How do you keep from comparing yourself to others?
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Mizeri
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I have been having a real hard time with this lately. I am almost at my goal weight and I started to think I was actually looking decent until I started reading post here and hearing my friends complain about their weight. Most of my friends are still smaller then me (about 3 to 5 pounds mind you), but they always complain about how they need to lose more weight. Its also discouraging seeing people having my goal weight as their starter weight and wanting to lose another 10-15 pounds. I know I shouldn't compare myself to others but its hard not to wonder if maybe I should be losing more weight or not.
Any advice?
Any advice?
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Some people (not just women, some men too) say things like "oh, I'm so fat" and "I need to lose 10 pounds" just to get attention and compliments. They may not even do it consciously. When I was obese, this used to bug me quite a bit. If you're supposedly "fat" (when you obviously aren't even remotely overweight and I know this because you just last week bragged about being a size 2) then what the hell does that say about me?! Then I realized, it didn't say anything about me. It only said something about them. How their self esteem and self worth is totally shot and they need validation from others to feel better about themselves. Actually makes me feel bad for them...
Bottom line is, you just have to start changing the way you think. What others think about themselves or you is none of your business. As long as you're comfortable with your body at your goal weight, that's all that matters. Even if someone is the same height, they could have a completely different build than you and be happy and healthy at a higher or lower weight. Only worry about yourself, not others.0 -
Don't worry, everyone has their own journey to go on. I know what you mean though, when you see posts about being sooo big at a size 2, it's baffling. The main thing to remember is that as you get closer to your goal, you will feel fantastic. :happy:0
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When I realized how annoying it was when other people compared themselves to me, I stopped.
Learning to care for and love the body I have made it a lot easier.0 -
The only person you really need to compare yourself to is the person you used to be.0
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Some people (not just women, some men too) say things like "oh, I'm so fat" and "I need to lose 10 pounds" just to get attention and compliments. They may not even do it consciously. When I was obese, this used to bug me quite a bit. If you're supposedly "fat" (when you obviously aren't even remotely overweight and I know this because you just last week bragged about being a size 2) then what the hell does that say about me?! Then I realized, it didn't say anything about me. It only said something about them. How their self esteem and self worth is totally shot and they need validation from others to feel better about themselves. Actually makes me feel bad for them...
Bottom line is, you just have to start changing the way you think. What others think about themselves or you is none of your business. As long as you're comfortable with your body at your goal weight, that's all that matters. Even if someone is the same height, they could have a completely different build than you and be happy and healthy at a higher or lower weight. Only worry about yourself, not others.
This hits the nail on the head, I think.0 -
Get to your GW and see how you feel at that weight, then do what you feel is best for you.
Comparison is a natural thing to do, don't be so hard on yourself about that.....just remember do to things for you not because others are doing them0 -
the thing is, there will always be someone who is thinner/prettier/better hair/longer legs/better abs/more money/nicer car/nicer house/fitter boyfriend/whatever whatever whatever... but really, who cares? you need to love yourself for who you are...0
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I don't really care about what people think of me period. I'm aware we're all different and I'm aware people sometimes say things for attention.
A lot of my friends say I'm lucky I'm this way - I happen to believe it's a choice0 -
Are you happy with yourself at your goal weight? Then who cares what others want to do? If you are happy, then you are at goal. If your friends want to lose weight, let them, encourage them even. All that matters in this world is how you feel about yourself. If you are happy, be happy. If you're not, think about changing something. I think you're forgetting that a "goal weight" is not universal. It's YOUR goal. Someone else might have a different one and it might be lower or higher than yours. Be proud of the hard work you put in to get you where you are today!0
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The only person you really need to compare yourself to is the person you used to be.0
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The only person you really need to compare yourself to is the person you used to be.
This...so this...0 -
We've all fallen into the comparison trap from time to time. Pick yourself up and climb out! Every time you compare yourself to someone else, try bouncing your mind to another thought, such as how far you've come or how great it feels to be on this journey or how inspiring it will be for others, not to mention yourself, when you achieve that next goal. It takes practice, but over time it will help "train" your mind to turn negative thoughts into positive ones. Hope that helps!0
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Not valid to compare yourself to other people since genetics play such a huge role in how one's body is structured or how strong one is. Best to compare yourself to yourself. Unless you have a twin of course.0
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I'll always compare myself to other people. The difficult part is keeping a perspective.0
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I am me...and I am unique...just as you are you and you are unique...how can you compare two unique people or even 1 billion unique people. We are wonderfully different and it is great. What works for you may not work for me because we only have some general things in character...but in the end you are you and I am me...unique and both enjoyably good. That is how i keep from comparing myself to others. Best to you.0
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Not valid to compare yourself to other people since genetics play such a huge role in how one's body is structured or how strong one is. Best to compare yourself to yourself. Unless you have a twin of course.
This. I'm in competition with myself. I ALWAYS try to beat my last best. Keep track of everything...how you gonna know where to go if you don't know where you've been. No my line but it's a good one.0 -
I love my sister to pieces - she is 14 months older than me, and we talk about absolutely everything.
Even when I am feeling really good about my weight - she is micraculously 7lb lighter....always!! she isn't trying to wind me up or annoy me by telling me we just talk about our weight often.
She's now 48 and I'm 47 and I am only just beginning to accept that this is just the way it is - we're the same height but a different build and I exercise much more than her. My point is - we will always compare ourselves, even with those who love and care for us the most but it does us now good. Please don't take 47 years to accept that we are all different!!0 -
you can only worry about yourself, comparing yourself to other people is an exercise in futility - why? we are all different and have different hopes, dreams and goals. You need to figure out what makes you happy and go with it. Life is too short overall to make yourself into someone elses ideal of perfection.0
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To get very scientific: Sociology teaches us that we identify ourselves by comparing us to the people around us. It's part of human nature. I think everyone does it, but validation is a big part of it. Remember also that you never know what's going inside another person's head. Miss size 2 might be feeling particularly bloated today and needing some comfort and not know how to go about it. We are all just trapped inside our own bodies and can only feel like who we are. I don't know what you feel like inside your body.
All that being said, just remember, you really just want to be better than you were yesterday. Each day is a new beginning!0
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