Sticking to healthy eating at weekend/un supportive partner

Hi

Looking for advice and suggestions.

I have a non supportive partner that will buy take away's at the weekend and order for me with out asking. aaahhh
I'v told him not to do it anymore think he will listen ).

I find it difficult to stick to healthy eating at the weekends, what do you do when eating out with family and friends ?

I do enjoy having a few red wines at the weekend which I don't really want to stop, everything in moderation and all that jazz.

Please don't comment if you are going to be cruel or sarcastic. I'm looking for some help, advice and support.

Thanks

I honestly don't understand the unsupportive partner. Why is someone in a relationship if not to support the person they love? The key to a strong, supportive relationship is communication, communication, communication. Tempered with a lot of respect. People need to sit down and have honest, difficult conversations. It's important to let each other know how you feel about how you are treating each other. If he is ordering takeout and not listening to you, it's time to sit down face to face and dig down to the reason why he continues to ignore your requests. Be honest and sincere. No distractions, just you and him, face to face. Find out if there is something you are doing that he doesn't like that he feels is disrespecting him. Sometimes there are bigger issues at hand we don't even know about and having a long conversation can reveal to both of you things about your relationship of which you were not even aware.

if he orders for you without asking just dont eat it.. he will soon get bored of wasting money.

other than that, you can still eat takeaway or eat out, just in moderation... plan ahead, if you know you're eating out with family at the weekend, just eat 100 cals less each day through the week so you can eat more while you're out.

^^^^ agreed!!

why are you with partner if he is undermining your diet? Sounds like time for a serious heart-to-heart with him. I agree with mccindy72: "It's important to let each other know how you feel about how you are treating each other. If he is ordering takeout and not listening to you, it's time to sit down face to face and dig down to the reason why he continues to ignore your requests. Be honest and sincere. No distractions, just you and him, face to face."

Also, you may want to plan out (and buy) weekend food in advance, so you have healthy options on hand you can eat. When he does get takeout without asking, just say thanks but no thanks, you're set.

Also also, is this something he did before you starting dieting that you liked him doing for you? It's possible that he doesn't know what to DO to support you (just what NOT to do). Have you told him what he CAN be doing, like asking you first what you want, or exercising with you, or if he feels like he has to "treat" you, treat with flowers instead? (Not sure if this is the case -- but since we don't have all the details, it is one possibility.)

The unsupportive partner things sucks, What goes in your mouth is up to you, but in the beginning that can be rough, for you and for them. Changing the way you eat has effects on them, and they may not be sure how to handle this sudden change to your relationship, feel slightly resentful, or honestly think they are not doing anything wrong. When I decided to transition to becoming vegan, (which I'm still struggling with) my s.o. was upset and I could not understand why. When I asked, he honestly told me, "I can't take you out for ice cream when you are sad, I can't share things with you like I used to, ect." We fixed this by talking and communicating, and eventually we came up with a happy medium, where I will have tastes of stuff, and we will still eat where we always have, I will just order whatever and take off the cheese. It's all about communication, your s.o. may not know how this makes you feel.

About eating out, we are eating out with friends and family up to every dinner of a given week. I have tried to "save up my calories" but it simply isn't feasible with how often we go out for me. I get salads, with no cheese and dressing on the side. Or a brothy soup, ect. Salads will have a bunch of calories depending what is on them, but if you get no meat,no cheese and dressing/croutons on the side, the salad itself with just veggies is like, 100 calories, even the huge ones. I add about 100/200 calories depending how much dressing I use. If you want meat, get grilled chicken. You stop craving greasy stuff after a while, and I may have a bite or 2 of fries ect off my guy's plate, but I don't like eating much now. Ordering salads helps a ton.

You can do this! You do not need to drastically change your life style or end up hating your s.o. through this! (I was hella mad at my guy for a while, but communication!) Just change how you approach meals when going out. Unless it is a huge treat, it is very simple to eat healthy at restaurants, if you keep yourself educated. Good luck, feel free to friend me!

1. Tell your partner some things he CAN buy that you will actually eat.

2. Get out of the house on weekends, and go do active things. If you do that, then it won't matter so much what you eat when you go out at night.

When we get take away I always get a veg option as a side. For example, I'll get a chicken curry or a king prawn dish from the Chinese, but i'll also ask for a portion of stir fried veg with very little oil for the side. Even if it's not on the menu, I find that people are generally willing to help if you ask nicely.

It's all about portion control too. Split the dishes in two, and pop some in the freezer for another day. Or send it off with your other half to work the next day for their lunch.

Moderation and making clever choices is the way to go with this one. He deserves his treats too, it would be equally as unsupportive of us not to acknowledge that.

I try not to blame my husband for what I eat, but it's definitely difficult not to eat delicious things that are right in front of your face. I usually just try to very kindly say, "No thanks! You can take that trip to fat town by yourself."

I have a cut off eating time because I know that no good comes out of the kitchen for me after 7pm. I have been used to living with women who usually avoid the kitchen at all costs. My husband is always in there at night grazing and snacking. I was getting very angry with him for being in there when I couldn't be; but then I realized it's an opportunity for me to exercise control. Now when he goes into the kitchen at night after 7 I do ten pushups or ten burpees to remind me of why I don't want to go in the kitchen. I get a little extra exercise and he gets a little guilt because he knows exactly why I've jumped up to suddenly workout. ha!

I've been using MFP for 8 months now and i don't keep track on the weekends anymore. I've got a pretty good handle on what i can or can't eat and still stay within my daily calorie intake. We just don't order take out anymore as fast food is my kryptonite. You can't control your partner anymore then they can control you. Staying on track is entirely up to YOU.

figure out the calories and eat a portion with steamed vegetables and salad and save the rest for other meals.