HELP

When I started to eat right and I wanted one piece of candy or anything not healthy, my stomach hated me for it. My problem was/is I don't know how to slow down and stop. I'll grab a handful of something and eat them and then go back and get some more. Moderation is something I'm having to work on. I've noticed that once I've been eating like I should, I crave less and less sweets. I've read on here where people have used a spoon of peanut butter to set that craving off if they have the calories for it. What helps me is eating a fiber bar. I like the Fiber One bars and the Great Value brand from Walmart. I get the ones with chocolate and it pretty much helps subside the desire.

I understand what you are saying, but you don't have to lose weight for you to feel good on your wedding day. I'm 21 and my wedding is 7 months away (June 4th, 2011)...My fiance loves me the way I am. I want to lose weight for me and for my health, but I have found that if I make it about the wedding and how i need to be skinny for my wedding, I get stressed out and I don't lose.

It works for me to realize that Alex (my fiance) will love me no matter if I'm 300lbs or 150lbs on my wedding day, The rest of it is just for me and my health. I don't deprive myself...I just portion, portion, portion. Get the chinese. Eat 1 cup. If you aren't full eat a yogurt or cheese stick. Don't go overboard.

Self Control is a hard thing, but no one else can have it for you.

Hang in there. I just had a battly with TOM & it isn't always easy! I know that my rough time of the day is early afternoon and evenings, so I tend to save the bulk of my calories for dinner. This way I will feel full and hopefully not have the desire to eat anything else. I also usually pan to have around 150-200 extra calories left over (these are usually exercise calories) so that if I do feel the need to have something sweet I can indulge. Like the previous poster, I also like the Fiber One bars. Also, check out some of the dessert flavored yogurts and puddings...they aren't too shabby (you can freeze them & it becomes a substitute for ice cream). Also, I try to find healthier alternatives to my desserts so that I am not depriving myslef. I LOVE brownies, especially at TOM, so I found a Black Bean Brownie recipe that is super easy. Drain & rinse the black beans, fill the can back up w/water & then puree in a blender until smooth. Mix together with a 9x13 size box of brownie mix of your choice & bake according to directions. I cut a 9x13 pan into 12 huge pieces and each piece was a little over 200 calories. Not too bad for a huge brownie!

Keeping motivated is hard at times but just let me say "don't be so hard on yourself". When you "fall off the wagon" just get right back on & start all over. We all fail at times its just a matter if we want to stay & have a pity party or choose to go on to make ourselves better. I love chinese too so go ahead & have it just don't eat it all,eat 1/2 & have the other 1/2 for lunch or dinner the next day that's what I do. The whole thing about "dieting" is to not quit eating all our favorite foods but to have them from time to time & in moderation. When your craving something & your ready to eat it ask yourself "do I really want to eat this or do I want to fit in my beautiful wedding dress & look gorgeous",that should help motivate you to not put it in your mouth..lol
Good luck!!