Having unsupportive family sucks!

I hear a lot of little comments here and there with my family as well. You just have to focus on yourself and try to keep the negativity away. Many MFP people I'm sure will agree that you can eat a little bit of chocolate and loose weight. Keep going strong!!!!

Chocolate tastes better at room temp anyway. Next time, put the 2nd half in your room.

Your mom sounds like a real piece of work!

I know the feels. My family is all overweight though so whenever I try to lose weight they always tell me I'm being stupid and don't support me. Then whenever I do mess up on my diet they give me such a hard time and tell me they knew it was just a phase and that I'm going to stay fat. It's really disheartening:( Add me and we can support each other, kay?

Dark chocolate is actually good for you, there is actually quite of few good health benefits to it. My dad doesn't like me dieting, he told me to go eat pizza and wings and order from KFC because I told him I lost 11lbs in one month and he thinks I'm dying from eating healthy and exercising.

Sorry about your parents.

Share your successes with your little brother. Sounds like he will be your supportive family member

I'm sorry you have to live with such toxicity. Pat yourself on the back for holding your own in a tough environment.

Is your privacy respected enough for you to safely keep a journal? Mine has been a lifesaver. It also helps me keep my mouth shut and keep my own counsel.

If the family fridge is a battleground, is having a mini-fridge a viable alternative? Are you able to lock your room?

Kudos to your brother for his support and his compassion. And Kudos to you for persevering.

OMG - Families are the WORST!!! UGH - My mother would tell me I was fat when I wasn't - as soon as I hit puberty, I put on a little weight (seriously - maybe a LITTLE pudge, but not much at all), and all the sudden I was labeled "fat". She got on me for EVERYTHING I ate - from the pieces of dark chocolate to the salads (don't put on too much dressing!), to everything and anything. I got so tired of hearing it, that I started sneaking food, but then my brother and sister would hide in the cabinets, wait for me to go and try to sneak something and jump out of the cabinets to scare me.

Any money I made from babysitting went to buy junk food. My parent's couldn't figure out why I never had any money. DUH!

That's just the beginning of a LONG dramatic saga on how I got to gain lots of weight and never being able to handle the emotional stress of it all. Even after arguing with them endlessly that I'm the only one who can lose this weight, they can't lose it for me, and all their blathering about it doesn't help, and in fact, does more harm than good; and I'd tell them that if/when I chose to lose weight it was going to be my choice, and not because they badgered me into it.

That day did eventually come, but along with it came tools from doctors that I trusted on how to do it the right way. Seeing a therapist, seeing a nutritionist/dietician, being accountable via several avenues, and doing what they told me to do - then growing a "suit of armor" so that it didn't matter what they said, it wouldn't derail me. I could tell them - "That's not part of the master plan. I've set myself up for success, I'm listening to the right people and that ain't you."

Sometimes family thinks they are being supportive when they are not. I have had issues with my family also trying to sabotage without realizing they are doing it. At my heaviest my mom hounded me about my weight and how fat I was. I finally confronted her and asked if she loved me less because I was fat. It made her step back and realize how hurtful her words were. She also told me that she thought I was beautiful and hat she did not want me to struggle all my adult life with weight as she did. I no longer tell anyone when I am dieting, instead I say I am trying to make healthier choices. You look as if you are doing amazing, and just a side note, dark chocolate is really good for you. The closer a food is to it's natural state the better it is for you! Keep you feet planted firmly on your journey,

Just skimmed the responses so not sure if anyone else has asked this... Have you tried talking to them about it? You said your brother stuck up for you but have you tried sticking up for yourself? I kind of get the mindset of just letting it roll of your back but it's not going to stop if you don't confront them at some point. Even once you're out on your own, you'll probably be seeing them from time to time and could likely continue to get these comments (as you said, regardless of your size you hear negative comments) Better to get this kind of stuff cleared up rather than just letting it continue and fester. Try not to make an argument out of it or react with emotion - just have a nice calm conversation.

My mother and husband both used to ask me "can you have that on your diet" and I explained to both of them that I'm not on a diet, I'm just limiting my portions - no foods are off limits. Had to repeat myself a few times but eventually the proof of that working came through as I kept losing weight and they stopped asking. OP, sounds like your Mom thinks the same way so share your knowledge with her and let her see the evidence as you get closer to goal and continue to eat what you like.

Best of luck to you!

Or what's even funnier is when you lose the weight.....the ones who did ALL the talking before the weight loss now have nothing to say and you're like REALLY!!!!

I hear ya!!!
My Dad's nickname for me was "Fat *kitten*" for my whole adult life.
Now he says I am to skinny, so I said, does that mean your going to call me skinny *kitten* now?
He is 83 and I am 61

my mom thought i would never stick to my exercise and diet routine, when i started 2 years ago. she even told me to drop out of the avon walk for breast cancer (a 2 day 39.3 mile walk). she said i will never do the 39.3 miles. that was in 2012 when i weighed 321 lbs. She was right; i didn't do the full 39.3 miles. I did 29.2 miles. and I went from a size 26 to a size 20 (22 in a dress). last october i did the walk again and i did 22 miles this time, by the time of the walk i weighed 275. but with my busy schedule, i stayed away from the gym for 4 months. that was a big mistake because i gained back 20 lbs.

now, I wear a size 18 dress and size 18 pants. I am going to participate in 2 breast cancer walks, an ms walk and a leukemia walk. i am back in the gym and i lost 4 lbs of the 20 i have gained. my mom is proud and has since apologized to me for not believing in me. she believes in me now and encourages me to do more.