicious fruits.

I tell you what annoys me, your two comments which are ridiculously unhelpful and very intimidating for a beginner, people have to start somewhere she's here and asking for help, so stop lurking/trolling and give some advice if you've got some.

I don't understand people who allegedly want to lose weight or eat healthy, but insist they must be able to do that on a diet of brownies, pasta, white rice, and milkshakes. Come on.

Vegetables are amazing, and how can you dislike every fruit? Seriously, as someone stated, there are many delicious fruits.

Well, to be honest, OP can lose weight eating only brownies, pasta, white rice and milkshakes, as long as she eats them in a calorie deficit.

I don't understand people who allegedly want to lose weight or eat healthy, but insist they must be able to do that on a diet of brownies, pasta, white rice, and milkshakes. Come on.

Vegetables are amazing, and how can you dislike every fruit? Seriously, as someone stated, there are many delicious fruits.

I tell you what annoys me, your two comments which are ridiculously unhelpful and very intimidating for a beginner, people have to start somewhere she's here and asking for help, so stop lurking/trolling and give some advice if you've got some.

Thank you for this - it's not great to get rude and unhelpful comments from people, especially when I'm someone with low confidence already!!

Your welcome, trust me you'll get some people with the whole tough love attitude on here (which I think is totally inappropriate and intimidating when you're finding your feet) they see it as a wake up call and don't realise they're being harmful in some cases as it is a huge lifestyle change, you don't need to be barked by a drill instructor day one. Just ignore the attitudes they mostly mean well but don't express themselves very sensitively or constructively.

How about walking for exercise.... have a friend or hubby walk with you. Do you like smoothies? Low fat yogurt and fruit is a great sweety without a lot of calories. I've beern to Leeds, loved it. You have better winter weather than we have here in PA,usa,but I love to walk out side. Doing an exercise class with mates might be fun. Hate to exercise at home alone. I do ride my exerbike while I watch tv in the evening... I forget im moving my legs... i get so caught up in the show! I just kep going. Then when the adverts come on I pedal faster till they are over.

Don't be discouraged...best of luck.

Excuses will get you exactly where they should .. no where. Excuses are not acceptable if you are really serious.

Money .. sorry not a valid excuse. You don't need a gym membership to be successful.

I assume you have 2 legs .. use them. Go for a walk. No one ever got fat walking. It is great exercise.

Re your fussy eating thing .. well sorry, unless the food makes you physically sick (which I doubt), you need to eat more fruit and veggies. They are good for you .. and soon you will love them.

I wasn't very fit 4-5 months ago when I started but have made very good progress .. you can too, as long as you don't continue to accept the excuses.

Good luck.

Thank you Ninkyou for your reply. It doesn't sound harsh at all, more realistic!

With regards to having a walk at work, I don't have a lunch break as when I went back after maternity leave I didn't incorporate this into my working day - I work 9am-2pm three days a week, 9am-3pm and 9am-1pm the other two days (mon-fri). Once I finish work I have to, some days, rush to my car to go and fetch my son. Certainly if & when we get some better (drier) weather I will try to take my son to the park more often, at the moment here it's so wet all the time! Other than that I ought to really get the 2 games out that I've got and use them as exercise as well.

With all due respect; you have to take responsibility for your life. I read a lot of " I'll aim to ", or as in this post " I'll try to ", which is not a good attitude for an adult woman with a child to have.
What would keep you to walk, or go to the park with your son....I think only you.
Why can't you make up your mind and say " yes, I will find half a dozen of veggies I can eat ", or " yes I will do something with my son three times from Mon-Fri and at least once a weekend ".
I know from my own experience that when I say " maybe ", or " I'll try " that 98% of the time it won't happen. I also think that in that I am not an exception. I now make decisions ( like walking 45 minutes at least five times a week ) and when I stick to them for a given time, I reward myself. These days it's audio books ( which I get from free websites ), so I am not bored when walking....and you know what ? It works !

Exercise-wise, having a concrete goal to get you up and moving can be helpful. If I'm not mistaken, Worcester Race for Life is on the 6th July. You have more than enough time between now and then to be able to do a couch to 5k programme to be able to cover the distance - start by building up walking, and work up to jogging/running. (And I know you've said it's raining a lot at the moment - that's true, but it's OK to get rained on; you just come home and change.) I'm not surprised you're feeling breathless and generally run down at the moment since you're physically carrying around a fair bit of extra weight, and your mood sounds pretty low, too - but I think you'll find that if you get some exercise into your daily routine, you'll start to feel a lot better about life.

I'm the exact opposite. Other than kidneys and celeriac/celery I will eat pretty much anything. Which is why I'm here :laugh:

I'd start on something small, rather than trying everything at once, it can be overwhelming. I started by quitting smoking, then reducing alcohol significantly and then I started gentle exercise before moving on to my diet.

For the exercise, I got DVDs and exercise books from the library. I'm also on a tight budget, and was too self concious to join a gym at the time. If you would like to join a gym or start a class at some point, the local leisure centre and the library are good places to check and are much more reasonbly priced than other places. The leisure centre and the library near me offer reduced rates for memberships/ free swimming/DVD rentals if you are on certain benefits, not all of which depend on income (carer's allowance, disability living allowance, for example) and I swim for free. I go to a gym attached to a college near work, I get an NHS discount and it costs £12.99 a month. I used to spend more than that a week on *kitten*.

Trying a greater variety of fruits and veggies may help and trying them more than once (it took me years to accept mushrooms into my life), which isn't easy this time of year as some of the more interesting stuff is tasteless and expensive. For veg, you could chop them into very small bits and add to food you do like, as a start off. You could try preparing it in different ways too - baked fruit, veg curry etc. Again, the library is great for cookbooks and you can always check what's popular/easy on Amazon and then reserve it at the library.

Taking some time out besides your singing, if possible, may also be helpful, it's not easy when you have a child, but being kind to yourself and giving yourself non-food treats makes things better. Being defeatist comes with the territory of low self esteem, but I can say from personal experience, becoming physically healthy has made a vast improvement to my mental health. It has not been a cure all, but if you told me 2 years ago how much better swimming would make me feel, I wouldn't have believed you.

Good luck, hope you stick around.