Anybody else losing fat...TO LOOK GOOD?

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  • KnM0107
    KnM0107 Posts: 355 Member
    SMH... stop with the absolutes. It is not a core reason for everyone. Are people really this narrow minded?

    At least back yourself up and add to the conversation so that I know why you feel that way...
    Now your comment just makes me feel like crap.

    Read the first post I wrote in this thread...
  • MakePeasNotWar
    MakePeasNotWar Posts: 1,329 Member
    Why are we assuming that every single person who has lost weight thinks thinner looks better? Is I really so hard to believe that there are people who like the way they look at a heavier weight, but go in a reducing program for health or performance reasons? Out of 7 billion people, not one likes a full figured body?

    Again, I agree that for many people looks are a motivator, and there is no shame in that. But to say that those who claim it isn't a factor are lying is assuming that everyone is the same. Fact is we are not.
  • 00NL
    00NL Posts: 171 Member
    started it for a guy
    but now i get how much health benefits it will have
    now i say that i do not want to carry a single extra pound of fat that my body does not need !!
    all that FAT please leave my body alone :noway:
  • ElizaB84
    ElizaB84 Posts: 105 Member
    I don't have any health problems atm. I'm losing weight to prevent anything from popping up. But a huge part is also about wanting to like how I look in clothes, naked, in a bathing suit.
  • wendypoloway
    wendypoloway Posts: 11 Member
    If I wasn't looked upon by others as inferior because I am fat, I wouldn't be trying to lose weight. Instead I would be eating a yummy, grease-laden hamburger instead of a salad. So I am absolutely trying to lose weight to look good ... the health benefits are an additional perk.
  • contingencyplan
    contingencyplan Posts: 3,639 Member
    As a result of a neurological dysfunction I never developed a sex drive (along with many other natural, base instincts). I have absolutely nothing to gain by prioritizing looks. It is done exclusively for practical benefit. And the people who can't wrap their brains around the idea that someone like myself can exist are nothing but narrow-minded. Seriously, you have no room whatsoever. NO. ROOM. AT. ALL. To say what you THINK about how everyone else's mind works. And you should think before you open your mouth about the possibility that maybe the human mind is much more diverse in how different one person can be from another than you first thought.
  • fairygirlpie9
    fairygirlpie9 Posts: 288 Member
    For me it is too look good but not solely for that reason but because I will feel more confident in myself when I do.
  • rella_1003
    rella_1003 Posts: 70 Member
    I'm doing this to feel good not look good because Iike the way I look already! I like my squishy belly I'd be sad if it was completely flat. Plus I wear loose clothing anyway, most of the time no-one can tell I have a massive disporportionately large belly and hardly anyone will be able to tell I lost weight.

    Not everyone thinks losing fat even looks good, we shpuln't make assumptions that everyone wants to get skinny to look naked, some people think they already look good naked flabs and all!
  • logicman69
    logicman69 Posts: 1,034 Member
    I'm with you OP. I'm in this because for once in my life, I wanted to be THAT guy. The guy the ladies look at and go "Damn, I want a piece of that". :smile:

    What it comes down to is we do this for whatever reason motivates us. Be it beauty or health. As long as we have some motivating factor to keep us going, hold on to it and let it drive you.
  • KimberlyinMN
    KimberlyinMN Posts: 302 Member
    I can definitely say that NOW my weight loss is to look good. :) Actually, I think I look GREAT wearing clothes. The hubs thinks I look great naked. Me, not so much. Although even at 45, my loose skin seems to be tightening up, but I'll never get rid of it all. Oh well. For the most part, my only health problems when I was morbidly obese were bad knees and back - and sleep apnea. I had low blood pressure and a slow pulse even back then. (I was even told I couldn't donate blood because my pulse was below 50. Kind of funny, but the gal had to ask if I was an elite athlete. Er, no, but thanks for asking.) The good news is no more sleep apnea and the cpap machine was retired to the basement!!!!

    Oh, and I LOVE having guys hold doors for me. :) Like the super cute guy who held the door the other day where I work. (He works in the lawyer office upstairs...)
  • journey_man
    journey_man Posts: 110 Member
    Lol. OP, thank you for starting this thread so I don't have to. I have noticed the same thing: wanting to look good is oddly villainized around here. Incredulously, I have read endless claptrap about how little looks matter, on a site where everyone is furiously working to reshape their body.

    At the same time, the same people go on endlessly about "confidence" gained with weight loss. One wonder what the source of that confidence is.

    Anyway, I am absolutely here to look good, among other goals. I was always honest about it and put it right in my profile from the start.

    Also, it wasn't always this way. Without bragging, I used to look good, and never had to struggle much for female attention. But over the last 5 years or so, I let myself go, and saw myself gradually descend into sexual irrelevence. It's a horrible thing to realize.

    As a single man in my 30s, my attractiveness to the opposite sex is absolutely an important aspect of my quality of life. Looks, in turn, are an important part of that attractiveness. All this affects my self esteem and confidence. So I am here to work on that, among other things.
  • GiveMeCoffee
    GiveMeCoffee Posts: 3,556 Member
    When I started it was all about improving my health, I was sick of being in the hospital and the thought of being on oxygen all the time scared the hell out of me. Now that I've improved my health significantly, it's about my health, my strength and that I actually like how I look.
  • journey_man
    journey_man Posts: 110 Member
    As a result of a neurological dysfunction I never developed a sex drive (along with many other natural, base instincts). I have absolutely nothing to gain by prioritizing looks. It is done exclusively for practical benefit. And the people who can't wrap their brains around the idea that someone like myself can exist are nothing but narrow-minded. Seriously, you have no room whatsoever. NO. ROOM. AT. ALL. To say what you THINK about how everyone else's mind works. And you should think before you open your mouth about the possibility that maybe the human mind is much more diverse in how different one person can be from another than you first thought.
    So you have a special condition. Not sure why you're getting so worked up about this. There are exceptions to everything. You are an exception. (Heck, it took a neurological condition for you to be an exception. What does that tell you?) Great. We recognize that. Moving on.
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    BE ADVISED **Something that not many people who need to lose more than 50lbs (not sure if you do but this IS important) are made aware of is that skin integrity becomes an issue. You reach your goal weight and are like "Well, this is wonderful when I'm *clothed*..." That is why toning is so important, even when you are still larger. Your skin will bounce back, but it's been 6 months for me and it still hasn't (still not exercising yet, that's my next hurtle)

    But YES I completely understand losing weight to look good. That is the ONLY reason that I lost weight and I am proud of that. My blood pressure and vitals were fine before losing weight because I was lucky. Yes, being healthier now is a great side effect, but I lost weight purely so I could look in a mirror without crying. Looks are important to some people, and no one should pass judgment on anyone else without understanding your story. You did this for looks? GOOD! You did this for health? GOOD! You did this so you could ride a pony without hurting it? GOOD! Whatever floats your boat, it takes all kinds to enjoy life and make it interesting! <3


    I realize how scatterbrained the above message is, read it slow to get the idea, I get like this when I just wake up.

    Good for you!

    Personally I think people underestimate the mental health effects of not looking good due to obesity. Poor self esteem can come simply from being overweight, and cause huge problems for a person. It can trigger depression which causes a whole host of other medical conditions, including some physical medical conditions. Losing weight improves self esteem, thus improving the mental health issues and also improves physical health. Two birds with one stone. If the mental self esteem issues are the primary motivator and the physical health secondary, it's still a health decision.

    Generally people trivialise vanity and its effect on mental health, and I don't think they should.
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Yep. Pretty much losing weight solely because I was starting to look like a fatass and that just wasn't a good look for me. My goals a bit more refined now and I do have fitness dreams BUT those are seperate from my weight loss.

    Which is basically all about looking good.
  • walkdmc
    walkdmc Posts: 529 Member
    Yes! That really is my #1 motivator....hotness. I have no shame.
  • KnM0107
    KnM0107 Posts: 355 Member
    Lol. OP, thank you for starting this thread so I don't have to. I have noticed the same thing: wanting to look good is oddly villainized around here. Incredulously, I have read endless claptrap about how little looks matter, on a site where everyone is furiously working to reshape their body.

    At the same time, the same people go on endlessly about "confidence" gained with weight loss. One wonder what the source of that confidence is.

    Anyway, I am absolutely here to look good, among other goals. I was always honest about it and put it right in my profile from the start.

    Also, it wasn't always this way. Without bragging, I used to look good, and never had to struggle much for female attention. But over the last 5 years or so, I let myself go, and saw myself gradually descend into sexual irrelevence. It's a horrible thing to realize.

    As a single man in my 30s, my attractiveness to the opposite sex is absolutely an important aspect of my quality of life. Looks, in turn, are an important part of that attractiveness. All this affects my self esteem and confidence. So I am here to work on that, among other things.

    Everyone here is not furiously trying to reshape their bodies... I am here to gain strength and endurance for work. Some people just don't care about how they look. If that is a motivation for you then that is fine but realize that you can't speak for everyone.
  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    BE ADVISED **Something that not many people who need to lose more than 50lbs (not sure if you do but this IS important) are made aware of is that skin integrity becomes an issue. You reach your goal weight and are like "Well, this is wonderful when I'm *clothed*..." That is why toning is so important, even when you are still larger. Your skin will bounce back, but it's been 6 months for me and it still hasn't (still not exercising yet, that's my next hurtle)

    But YES I completely understand losing weight to look good. That is the ONLY reason that I lost weight and I am proud of that. My blood pressure and vitals were fine before losing weight because I was lucky. Yes, being healthier now is a great side effect, but I lost weight purely so I could look in a mirror without crying. Looks are important to some people, and no one should pass judgment on anyone else without understanding your story. You did this for looks? GOOD! You did this for health? GOOD! You did this so you could ride a pony without hurting it? GOOD! Whatever floats your boat, it takes all kinds to enjoy life and make it interesting! <3


    I realize how scatterbrained the above message is, read it slow to get the idea, I get like this when I just wake up.

    Good for you!

    Personally I think people underestimate the mental health effects of not looking good due to obesity. Poor self esteem can come simply from being overweight, and cause huge problems for a person. It can trigger depression which causes a whole host of other medical conditions, including some physical medical conditions. Losing weight improves self esteem, thus improving the mental health issues and also improves physical health. Two birds with one stone. If the mental self esteem issues are the primary motivator and the physical health secondary, it's still a health decision.

    Generally people trivialise vanity and its effect on mental health, and I don't think they should.

    This is me. I'm concerned about health in the context of avoiding some issues I likely have a genetic potential to encounter. But I'm healthy now. I haven't had so much as a cold in over a decade and I use to be surprisingly quick on my feet, energetic, and agile even when I was obese.

    But the mental blows were devastating. Some people seem to take to being fat better than others. It was detrimental for me. Losing weight has had a profoundly positive affect on my entire life, and it continues to get better and better the closer I get to my goals. I wouldn't wish the way I felt about my fat body on my worst enemy.
  • Iwishyouwell
    Iwishyouwell Posts: 1,888 Member
    Lol. OP, thank you for starting this thread so I don't have to. I have noticed the same thing: wanting to look good is oddly villainized around here. Incredulously, I have read endless claptrap about how little looks matter, on a site where everyone is furiously working to reshape their body.

    At the same time, the same people go on endlessly about "confidence" gained with weight loss. One wonder what the source of that confidence is.

    Anyway, I am absolutely here to look good, among other goals. I was always honest about it and put it right in my profile from the start.

    Also, it wasn't always this way. Without bragging, I used to look good, and never had to struggle much for female attention. But over the last 5 years or so, I let myself go, and saw myself gradually descend into sexual irrelevence. It's a horrible thing to realize.

    As a single man in my 30s, my attractiveness to the opposite sex is absolutely an important aspect of my quality of life. Looks, in turn, are an important part of that attractiveness. All this affects my self esteem and confidence. So I am here to work on that, among other things.

    I grew up feeling extremely unattractive. I had the "nice guy" syndrome and was almost always put in the friend zone. I remember when I first started to lose weight in my late teens and suddenly I was getting female attention. Then eventually so many people, strangers, friends, family, couldn't stop talking about how hot and handsome I was. It was a HUGE shock. I was so far gone in self esteem though that I never took any of the compliments to heart. I could not see what they saw. Part of the reason I gained back all my weight is that I had no idea how close I was to my best physical self. I couldn't even describe what my body looked like back then, at my fittest, because I still only saw my body as fat.

    Even my wife reacts differently. My baby, love her with all that I am, is such a blessing. Even at my heighest of 320lbs she still was attracted to me, still wanted me, even though I felt like absolute chit. But their are still differences in how she reacts to me now vs then. After over a 120lbs loss so far, the woman can keep neither her hands nor her eyes off me. She is constantly staring at me, constantly touching me, constantly pulling my clothes off, and constantly saying "you are so damn sexy", or "you are beautiful". Yes, it makes all the difference in the world how attractive you seem, even to the women who do love you and embraced you heavier.

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