FAT= 0 Boyfriend/Girlfriend

I'm not fat.
Still boyfriendless.
It's not about how you look.
Sorry to break the news to you.

But s'okay. I am a strong woman who don't need no man.

I can totally relate to this. I lost 50 lbs and went from a size 16 to a size 4. I thought that losing all of that extra weight would solve all of my problems, make my life perfect, and land me a wonderful boyfriend. Then I got a major reality check: all of my other problems are still there needing to be dealt with, my life isn't some perfect dream come true, I still don't have a boyfriend, and men still hurt and reject me.

Lesson: Losing weight will definitely make your life better, but it's not going to magically solve all of your problems and it's not going to land you boyfriend. Unless you're morbidly obese or something, the reason you don't have a boyfriend is NOT your weight.

Relationships based solely/mostly on looks, generally don't last long ... The maturity level of most guys your age is very low ... Don't change for anyone but yourself ...

ETA: Insecurity isn't very attractive ... Just be yourself, live your life the way you, and things will fall into place ... Try online dating like Plenty of Fish or OKCupid ...

Relationships based solely/mostly on looks, generally don't last long ... The maturity level of most guys your age is very low ... Don't change for anyone but yourself ...

Thaanks It's just sorta difficult seeing other girls.. I guess I have some issues.. LOL

Confidence will come with age ...

On a more serious note, if you're confident and busy with whatever you're passionate about, let it be working out, your job, or anything else it reflects and rubs off on other people(opposite sex too).

Don't worry about getting a boyfriend/girlfriend. You're still young. Make sure you do what you're passionate about and love, and you will eventually meet someone who you truly care for and who truly cares for you.

Having a relationship depends on so many things, that even weight sometimes does not count.

I see lots of... fat girls having great relationships. Sometimes with actually ggod looking guys. And it's not about money or other stuff. They see something in those girls. Something beautiful that goes beyong weight.
I had a very good relationship when I was fat and I find difficult to find a boyfriend now, when I loook better. It would seem strange, no?

It depends a lot on the people you meet. If you don't meet lots of people and good quality people... well... it is kind of hard to find `the one`. I mean... you have to have from which to choose.
Don't ever forget quality over quantity. If you feel that all are superficial... don't you think that YOU are the one attracting and/or choosing the wrong crowd? Why don't you try meet other people, who aren't that superficial.

It depends on the way you act and the way you are perceived by people, mostly boys. You may be actually surprised by the way people see you, even if you think you do the `right` stuff. I mean... people just sometimes can't see us the `real` way. They see an image that is build upon what we act, and sometimes we inspire them the wrong way.
You must go beyond your own subjective impresion of you. Try to understand how people see you, to be able to correct the wrong way you are perceived.

Get some confidence. There are some full-figured girls that have confidence and have a `sexy` attitude. Don't neglect you just because your fat. Even if you want to lose weight, try to look your best NOW, not in your future body. Don't hide in ugly clothes. Take care of your hair, skin, posture.
Sometimes even if you are fat, a great way to dress, nice looking skin, beautiful trimed and dressed hair, confident attitude and a special way of acting (just being yourself in a nice way) can help you attract more people.

You must be a `full` package, because there is more to you than just weight. And you must try to make people see that.
And even if this doesn't not work... remember, you might just be in the very wrong crowd. Meet new people. People that are worth it.

Yes, looks counts. But how much. In the end, you will want a boyfriend for which the look counts that much? And what? If you have hard times (maybe death or sickness in your family) and start neglecting yourself some months... he would just dump you for your looks instead of being there for you? Life comes with good and bad times.

**** them. Judging someone by how they look at the moment is immature and ridiculous. My husband is crazy about me, and I've been overweight our whole relationship.

Expand your circle of friends. Gain confidence. When you BELIEVE that no one will like you the way you are at the moment, you'll exude that impression on people. You are worth love, you are worth being seen as sexy/attractive/beautiful.

Improve yourself FOR yourself. Don't do it to get a boyfriend.

You should be happy with the way you look. If you are then it's not your problem, it's theirs. Getting a boyfriend is as much about how you come across to others as anything else.. If you have self confidence then everyone around you will sense that, if you feel desperate then that's what will come across.

People like being around and with other people who are self assured about themselves. Everyone has doubts about themselves so it's not unusual for others to look for people they want to be like and try to be around them. Evaluate yourself and show everyone your great features, this will cause people to gravitate towards you. This will also cause boys to take notice and the rest will fall into place.

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Good Luck

Those are not the guys you want to be with, fat or skinny.

There are good men out there who will love you for you, not how your body looks. It's worth it to try and find them.

It's more likely self-confidence (or lack thereof) impacting relationship status more than weight. I was surprised to learn this too.

Also, being boyfriendless can be both by choice AND a good thing. Learning how not to need a man to be happy is vital to happy life, regardless whether you get a boyfriend or not. It's something I wish I understood much earlier in life, rather than letting lack of dates determine my self-worth.

You're in your prime to make life what you want it to be - to make YOU who you want to be. Seize it, and the right person will come along to enhance your life.

(Going the other direction doesn't really work..I got my ex husband at 18, then got to go though the pain of divorce as I moved on to deciding to enjoy life and we had nothing in common anymore..among other things..)