never hungry and not hitting calorie goal.

I can definitely relate to this. I first joined MFP about a year ago and logged a couple of days of eating, and realised I was WAY under-eating. I had no idea, because I certainly didn't feel like I was starving myself. I always skipped breakfast and often had no lunch, and could end up only eating 500 calories a day.

So, I've gradually, over the last few months, been building it up. I eat a Greek yoghurt every morning, with a handful of "bits" thrown in. I also now have lunch, too. I tend to have salad with something high in natural fats - today I had tinned sardines, avocado and feta cheese in it. Then I have a regular dinner.

I'm now usually around 1200 - 1300 calories a day, and I'm working on increasing it even more. I can burn 800 calories in one gym session and I go every day, near enough, so I need to eat that back, too, to have a reasonable net.

It's still very easy for me to miss meals. Today, it got to 4pm before I realised I hadn't had any lunch, because I still don't feel that hunger. However, I am finding more and more now that when I start to eat, my body starts to realise that it was actually hungry in the first place - it just wasn't telling me. That's a whole new sensation.

My advice would be to try to never skip a meal. Eat something at every meal time, and gradually increase your intake over weeks and months. You need to teach your body to take the food you're giving it. I'm not saying it's easy, because it's not, but I'm getting there and so can you.

Good luck!

I also find that after working out I am not hungry at all, and was having a hard time eating back my exercise calories. What I found that works for me if I have several hundred calories left, I grab a handful of walnuts or almonds. They are high in calories, and are a good fat.

I can relate. I feel as though the "counter" gave me too many calories. I am a large person by nature, 6 ft tall and very muscular. I have also rarely fluctuated in weight - going up and down only 20 lbs in the past 25 years when my first child was born. I literally have pants from 1990 in my closet. I have a desk job that I cannot leave for lunch or breaks, so I bring salad etc. I have been logging for a week and am consistently under 500+ calories from the recommended allotment.
Any advice would be welcome. Daughter is getting married and really want to go down to a size 12 (20lbs) for her wedding.

Open up your diary and Ill look at it to see what you might be missing

I'm not being snarky, but if that's all your eating, how did you ever gain weight in the first place? It doesn't seem possible.

Because I'm following new restrictions (medical requirement from my doc) of reduced carb and low sodium, I too find it hard some days to get all my calories in which is really something I thought I'd never say. LOL When I first started here, I was so ravenously hungry I could have eaten cardboard and been happy. Thankfully I figured out how to improve on that.

My opinion is give it some time. You'll learn what works for you and gradually adjust your eating habits. Search out new recipes, tweak your menu from day to day and don't be too hard on yourself at first.

Some of my go to foods when I need to add on are nuts, greek yogurt, cheese sticks, frozen banana slices (so I can have just a couple at a time due to carbs), salsa and a few chips, Mission carb control tortilla wraps (great for loading up with protein, cheese, veggies and/or eggs), hard boiled eggs, veggies of all sorts, berries, baked chicken and canned tuna..

I'm not being snarky, but if that's all your eating, how did you ever gain weight in the first place? It doesn't seem possible.

I second this...

Also, I think "starvation mode" is a crock...bariatric patients that have weight loss surgery are unable to eat 1200 calories for months or possibly years...hence the reason they LOSE WEIGHT

I have had a hard time eating 1200 calories for the past 2 months but I have an appetite suppressant to jump start my weight loss...some days I eat 600 calories...some days 800...I've lost 30 lbs and quite a few inches...my body is not starving. The worry is that obviously I won't eat like this forever and when appetite comes back the pounds are gonna fly back on. However, I believe that if you educate yourself and make a lifestyle change you will be fine. It may take a bit of tweaking but you will figure out what works for yourself and your body.

I looked at your diary for the last few days.

You get pretty close to your goal. Maybe get a few snacks in there. Try fewer, lighter snacks spaced out so you won't get overwhelmed--like an apple, and then maybe some almonds, and then maybe some Jello, just as suggestions. My mom and I used to like using those SmartOnes, Healthy Choice, etc. meals and she would add to them--some extra veggies, some brown rice, whatever "fit."

I'm not being snarky, but if that's all your eating, how did you ever gain weight in the first place? It doesn't seem possible.

I'm not the OP, but I drank my weight gain over the course of several years. Food was never an issue for me, and most days I struggle to get to 1400 calories.

This is me too. Tracking in the early days made me realize just how much I was drinking, even though I have a super-healthy diet. I wish I could go back a few years and slap myself across the face.

Glad to know I'm not the only one! Good luck on everyone's journeys, wherever you're at.

I'm not being snarky, but if that's all your eating, how did you ever gain weight in the first place? It doesn't seem possible.

I'm not the OP, but I drank my weight gain over the course of several years. Food was never an issue for me, and most days I struggle to get to 1400 calories.

I wish I could go back a few years and slap myself across the face.

If you figure out how to do it, please let me know so I can do the same!