Poll: Working out with significant other?

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  • Nicolee_2014
    Nicolee_2014 Posts: 1,572 Member
    I wouldn't mind it because it would actually mean he's getting off the couch & doing something :laugh: And nothing wrong with little competitive streak.
  • lilawolf
    lilawolf Posts: 1,690 Member
    I would not want to run with him, but that would be true of anyone. I like doing my own thing and pacing myself they way I want. Once I'm a better runner, this will be less of an issue.

    I wouldn't mind doing martial arts with him, but he isn't interested.

    We do lift together though, and it's great "us" time. We spot each other on bench, help each other rack weights etc. It is also nice taking turns on the squat rack, so that anyone waiting isn't glaring at you just for taking the rest between sets that you are supposed to take. We also hike together in the summer.
  • SonyaCele
    SonyaCele Posts: 2,841 Member
    My bf says he doesn't want me working out with him cause he doesn't want me to see him making faces.
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member
    Personally I prefer to work out completely alone. However I am there for my partners workouts as I wrote up his plan for him, and also as he finds it more motivating to have someone there to talk to/check form/load/spot. We workout at home though, I don't go to the gym just to help him lol.
    And yeah PDA at a gym, no.
    If you would rather do it alone, do it alone, gotta do what works for you :)
  • I have to agree with the OP he is pretty fit and gets annoyed when I can't keep up. He has his own ideas about fitness that work for him but they aren't right for me. Also I like to do things alone generally, I don't like team sports or shopping with people I like to do my own thing. I can see how it would be good for motivation though. We are going to start walking together more at the weekend.
  • Mellyajc
    Mellyajc Posts: 142 Member
    He was the one to inspire the "let's run every day and lose weight" thing initially, and for several months we would take turns kicking each other out of the bed to get moving. That helped a LOT and neither of us would have been able to keep up with it for so long on our own. He was the one that inspired me to join boot camp for a few years, too, actually.

    I talked him into Tough Mudder, so we've done that and a Spartan Beast together, and we did our first triathlon together.

    We run at different paces, so we get our 'alone time' on the trail, but the getting out part is what's hard, and helpful to have. For a while he had a gym membership so would do yoga classes, and we rock climb together as well (I love that).

    He plays racquetball without me, and those were the nights I'd be in pole class, but for a long time most of our exercise was done together.

    Lately he's still ambivalent about joining me for morning runs again since he got sick, so lots of doing our own things, but we are rock climbing tonight (I think) and sometimes we'll go to his townhouse gym.

    Being such active people, though, I think it would be hard to find time together if we didn't do active things together. For a few months we were working out twice a day, that doesn't leave for much couples time!

    My ex always talked about riding his bike while I ran but it happened *maybe* once that I can remember. There's a reason I was 20 pounds heavier then. I LOVE having an active partner that actually does things with me and appreciates fitness and active lifestyle. Without him I doubt I'd have done a triathlon yet (even figuring out how to get the bike there..) and would probably not have tried windsurfing.
  • tapirfrog
    tapirfrog Posts: 616 Member
    Helz to the naw. We tried and I will never get over it. He refused to go to the gym with me, absolutely refused. So for ten freaking years we did it his way: I went on walks with him. I hated almost every one.

    He walks slowly and doesn't mind the sun; I love powering up hills in the fog and the rain. At his speed and in his landscape I get bored, hot, and itchy, and therefore a terrible person. I resent wasting time at a slow speed when I could be getting fitter at a higher speed. Plus, it actually makes my feet hurt to dawdle along like he does. So, going at his speed pretty much ruins the walk for me. And at my speed, he gets mad because he thinks I'm showing off.

    I tried saying "Every time I go on a walk with you, why don't you come to the gym with me?" But somehow his suffering at the gym was much more real and terrible than my suffering on a turtle-walk in the glaring sun that burns hardly any calories and takes up the whole morning so I can't get anything else done.

    So I finally said, one day, "No. I'm going on a fitness walk." And I ended up running/walking and I was so happy.

    And the next day I said "I'm going on a fitness walk." And I ran/walked and I was so happy again.

    So now we walk to the grocery store and back, and I carry the heavy bags, and he has to stop at every street corner to catch his breath. He has gained almost exactly the weight I've lost. I love him but I cannot make myself even care about encouraging him to improve any more. If he wants to do it on his own, then from the second step I'll be there cheering him on until the clouds echo, but he has to take that first step himself.
  • ftloy
    ftloy Posts: 132 Member
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    That is all. *sulks out in search of another thread*
  • ktied
    ktied Posts: 137 Member
    For me it depends on the workout. He recently started doing T25 and I'll join him on that workout, though he is way more fit than I am. If we go to the gym together, we might do a warm up or something like that together, but then go our separate ways as we are on a different routine.
    He will not do my Turbo fire workouts with me as its basically dancing, though I think I would enjoy seeing that :laugh: :laugh:

    If its tennis, we'll play together, but I'll get angry cause he'll just crush me....but that would be with anyone...:sad: :sad: I hate losing.....
  • Mellyajc
    Mellyajc Posts: 142 Member
    Have you talked to him about PDA at the gym?

    Mine would hate that, he balks at sweaty hugs. Gym time is pretty parallel for us.

    All that I previously wrote..is not to say we haven't had our issues. He once got pissed off at me for something about push-up form in boot camp.
  • hymescs
    hymescs Posts: 32 Member
    I don't mind going on hikes with my boyfriend or long walks.. but for a workout at the gym.. I put my earbuds in and go...
  • jcast92
    jcast92 Posts: 144 Member
    I personally don't like working out with my boyfriend. He's really fit, and whenever I get really proud for running a mile in 8 minutes, he ran it in 5:30, stuff like that. And he's into PDA, and I'm not, but I find it especially tacky at a gym. But I feel bad rejecting his kisses. So yeah, I avoid going to the gym with him. What about you guys?

    I think it'll depend on the relationship. My boyfriend and I work out together all the time now. Neither one of us is into PDA, so we won't do anything physical with each other while doing weights. We'll spot each other, and he'll help me fix my form. I'm weaker than him, of course, but it's incredibly motivating to have him there with me, pushing me to keep going and praising my increasing strength.
  • RockWarrior84
    RockWarrior84 Posts: 840 Member
    I do my thing and she does hers.......at the gym. Bedroom workouts are join effort.
  • Happy_10yr
    Happy_10yr Posts: 287 Member
    It depends on the significant other.

    Working out w/ladies that were health conscious was fantastic!!

    It made the workout and the relationship better.

    If we had different points of view on an issue, we agree to 'take out' @ the gym and leave it there.

    Boxing was a very cool workout!!
  • texasgal22
    texasgal22 Posts: 407 Member
    About the only exercise we do together is walking; he has to slow to my pace sometimes and others I manage to keep up with his. But everything else he is stronger and more disciplined than I.
  • Spaghetti_Bender
    Spaghetti_Bender Posts: 509 Member
    I like working out alone because i can go at my pace. Been doing that since i was 12.
  • Happy_10yr
    Happy_10yr Posts: 287 Member
    I love working out with my man. I enjoy the encouraging smacks on my *kitten* when I hit a big lift or break a PR. We spot each other and it is time for US without the kids.

    That's awesome!!
  • summertime_girl
    summertime_girl Posts: 3,945 Member
    My ex refused to go to the gym with me, and flipped out when I went at the same time as him. I was too fat, and he was embarrassed.

    I'd have no problem working out with a boyfriend though.
  • My husband drives me nuts at the gym! I don't like to listen to him in general, and he used to be a personal trainer so he helps me try to improve my form on things like lunges and squats, and it just frustrates me. If we go together now, we end up doing our own things. I think I wouldn't get as frustrated if I felt more confident at the gym.
  • Happy_10yr
    Happy_10yr Posts: 287 Member
    My ex refused to go to the gym with me, and flipped out when I went at the same time as him. I was too fat, and he was embarrassed.

    I'd have no problem working out with a boyfriend though.

    ....His loss...
  • Elsie_Brownraisin
    Elsie_Brownraisin Posts: 786 Member
    We can't because of childcare, but it wouldn't work anyway. He is a long distance runner and runs at exactly twice my pace and I can't do more than 4 miles. So...um, no.

    I have contemplated joining the beginners group at his club on a different days and he has thought about getting a babysitter and joining my swimming class, but we decided that being the hell away from each other is one of the positives about our current arrangements!
  • just_Jennie1
    just_Jennie1 Posts: 1,233
    I work out with my husband and I like it.

    He pushes me to lift heavier and spots me. He doesn't believe in lifting to failure which is why I am happy he spots me LOL. If my form is off he points it out and tells me how to fix it on the next set.

    The down side? Sometimes he says funny stuff when I'm mid-lift and I almost drop the weights.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    My wife and I work out on the weekends together. The kids are also joining us more frequently. I fail to see any downside as it's a great way to spend time together.
  • RockWarrior84
    RockWarrior84 Posts: 840 Member
    My wife and I work out on the weekends together. The kids are also joining us more frequently. I fail to see any downside as it's a great way to spend time together.

    We got to the gym at same time. I like to lift weights and she is into cardio. Works out well, except when I have to caveman drag her to the gym when she has not motivation.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I personally don't like working out with my boyfriend. He's really fit, and whenever I get really proud for running a mile in 8 minutes, he ran it in 5:30, stuff like that. And he's into PDA, and I'm not, but I find it especially tacky at a gym. But I feel bad rejecting his kisses. So yeah, I avoid going to the gym with him. What about you guys?
    I enjoy it, though I'm far more into it than he is, so he doesn't go with me much. But I know what you mean about the running. I did my first 5K in a couple years a couple months ago and I'm kind of out of practice because I broke my wrist over the summer (a really, really bad break, so I didn't do anything for weeks and weeks) and when I told him my time -- which was better than I expected -- I got, "You can do better."

    Bite me, dude. Bite me.
  • Josalinn
    Josalinn Posts: 1,066 Member
    I hate it. He is very critical of how i do my work outs. He is very supportive of my working out and getting fit though.
  • SunofaBeach14
    SunofaBeach14 Posts: 4,899 Member
    I personally don't like working out with my boyfriend. He's really fit, and whenever I get really proud for running a mile in 8 minutes, he ran it in 5:30, stuff like that. And he's into PDA, and I'm not, but I find it especially tacky at a gym. But I feel bad rejecting his kisses. So yeah, I avoid going to the gym with him. What about you guys?
    I enjoy it, though I'm far more into it than he is, so he doesn't go with me much. But I know what you mean about the running. I did my first 5K in a couple years a couple months ago and I'm kind of out of practice because I broke my wrist over the summer (a really, really bad break, so I didn't do anything for weeks and weeks) and when I told him my time -- which was better than I expected -- I got, "You can do better."

    Bite me, dude. Bite me.

    *snort*

    He's got cojones I'll give him that.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I personally don't like working out with my boyfriend. He's really fit, and whenever I get really proud for running a mile in 8 minutes, he ran it in 5:30, stuff like that. And he's into PDA, and I'm not, but I find it especially tacky at a gym. But I feel bad rejecting his kisses. So yeah, I avoid going to the gym with him. What about you guys?
    I enjoy it, though I'm far more into it than he is, so he doesn't go with me much. But I know what you mean about the running. I did my first 5K in a couple years a couple months ago and I'm kind of out of practice because I broke my wrist over the summer (a really, really bad break, so I didn't do anything for weeks and weeks) and when I told him my time -- which was better than I expected -- I got, "You can do better."

    Bite me, dude. Bite me.

    *snort*

    He's got cojones I'll give him that.
    He does. And he's lucky they were on the other end of a phone line when he said that! lol

    It's frustrating because even though he only runs when he has to for the Navy (and as a Reservist, that isn't much) he's still way faster and has more stamina than I do and he freaking smokes.
  • 19TaraLynn84
    19TaraLynn84 Posts: 739 Member
    I would loooooove to workout with my husband! But with his work schedule and our 4 kiddos, it's not going to happen any time soon.