How Do You Parents Of Young Kids Do It?

I'm 90-ish lbs overweight. Have a 2+ year old (26 months) and a 8 month old. Also work FT.

How do you exercise? Eat right? The evil word, diet? How do you take care of yourself AND your family?

I'm stumped!
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  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    I'd say don't make it more complex than it needs to be. With your plateful, you probably get plenty of activity, especially if you play with your kids and your job isn't all stuck to a desk.

    If weight is an issue, try to make small changes that add up to less calories and try to eat a good mix of food groups in proper portions. In some ways it's easier with kids. They need you to set an example, and fix healthy meals for them.

    Also, batch cook/prep on the weekend.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Well, you have to eat no matter what, but you have a choice over what you put in your mouth and how much. It doesn't take longer to pepare and eat something healthy and low-cal than it does to prepare and eat something that isn't such a great choice.

    As for the exercise, make time for it. Leave the kids with Dad for an hour and go for a walk or to the gym.
  • gmoneycole
    gmoneycole Posts: 813 Member
    Good advice. Keep it as simple as you can and just get all the good habits into your day. Patience helps too.
  • Mr_Knight
    Mr_Knight Posts: 9,532 Member
    If I can't eat right, it means my kids have no chance of eating right. If I don't set a fit, active example, my kids have very little chance of learning fit/active habits.

    No, it's not easy. But it's just something that I consider has to be done, and I don't allow myself excuses.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    I have 4 kids and I make it work. It isn't easy but I have my boyfriend's help. I also don't make it harder than I need it to be. I eat the same things, just less of it. I also move more and go to the gym when I can fit it in.
  • aquiva33
    aquiva33 Posts: 85 Member
    My children are a little older now, but I introduced fruits and veggies early so now that I'm eating healthier they are too. And they don't put up a fight. Acutually the things that I think they won't eat are the things they demolish. Make healthy meals for the whole family to eat . It can't hurt.
  • BamaBreezeNSaltAire
    BamaBreezeNSaltAire Posts: 966 Member
    You make your mind up to do it. It's hard, I have a now 3 year old and a soon to be 12 year, work an hour away from home full time and my two kids are 2 worlds apart in their phase of life. I work out at least 30 minutes a day, and some times I use my kids as weights, it gets them involved and helps me keep an eye on them. 70% mind over matter, the other 30% is easy. Start with small changes, and find what works for you. Then before you know it, all those small changes will add up to big changes with big rewards! Congrats on making the first step!
  • Lacey_Cakes
    Lacey_Cakes Posts: 223 Member
    I have an insane 1 1/2 year old so I usually wait until she is tired and getting comfy on the couch or I work out right after she eats breakfast or lunch and have her watch some pbs so I can get my workout in. As for dieting I make my daughter her normal meals and my husband and I have healthy meals. I make a lot of food but clean(ish) and lowered calorie. The trick is to make healthy food taste good. Spices, a little extra cheese on their plates. Once you get into the groove it becomes pretty easy to do this whole health thing with a family.
  • cathipa
    cathipa Posts: 2,991 Member
    Been in your shoes before. I used every excuse I could find, but the pounds never came off. MFP helps control my calorie intake. I have to make myself get up and workout if I want to do it uninterrupted, but now that my kids are a bit older than yours they will sometimes work out with me:) When the weather is nice we are always out side. When it's day light longer I like to get up before everyone and go for a run/walk (heavy on the walk). As far as meals I love the crockpot and Skinny Ms. is a great website for recipes. If I make spaghetti I just use extra lean beef and they can have noodles, but usually I'm having zucchini noodles. Soups and salad nights area a fave at my house as well and then kids will have left overs or breakfast dinners. It took a while to figure it out, but don't worry you will get there!!!
  • JDubIsShrinking
    JDubIsShrinking Posts: 207 Member
    Hi! Two kids here (ages 2 and 4), married, and working full time.

    It dosen't have to be difficult - make yourself a priority. PERIOD.
    Slowly make healthier food choices, and try to incorporate them with all family members. I've been at this since August, and now my kids are requesting things like green peppers, protein shakes, and mint tea with stevia. No joke!
    It's so easy to get roped into the taking-care-of-everyone role, but make this a priority in your life, and all will fall into place!
  • _zombiegirl_
    _zombiegirl_ Posts: 79 Member
    I have a 3-year-old girl and Daddy and I both work full-time, opposite shifts. Daddy is kind of a junk food junkie... he is anti-vegetable and there's no way I can change him. But what I eat, my daughter also eats... she loves her veggies! Give her some cucumber slices and she's a happy girl. :) For me, it is not a diet, it's a lifestyle change, and I want her to pick up on healthy habits. That way, when she's my age, it's 'normal' to her... not a struggle to undo 30+ years of self-inflicted sabotage like I am :)

    I work out at home. I get up (most days) at 5 AM, before she is up and before her dad gets home, to do my workout. But she LOVES to jump in with me... Half the time she asks me, "Mommy, can we exercise now?" I have my own little personal trainer right at home :)

    I say make it a family affair! Riding bikes, playing at the park, running around the house, snowball fights, Dad's a "horsey," etc., etc... it's all physical activity, gets you off the couch and interacting with each other. Exercise doesn't have to be boring, work, or a chore.

    Good luck to you!!
  • I'm still trying to figure out the same thing. We have one 16 month old. In the last months of my wife's pregnancy and then the first 6 or 8 months with our daughter, I was in this implicit crisis mode. I would set aside things like eating well and working out because I'm busy, but soon it will get better. I've come to the realization that it's not actually going to get better. You get through one phase and then there is something else. In a couple years, there will be another one and hit the reset button. Things are not going to get easier for 10's of years. Once you realize that, you realize you can't handle this as a short term thing where life will return to normal.

    First, I think there is just less margin for error. Your children take hours per day. If you were already living a super full and busy lifestyle, then you don't have that margin to give to your children. Something has to give. Give up some volunteer activity. Give up a hobby. Probably something has to be sacrificed. You also just have to be efficient. I seriously spent time analyzing what I did during typical days. Made some lists. Figured out how much time I was spending on tasks, projects, and entertainment. I worked on cutting minutes here and there to get some of that time back. I also gave up my volunteer time with dog rescue and cut back on neighborhood association work. I'm more careful about work/life balance.

    After multiple failures with weight loss, I've started to structure my life more around my daughter's schedule. I've also started to make compromises on what I used to consider a good workout and a good meal. I used to consider a good workout a 40 mile bike ride or 90 minutes at the gym. If I couldn't do a good workout, I really didn't bother with it. I just can't do that on a regular basis anymore. That's a luxury I will get to experience 2 or 3 times in a month, not 2 or 3 times a week. I'm learning to accept shorter workouts at home. That 40 mile bike ride would be 2-2.5 hours on a bike plus 30 minutes for dress, setup, and shower. That 90 minutes at the gym was also an extra 30 minutes for driving, changing, and shower. I just started P90 and do it in the morning before shower and breakfast. It's 30 minutes a day with pretty much no additional overhead. The sacrifice is getting up 45 minutes earlier.

    Same thing with food. Prior to baby, it wasn't a big deal to have 1 hour for prep and cleanup for dinner. If we couldn't bother with doing it right, we would eat out or eat some frozen thing with a lot of sodium and fat and whatnot. Like a frozen pizza. Or we would throw together some spaghetti. Or eat out. Those backup options became the bulk of our eating. We've been trying to find low calorie and healthy options that we can prep in about 20 minutes with less cleanup time. Lots of reading and thumbing through recipe books.

    To be fair, I just started. I may have no idea how to do this.
  • ElliottTN
    ElliottTN Posts: 1,614 Member
    time management, strictly enforced routines and schedules, realizing that just because you don't FEEL like doing it doesn't mean you shouldn't.
  • soni_me
    soni_me Posts: 95 Member
    I have to get up before everyone in the AM and exercise. I had to stop eating what the kids left and leave on their plates, buy healthy snacks (for when there's really no time for me to eat), an do a little pre-planning for meals (I eat different things than hubby and kids, a lot of times). It takes ALOT of determination to stay motivated when the kids are s young. I really had to get in the mode of thinking that I'm worth the effort as is my health :-)!
  • kebates09
    kebates09 Posts: 1 Member
    Make meals ahead of time, so that when time is tight you don't have to think of what to eat and make it. Cook in bulk. Grill a bunch of chicken and freeze it. Cut up all your fruits and veggies so they are ready to go.

    As for exercise, it's hard, and you have to make time. FOr my, my husband knows how important it is for me to go to my class 3 nights a week, so he is home with our son and gets him to bed, so I can go. I feel guilty that he has a rough time of day (evening/bed time) but I know its what I need to do for now.
  • Bianca42
    Bianca42 Posts: 310 Member
    I'm not going to lie...it's exhausting.

    I do a bunch of meal planning on the weekend. I try to make things that everyone will eat or that have shared components...but the kids/hubby are picky. For example tonight is fish sticks and tater tots for the kids, a piece of haddock and tots for hubby and haddock with a sweet potato for me. Sometimes I'll cook a couple different types of pasta. Or I'll do hamburgers for everyone else and a veggie burger for me. We all still sit down together and eat.

    My youngest is nearly 4, so exercise has gotten easier. It's at home workout videos and the 4 year old gets to play with my extra weights/stretch bands ONLY while I'm exercising...so it's new and exciting. I've found that I can only squeeze in 30 minutes. Anything more than that is just too hard.

    My oldest is nearly 9, and he's started doing some of the workouts with me. He also asks all kinds of questions about food and while he loves his sweets and junk food, he is starting to recognize and enjoy healthier food.
  • paultireland
    paultireland Posts: 285 Member
    I'm 140 lbs overweight and I'm the dad of a 6 year old, plus I work 9-10 hours a day and have an hour and a half commute each way to work, then get home and help her with her homework and put her to bed. When I figure out how to do it, I'll let you know.
  • maddogg82
    maddogg82 Posts: 159 Member
    Good advice. Keep it as simple as you can and just get all the good habits into your day. Patience helps too.

    THIS!!! ... i have a 6 Y/O and a 2 Y/O and I have to make sure they get their exercise in too. Some times i feel bad because i dont want to go out for walks with them because i dont feel like im getting the work out i need but i have to remember that they need to stay healthy too... So I basically end up running the house on schedule and if it gets messed up.. i cant stress about it. Tomorrow is another day.
  • amber_michelle30
    amber_michelle30 Posts: 108 Member
    I have a 8 yr old and 4 yr old. I work full time, school part time, work out as much as possible, and eat healthy. I just think of it as setting a good example for my children.
    But you also have to want it, if you don't want it bad enough you will find a million excuses not to do it. No one has the extra hour or so to get it done, you just make the time to do it.
  • liesevanlingen
    liesevanlingen Posts: 508 Member
    As a mother of four young children, (one with multiple health problems) who also works part time, the only answer is you have to want it badly enough. I make time for me, because I NEED it. My workouts are my only "me" time and I value them highly. If that means getting up at 5:30 so I can work out before tackling my other responsibilities, so be it. it does get easier the longer you stick with it.
  • BeckyGee84
    BeckyGee84 Posts: 124 Member
    I don't work outside the home but I have a (almost) 3 year old and 4 month old. On days like today when my bf works overtime, it's really hard to get in a full workout all at once because both kids rarely nap at the same time for a long period of time. I'll usually divide up my workouts. I'll do maybe 30 minutes of cardio when the younger one naps and try to get in 30 minutes of weightlifting when they both nap. When I worked when my son was younger, I made bf watch him while I exercised after work. Make sure to do it right when you get home. If you wait, you might not feel like it! As for food, I would make a large quantity of a healthy food like soup, brown pasta or "naked" burrito and eat that all week. It might get tiring eating the same thing every day but at least you don't have to make something every night for your lunch the next day. And you can portion out your meals so you know exactly how many calories you're getting. Ignore the vending machines and bring your own healthy snacks (fruits, veggies or even 100 calorie packs) and drinks. All of it takes a little planning but it can be done! Just don't think of it as a diet, but a lifestyle change.
  • _Calypso_
    _Calypso_ Posts: 1,074 Member
    You have to schedule time. Just like any other appointment in your life. Schedule a 30-60 min workout. For me, I have to wake up early. If I try and wait till I get home from work, I feel rushed and don't feel I get a quality workout. I get up before the kids and get a good workout in the quiet of the house.

    Also, find ways to use your kids as part of your workout. So many things you can do - especially with the 8mo old. Squats, bench press, etc.

    i used to play "Monsters" with my kids in which they'd stand on my bed and run at me. I'd grab them and toss them back on the bed. They thought it was hilarious, but it was akiller workout!!

    It can be done!!! You have to want it. Don't use mommyhood as an excuse!!!
  • DWW529
    DWW529 Posts: 42 Member
    Make time for yourself to exercise. It's there, you just have to find it. Doesn't matter what it is, find something you like and roll with it. Play with them. Go to the back yard, a park, whatever. As the kids get older, it gets easier. My 8 yr old runs 5K's with me. We have a blast.

    I have a different POV when it comes to food. I don't deny them "treats", they still get McDonald's about once a month but we talk about good food choices. We have healthy snacks in the house. I'm amazed at how they well they do on thier own. They've seen me struggle with my weight, I've told them why and they want to be "healthy and strong like Dad". They're great motivators.
  • Swissmiss
    Swissmiss Posts: 8,754 Member
    You need to schedule time for yourself. If you do this you will find that you are an even better mom. You will have energy to play and commune with your children. You will find that when you plan for yourself and get healthier you will somehow have the time for other things.
  • csmccord
    csmccord Posts: 272 Member
    My wife and I have a 3 year old with lots of energy. We both work full time, my wife even has a 1+ hr commute each way. You'll find my wife out the door by 5:30, and I'm out the door with my daughter by 6:30. We don't get home until about 6:30. There are two big things that help us out:

    1. Planning - We grocery shop on Saturday, and that's it. We take part of our Friday evening after the little one is in bed, and we plan our meals for the week. We generally decide on 3 meals, then make the list based upon those, along with the typical stuff for lunches, breakfasts, snacks, etc. Then we tend to do all the cooking on the weekends. We'll cook a dinner on Saturday, and Sunday, then sometimes prepare the third one ahead of time, then cook it on the actual weeknight we have it. We then have the leftovers the other nights of the week. Slow cookers are always a good option, along with casseroles or soups. This keeps us out of the store for mid-week purchases, and allows us to have a busy schedule during the week. By the time we get home and have dinner it's almost bedtime for the little one.

    2. Exercise - We have a gym membership at Sport & Health, which allows us to work out, while our daughter is in the kid's club. Yes, it's basically another hour of daycare for her, but she seems to enjoy it. She never has a problem with me dropping her off there, and always seems happy while there. Yes, we do feel guilty for leaving her in somebody else's care for another hour, but we do have to make time for ourselves too.

    The first point is probably the most important one. You can lose weight without exercise. It's about calories in, calories out. If you eat less than you burn on a consistent basis, you'll lose weight. Exercising gives you greater flexibility as you can eat the calories your "earned" as well. I typically don't eat my exercise calories. So, my wife and I plan out our meals. No, we don't say we'll eat a specific meal on a specific day, but we plan them out for the week as a whole, then chose what we feel like each night.
  • MacMomma2013
    MacMomma2013 Posts: 128 Member
    I schedule my exercise like I do any other appointment and stick to it. I am also very fortunate to have a stationary bike in our living room, so I will jump on the bike while my LOs are watching tv and colouring.

    When making DD's lunch for the next day, I make mine at the same time and we talk about healthy eating and what kinds of good snacks we can put in our lunches. The same DD will sometime scome with me when I work out in the basement and will do some light "weights" and do some stetching with me.

    For me, it's all about making your schedule (and life) work for you and not against you.

    Hope this helps!
  • PennyM140
    PennyM140 Posts: 423 Member
    My son will be 4 in April. I work full time and spend as much time with him as I can. Occasionally I try to get up early and go to the gym but usually it is such a hassle that I don't bother.

    When my son was younger and would ride in the stroller we took long walks, particularly on the weekend but some evenings too. He enjoyed being outside and I got some exercise. Now that he is bigger he will sometimes walk with me 1/2 mile to a mile. Hoping to get him riding his bicycle soon so I can run along with him.

    So basically I have just adapted to whatever he can do at the time and made it work for me.

    ETA: Forgot about food. I want my son to eat as healthy as possible so I cook things that we both should eat. Lots of veggies. Fruits, different proteins. Because of that my son is not a very picky eater. He has his favorites, but I can get him to try just about anything.
  • hwagaman
    hwagaman Posts: 3 Member
    I also work FT and have three small children of my own (5, 3 y/o twins).

    Its exhausting, but this is what we do :

    1. Very strict schedules for meals, naps and bedtimes. Kids thrive on routine.
    2. My gym time is after the kids go to bed. Many days its the last thing I want to do, but you never regret it.
    3. Meal plan every single meal the Saturday before the week begins. Also, I often prep the next days dinner the night before so making dinner goes much faster when I get home from work.
    4. Only buy healthy snacks for the kids. That way, if they are begging for food 30 minutes for dinner you know they are getting their nutrients. And you wont be tempted to snack on unhealthy things if they are not around.

    Good luck to you!
  • Sunflwer3
    Sunflwer3 Posts: 68 Member
    You sacrifice for your own sake. After the little one is in bed I then spend time making my food for the next day. I have the next day logged on MFP before I go to bed. It's hard to get into the swing at first, but now it is second nature and my husband helps. I too work full time and use my lunch break as an opportunity to get in more exercise (sometimes I use it to go grocery shopping). Start small and it will all come together. My son goes to bed at 7:30 and we go to bed at 9:30 so we've learned to spend our evening talking usually while in the kitchen making meals/lunches and to be honest we like it. Don't get me wrong, some days I just want to put our little guy to bed and go sit on the couch, but that's okay sometimes. That's what string cheese, fiber one bars and lean cuisines are for! I also get up 45 minutes before my hubby to work out and get some me time :)