Commenting on a persons weight loss.
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Im just wondering why its so hard for certain people to take the time to congratulate someone on changes that they have made for the better. Does it just come down to the fact that some people just won't ever say nice things to certain people, no matter how many times other people do? To me the attitude these people give off is " No matter how many people notice your weight loss, and no matter how good they say you look, Im not gonna give you the satisfaction of hearing it from me."
I dont need anyones congratulations.0 -
Are we really still having this conversation? LOL0
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this is so embarrassing to read. I didn't know people like this existed.
I am surprised someone would openly admit this as a hang up. :noway:
Not all people are going to like you. Some people can't stand you. You just have to set your ego aside, focus on the positive people, the ones who DO appreciate you, and overlook the rest. Pretty simple, really.0 -
this is so embarrassing to read. I didn't know people like this existed.
I am surprised someone would openly admit this as a hang up. :noway:
Not all people are going to like you. Some people can't stand you. You just have to set your ego aside, focus on the positive people, the ones who DO appreciate you, and overlook the rest. Pretty simple, really.
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this is so embarrassing to read. I didn't know people like this existed.
SO why do you continue to read this thread then?
Because I am waiting for the "Bazinga"...there just HAS to be one coming0 -
You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?0 -
this is so embarrassing to read. I didn't know people like this existed.
SO why do you continue to read this thread then?
Because I am waiting for the "Bazinga"...there just HAS to be one coming
Yes ^^ page 6 and still no Gifs?!0 -
You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.0 -
this is so embarrassing to read. I didn't know people like this existed.
SO why do you continue to read this thread then?
Because I am waiting for the "Bazinga"...there just HAS to be one coming
Yes ^^ page 6 and still no Gifs?!
This thread:
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this is so embarrassing to read. I didn't know people like this existed.
SO why do you continue to read this thread then?
Because I am waiting for the "Bazinga"...there just HAS to be one coming
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That's it. Next family get together I will make it my goal to relentlessly compliment everyone to ensure no butt hurts. It'll be so much love and compassion, it'll be creepy.0
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You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
Do you realize that you sound fairly miserable yourself?0 -
You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
Do you realize that you sound fairly miserable yourself?
Also sounds like a real you know what...0 -
It sounds like you've known them for a long time, they're apparently friends you keep in your life. Over time they've liked you when you were heavier and they like you now...they care about you.... they don't care how much you weigh. Seems like a genuine friend to me.0
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I didn't read all the comments, but isn't it actually considered rude to comment on someone's weight, regardless? I'm talking Emily Post here...I mean, I guess someone could and should say a generic "you look fantastic", but I thought in terms of manners you aren't supposed to never comment on someone's weight?0
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You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
You want compliments from people that even YOU don't appear to respect? WHY on earth would their opinion matter if that's how you really feel? Their opinion is their business, not yours.
This is going to sound really awful, and I'm sorry, but it appears to me that maybe they don't want to congratulate you, because you're already self-centered enough.
I could be wrong, but this post really says, "The world revolves around me." You would be much happier if you worked on that with yourself, if that's the case.
Best of luck to you.0 -
Because of this..........
I was raised to always be happy for others if I notice them doing positive things. If I see a person make changes in their life for the better, I tell them about it and say Its really nice. I was raised to treat others the way you want to be treated.
The only reasonable explanation that people would not say anything who know you and know you are proud of your accomplishments , is childish behavior. Im not better than anyone else so why would they be jealous of my weight loss? What in the world?
Some people just can't ever be happy for anyone. That is true.
I think you are being somewhat unreasonable here. They might just not like you. That does happen sometimes. I wouldn't expect someone that I know doesn't like me to give me compliments. Isn't succeeding enough?0 -
You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
You want compliments from people that even YOU don't appear to respect? WHY on earth would their opinion matter if that's how you really feel? Their opinion is their business, not yours.
This is going to sound really awful, and I'm sorry, but it appears to me that maybe they don't want to congratulate you, because you're already self-centered enough.
I could be wrong, but this post really says, "The world revolves around me." You would be much happier if you worked on that with yourself, if that's the case.
Best of luck to you.
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You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
WHO FREAKIN CARES???? Good grief man. Get a grip. Just about every single person in this thread has told you the same thing and you refuse to listen. It's their life to live as they choose. There is not one darn thing you can say to them to make them change so quit worrying about everyone else and whether or not they blow sunshine and rainbows and unicorn snot up your poop chute. Either (A) they didn't notice (B) they didn't care or (C) they don't like you. I know which one of those options I'm voting for.0 -
You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
WHO FREAKIN CARES???? Good grief man. Get a grip. Just about every single person in this thread has told you the same thing and you refuse to listen. It's their life to live as they choose. There is not one darn thing you can say to them to make them change so quit worrying about everyone else and whether or not they blow sunshine and rainbows and unicorn snot up your poop chute. Either (A) they didn't notice (B) they didn't care or (C) they don't like you. I know which one of those options I'm voting for.
I "C" what you did there, lol0 -
D. All of the above0
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Recent thread on awkward comments re: weight, and here's what I said:
Complimented an old HS buddy on looking terrific. He'd lost a lot of weight & was looking (even in retrospect) healthy and happy. We missed catching up (non-romantically), and three months later, he was dead. The weight loss was due to brain cancer treatments.
On that thread alone, there were 2 other people who had similar experiences. So, no. I'm not really inclined to gush about someone's weight loss, and it's not because I haven't noticed or don't care. On MFP however, I feel quite confident complimenting complete strangers on their success, because I know what their goal was.
Additionally, I find it both sad and disturbing that so many people seem to immediately reach for ugly/negative motives. "Won't take the time" "don't care enough" "jealous" "haters" "trying to sabotage."
Lose weight for YOU. Be genuinely positive. If you do those two things, then you'll find positive energy in the people around you. Because someone who really *doesn't* care or is jealous? Won't stick around a genuinely happy person.
Congratulations on your weightloss success.0 -
Not everyone has the same priority and focus as ourselves. Weight loss might be important for us, but not to everybody else. Get over with it and move on, unless someone actually insults you.:drinker:0
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You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
WHO FREAKIN CARES???? Good grief man. Get a grip. Just about every single person in this thread has told you the same thing and you refuse to listen. It's their life to live as they choose. There is not one darn thing you can say to them to make them change so quit worrying about everyone else and whether or not they blow sunshine and rainbows and unicorn snot up your poop chute. Either (A) they didn't notice (B) they didn't care or (C) they don't like you. I know which one of those options I'm voting for.
I "C" what you did there, lol
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You have to be careful with this.
My mother suffers with bulimia. She is simply encouraged by people that tell her she looks good. Shes spent her life in and out of hospital and although she is pretty much recovered she now goes to the gym every day for 3 hours straight instead. She also drinks heavily to stop herself from eating to much.
this started when she was younger when people would tell her she looked great for losing weight. so yeah if someone is obese and gets down to a decent weight or if they look healthy still go for it tell them they look good but keep an eye on your friends to make sure they arnt losing too much.0 -
You know the more I think about it, these people never have said a nice thing about anyone except maybe their husband or parents.
If that is true...why would you expect them to change just for you?
I guess it just comes down to me not understanding how anyone could live their life so miserably and being such a you know what.
not caring about you doesn't mean they're living their life miserably.
You sound like your success demands compliments from people. That's not a good mentality about it.0 -
some people don't impress easily, maybe X pounds lost to someone isn't that noteworthy.
You lost 93 pounds. If someone that knew you didn't comment, what would your reaction be? Do you understand how great 93 pounds is? That is amazing.
I have lost almost 60lbs and have gone from size 14 jeans to wearing size 2s. I have a friend who's only comment about my weight loss has been that I'm now too skinny. That's on her and doesn't affect me at all because I lost the weight to be healthy for myself and my family. I saw several relatives at Christmas that I see once a year. NONE of them said anything about my weight loss (they did keep staring at me the whole night though lol), and that was fine by me. I know I look good, I know I'm healthy and I know my husband can't keep his hands off of me Really, that's what matters to me. Everyone else out there, whatever. 0 -
Op if your entire self worth is based on the fact that 1 person didnt comment on you instead of focusing on the people that 9 that did, you are not going to get very far in the world.0
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I don't think it is ever appropriate to comment on an individual's weight loss unless they have shared details of their "journey" with you. (Wow ... that word is a cliche.) Unless someone has made it public knowledge that they are working hard and trying to better their lives by losing weight, I would never make a comment. Unfortunately, I learned this lesson the hard way after complimenting someone (that had once been a friend, though I hadn't touched base with her in a few years) that later died from the illness that caused her weight loss.
l am the first to compliment anyone that has expressed, either personally or in some type of public forum (usually facebook), that they are working really hard and are proud of their accomplishments. They've indicated that they want to make their struggles and accomplishments either my business, or the business of everyone around them.
If someone I knew from my past commented on my weight loss, I would be embarrassed because it would mean that they had noticed the twenty pounds I've gained in the last few years (and am subsequently working on losing) that I tried so hard to hide.0 -
some people don't impress easily, maybe X pounds lost to someone isn't that noteworthy.
You lost 93 pounds. If someone that knew you didn't comment, what would your reaction be? Do you understand how great 93 pounds is? That is amazing.
I have lost almost 60lbs and have gone from size 14 jeans to wearing size 2s. I have a friend (overweight), who's only comment about my weight loss has been that I'm now too skinny. That's on her and does'nt affect me at all because I lost the weight to be healthy for myself and my family. I saw several relatives at Christmas that I see once a year. NONE of them said anything about my weight loss and that was fine by me. I know I look good, I know I'm healthy and I know my husband can't keep his hands off of me. Really, that's what matters to me. Everyone else out there, whatever.
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