How do you manage to fit it all in?!

Don't feel guilty for wanting to make a healthy change in your life. It will give you SO many more Enjoyable years with your husband! And we need to make time for ourselves!

As to fitting it all in, it does seem overwhelming at times but the key is to make the time for YOU. You will be so much happier and healthier for it. If nighttime exercise doesn't work, try morning workouts. If mornings are tough, fit it in during your lunch break. I have a desk job and I try to at least get up and move around every hour, whether it is taking the long way around the office to get some paperwork or walking to an office to ask the question instead of picking up the phone. Every little step you make is a change for the better. Start small and then it won't feel so unachievable.

Good luck to you!

I am also married, no children, with a husband that is not interested in exercising. I also have a demanding job that is rarely less than 50 hours a week (plus commuting time). I suggest you have an upfront discussion with your husband about your fitness goals, and what it is going to take - maybe he can help with making dinner a couple of nights a week.

You said it in your post: you have to MAKE the time to exercise. I walk at lunch time 2-3 times a week. I go to the gym after work 2-3 times a week. I run, or play tennis, or go to the gym, or walk, or go to yoga, or (you get the point) Sat and Sun. If you are a morning person, consider getting up earlier to work out then, or go into your job a little earlier to free up time in the evening or at lunch.

There is no free time sitting around waiting for you, you have to make it. If you consider your fitness goals as part of your normal life obligations (like cooking dinner) you will make time.

Don't try to do too much all at one. I started by walking 1-2 days a week for 15-20 minutes at lunch, and going to the gym for 30-45 minutes after work (have a snack first!). See what works for you. You may find you want to do more, and then you make more time for it.

Hang in there!

(full disclosure, I am currently between jobs, and am working out much more than I was, but I did this routine for well over 2.5 years, and expect to do it again once I find my next gig).

If you want something bad enough, you'll make the time for it.

Damn I thought this was about something else... *exits thread and retrieves mind out of gutter*

LOL

I work full time, have my son (he's 19 but he is still a child), my husband, pets, a 4br house, a huge yard with a garden, tonnes of flowers, my friends, my family (24 of them) and I am wore out on the weekends too...

I still make time to exercise while my husband zombies himself in front of his game...or TV. He is a power engineer and works hard 12 hour shifts...

That to me...sitting beside my husband on the couch watching tv is not quality time.

He doesn't workout either.

I made myself a priority end of discussion.

Not sure why you feel guilt? does you husband for vegging after a short 8 hour day??? doubtful.

Sounds more like an excuse to me. My life is as busy if not busier then a lot of other people and I still manage to make that time for me...you either want it or you don't...

I had that issue when I first started this about 3 years ago. My solution is that I workout in the morning before work. Yea, it sucks getting up so early, but when I come home from work, I have the time to spend with him. You get used to it after awhile. He also has a demanding job, so he's not a fan of the gym, although he does have a membership. He comes a couple times a week if he doesn't have to up for work super early. BUT- just talk with him. You deserve time to make yourself better and to get healthy for you. When it's nicer outside, we'll take walks on the weekends- you get some activity in, plus you're spending time together. Or, have him help prepare dinner if you'd rather go to the gym after work. I'll have my guy grill up some chicken while I'm at the gym and I'll prepare the sides when I get home so dinner's done quickly. You just have to get wise with your time- you'll figure it out if this is something that really is important to you. Good luck

All the replies are correct-"You have to make the time yourself." Why can't your husband make dinner 1-2 nights a week. Or let him know that before you start dinner you are going to take a 15-20 minute walk. IF you do that a few days a week it will help motivate you. I get up at 5:00am and workout either at home or at the gym. Again I make the time. My husband is not a morning person so it works pout perfectly for me. But when night comes I am ready to take a break.

Do you really want to exercise? I ask this because I'm married, two older kids, work full time and have an hour commute each way to work and by the time I get home, make dinner and clean up I have no desire what so ever to exercise. It's not so much guilt as it is lack of motivation. I just don't seem to have the drive right now to exercise, it's just easier to cut calories and lose weight that way. I do walk on my lunch hours which is the time of day I have energy, so I would suggest trying something like that if you are concerned about quality time with your husband.

Any chance your husband would like to go for walks after dinner? That would be a great way to get exercise and spend time together.

I combine quality time with my husband with my shower.

And I combine my social life with my workouts. It seems I rarely see my friends in regular no workout clothes these days.

That's what she said.

Silicone > Water based

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What do you feel guilty about?

How do I fit it all in?

I live with my boyfriend. We have animals, but no children. We have demanding, guilt tripping mothers who enjoy our time on the weekends. We have many friends who enjoy our company. We both work full time. We have our household duties.

When I decided to commit myself to change, I knew I would have to make sacrifices. I tried working out after work. It didn't work out for me. It was too easy to be distracted at home, too easy to say "I had such a long stressful day," too easy to just want to curl up on the sofa with my manpiece and cuddle. I tried working out on weekends. It didn't work out for me. Social functions, family functions, sleeping in, the only real time I have to clean... just too many excuses to choose from.

So I was left with one more option. Early mornings. How do I fit it in? I wake up at 4:30 AM M/W/F and 5:15 AM on T/TH. I am at the gym as soon as it opens. On T/TH, I work out at home, in the quiet dark early morning when there are no distractions.

Was it hard to get used to? Hell yes. Does it suck sometimes when I have to go to sleep at 10:15? Sure, sometimes. But my life is much better now. I feel better. I feel happier. It's worth it.

Also on weekends I try to do fun active things like rock climbing or hiking, or rowing, or bowling. Bonus points!

First you have to be gentle. You have to ease it in and make sure it's working for you, test the waters careful not to take too much at first. Next you start to move, slowly easing it in so as not to overwhelm and blow too quickly. Finally you pick up speed, fitting it all in will become smoother, easier to handle. The satisfation will keep you coming back for more.