I am not sure if I believe in myself anymore
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Nope - I've been working on it for the past 40 yearsI am the only loser who has tried to lose weight for the last 5 years without success?
You *can* do it, you just haven't found the right way yet. One of my favorite quotes: I have not failed. I've just found 10,000 ways that won't work.- Thomas Edison.I have done it so many times, including the last 2 years on MFP, that I feel completely defeated. All success stories on MFP, while very inspirational, seem like “not for me because I cannot do it”,
Most importantly, you have to find your path...the one that works for you. I have finally found one that works for me, and while slow, it is working. Of course in the process I found a whole lot of ways that did not work for me. I also found things that worked in the short term, but only for a week or two. This time it is different - This time I am making changes that I can live with the rest of my life. There is no 'diet' to 'fall off' of, no 'cheating', etc. I would rather have slow and sure loss that is sustainable.
[/quote]It is obvious the problem is emotional but I don’t feel I can face AO groups or anyone face-to-face for support. I feel even more loser that I cannot find a willpower to do it all by myself. [/quote]
I understand not wanting the face to face support. That is part of what I value here on MFP: I get support, but people that don't know me in real life. There is a saying in the 12-step traditions: "Fake it until you make it." You don't have to be the person who has incredible willpower....just pretend that you are and act as if you were that person just for today. Then repeat tomorrow if you feel like it.0 -
Yup, as someone said before me, it sounds like you're trying the same thing every time and expecting it to work this time...so you need to make some changes. It isn't easy, but here are some observations from your diary, from an outsider's perspective...I hope you take them to be helpful (which is what they are meant to be, not a put-down!!)
Assuming you are logging everything you eat (which I don’t think you are…), your eating habits are very erratic to say the least! One day last week you just had tomatoes for dinner, and another day you ate 4 frankfurters, a piece of blue cheese and some green beans for lunch – that’s kind of a weird lunch! I think meal planning could be your saviour. Instead of just grabbing random food from the fridge (which, from an outsider’s perspective is what it looks like you’re doing!) find some healthy recipes and plan out what you’re going to eat each day of the week. You could even try pre-logging these meals into your MFP so you know what calories you have left to play with. Meal planning also makes food shopping easier because you know what you need to buy and can stick to a list instead of just throwing random stuff in the trolley.
Meal planning will also help you to spread your calories out more evenly over the day. Instead of binging on a fry-up in the morning and then not eating properly for the rest of the day (which is what you seem to have done on the day you had tomatoes for dinner…) try to make your meals about the same number of calories each, interspersed with maybe a small mid-morning snack and a small mid-afternoon snack to keep you ticking by. By the way snacks are things like a piece of fruit, or a biscuit, or some nuts, not a piece of salmon, some rashers of bacon, a frankfurter, or a whole big bar of Ecuadorian chocolate....)
Looking at your diary I’ve noticed some places where you can make simple swaps to cut down on calories – and when I say cut down on calories, I don’t mean to starve yourself, I mean so that you can use up those calories in more filling, satisfying ways. For example, on days that you have cereal, you’re using full fat milk or calorific soya milk/yoghurts – try semi-skimmed or a light soya product instead. Those Caffe Nero lattes – why not make coffee yourself at home or at work and save money AND calories! If you must have Caffe Nero, go for a skinny latte instead. There are a lot of fatty breakfasts going on in your diary too – switch fried (or even grilled) breakfasts and pancakes for something like porridge. I am SUCH a porridge convert, the Oats so Simple ones with different flavours are delicious and really filling too.
LOG EVERYTHING and WEIGH EVERYTHING so you know how much you’re eating. I noticed a few 'quick added calories' in your diary, which may be legitimate, but are you being honest with yourself? Logging can be a pain, but it really helps you to stay focussed. My calorie goal is currently set at 1200 cals and I actually quite enjoy planning my meals to see how much I can actually eat for less than 1200 (that could just be me…!)
Lastly, just keep going! Even if you fall off the wagon, every time you decide to start again, you’re doing something positive for your health. Nobody on MFP is here to judge, after all, we're all here for the same reason!!0 -
I understand how you feel. I have started so many times only to end up binging and feel worse. What I have learned is this is not a diet, it is a lifestyle change. Each day is a new start and we have to keep taking it one day at a time. I wish you the best of luck and don't give up. You are more then worth the effort. You can add me if you want.0
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It's an issue of commitment. If you really want to lose weight you'll find a way. For example, you might do better with one-on-one help, but financially that will be tough. You need to find the money, or find someone who has a sliding scale, or find a group that offers free therapy.
Once it's truly a priority, things will sort themselves out. By this point, it's not a matter of lack of information. You need structure, repetition and reinforcement.
I read a popular psych article that claims it can help to acknowledge that ____ is not a priority. It quiets the conflict and sometimes can lead to change.0 -
hello Everybody who is having trouble with sticking to your diets... First of all if you are calling it a diet, your looking at it wrong. you should be looking at it like a lifestyle change... its not a diet, its just the way you eat...
To me, that's semantic silliness.
I've never been overweight in part because over the years I have instituted all kinds of lifestyle changes (avoiding certain foods, walking instead of taking the subway). But when I am trying to lose weight I call my effort a "diet." I'm eating in a far more restricted manner than I normally do. I would never style my permanent life that way. When I get to do a good level I go back to maintenance and eat more liberally.
I suspect that some people don't lose weight because they do things in dribs and drabs, get discouraged and give up. They also don't understand that maintenance is almost as hard as dieting.0 -
Self-control is a muscle, if you don't use it you lose it. It's hard, but just stop your binging- sit on your hands if you have to, anything! It will get easier every day. Also remember if you have a bad day, just start again the next day, never stop striving for a better day than the last.0
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Think of it this way, for every success story, there are probably 100 people on this site, who've "fallen off the wagon" just that day. This is not easy, sure it seems simple enough, log your calories, exercise and lose weight, but we know it's hard.
I struggle everyday, I've lost the weightloss battle so many times, in fact, I weigh more now then when I joined this site, but I keep trying, because eventually I will find a niche that works for me...I think I have, and my new plan is to stop obsessing about the number on the scale and to focus on me and how I feel.
I just recently (and I mean within the last week) began to exercise even a little everyday (and I am not a gym rat, yes i have a membership, but I usually go for a walk, or do a Wii dance game, or just lift some weights and do some pinterest born at home exercise routines).
Don't give up on yourself. You have to want it, but if you want it, you will find a way.
Good luck!
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Make a life style change eat healthier .. Once you really get goin it becomes second nature. if you fall off and eat something you shouldnt dont worry just continue what you were doin. Go for a walk every day it gives you time to just think and some time to yourself while still getting some movement in.0
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Self-control is a muscle, if you don't use it you lose it.
I've read conflicting theories. Some people suggest that self-control, or will power, can be strengthened to a degree. But far more these days argue that will power is a limited resource so you have to choose carefully the targets to which you apply it. For example, don't bring home foods that are inconsistent with your diet. You'll be wasting will power trying to resist them.0 -
Self-control is a muscle, if you don't use it you lose it.
I've read conflicting theories. Some people suggest that self-control, or will power, can be strengthened to a degree. But far more these days argue that will power is a limited resource so you have to choose carefully the targets to which you apply it. For example, don't bring home foods that are inconsistent with your diet. You'll be wasting will power trying to resist them.
I know from personal experience the more I resist urges the easier it is to resist them in the future. It also becomes easier to resist/continue other things because I know I did it successfully with something else. For example I quit smoking, once I did that I found it immensely easier to ditch other bad habits like biting my nails. I used to not be able to not eat a candy bar in the freezer and now I buy them for my boyfriend and revel in the fact that even though I want to eat it I can easily resist it. Perhaps it's just changing one's habits rather than increasing will-power, but regardless being consistent helps big time.0 -
You can do it! I have gained weight because I have terrible anxiety and I let that over come me. I have felt the same way, where I dont feel like I can lose weight. I actually have decided just in the last few days to eat completely healthy. I go grocery shopping a lot more than I used to, but that is because I am buying lots of fresh produce. I also have made my lunch a few days ahead of time. Today for lunch I have baked tilipia with brown rice and hot sauce. I love hot sauce. I made a huge salad to go with that as well and I have been drinking a ton of water. I actually used my anxiety as a positive thing. Every time I over think I have to drink a big gulp of water and trust me I have been drinking more water than I know what to do with. So for you, you can drink a big gulp of water every time you put yourself down. You can do it! Make lunches ahead of time. I am married and my husband loves junk food.. I let him eat that for dinner and I eat my healthy meal that I made ahead of time. Smelling his food is amazing at times, but I am determined to lose weight! You can do it!0
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I think you also need to remember that it is ok if you give in to a craving
It isn't the end of the world and your diet is not ruined Just go back to eating well after that slip up.
Also you will find many times that you can actually fit that treat or slip up into your calories for the day and if you can't oh well, move on It won't wreck everything if you go back to eating well after the slip up - but it will if you think your weight loss is ruined and then proceed to eat more that you shouldn't just because you already ruined your weight loss
Also going for a walk or adding some extra exercise in on that day or the next can make up for the slip up
you CAN do it, and it is ok if you slip up Maybe you should plan a treat day in that incorporates the things you usually slip up with but fits into your daily goal Then you aren't slipping up but you are still getting those treats that temp you 0 -
I recommend keeping a personal journal. Even if you can't afford a counselor, you should get some relief from writing things down.
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You know how to lose weight, so that's not the problem. And I think you know what to do. You mentioned support groups for emotional eaters. Just go and talk with other people face-to-face, which is really different than just typing on a keyboard. Do it for your kids. Be a good role model for them. Tell yourself everyday that you can do it. Stop putting too much pressure on yourself.0
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Now imagine if that was your own kid saying that to you. What would be the first thing you would advise them to do?
I don't know. I have the knowledge, but I don't stick to it. I do know though I have impulse control issues. One split of second, I have eaten something which I shouldn't, and the moment has passed and my diet is ruined.
I don't feel it is a big enough issue to see a councellor (and it cost money which I don't have) but it is definitely one of my biggest issues.
I haven't read the other posts, but I think the bold is probably one of the biggest issues. One day of eating outside your plan, or a series of days is not the end of the world. It's life. If you can get out of the all or nothing mindset it might make a difference. Is your diet plan very restrictive? I mean to the point that you can't have a cookie or a scoop of ice cream or any type food...at all...ever?
The ruined diet thing is something I've had to over come. I find that by not being restrictive I can crack on with my life and eat mostly what I want. I just keep my calories near goal.0 -
Now imagine if that was your own kid saying that to you. What would be the first thing you would advise them to do?
I don't know. I have the knowledge, but I don't stick to it. I do know though I have impulse control issues. One split of second, I have eaten something which I shouldn't, and the moment has passed and my diet is ruined.
I don't feel it is a big enough issue to see a councellor (and it cost money which I don't have) but it is definitely one of my biggest issues.
I'm pretty bad when it comes to impulsive eating as well. When I splurge on something, I figure out the calories, and then try to burn it off with exercise.0 -
This speaks volumes. It's an issue that you don't address. You have to really want this or it's never gonna happen.Now imagine if that was your own kid saying that to you. What would be the first thing you would advise them to do?
I don't know. I have the knowledge, but I don't stick to it. I do know though I have impulse control issues. One split of second, I have eaten something which I shouldn't, and the moment has passed and my diet is ruined.
I don't feel it is a big enough issue to see a councellor (and it cost money which I don't have) but it is definitely one of my biggest issues.
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These are good tidbits from Kristin.Here are some things that I am trying to keep in my for this time around:
* 1-2 lbs a week is good! Every loss is a loss.
* I am not in a rush
* Enjoy the small successes!
* This is a lifestyle change - so everything I do needs to be something I can do for the rest of my life
Take things day-by-day. Some days you're going to do really well. Some days you're going to just barely hit your goal. Some you're going to miss and eat something out of your normal diet that you didn't make up for with exercise. They're all okay. The key is to be consistently trying to hit your goal and take every day as a clean slate. Despite putting a lot of pressure on yourself to be perfect in your exercising and diet, you're going to tumble off the path at some point. We're human, it happens. It's just not feasible to be 100% on point for months on end when you have other priorities in your life, especially children. Realistically that pressure is only going to make you more likely to binge and crave comfort food; this has likely been your coping mechanism for a long time. That's a tough thing to break, so you'll have to slowly ween yourself away from it. Understand that if sometimes you just NEED some ice cream, that's okay - measure yourself one serving on a day where you exceeded your burn goal. Also start to find other things to cope with stress. I found boxing to be my favorite way to work on releasing stress. Find sweet treats that you're able to burn off quicker. For instance, my favorite ice cream is B&J's Coffee Heath Bar Crunch which weighs in at a hefty 280 calories per serving. That's tough to fit into a diet most of the time (and for most people, it's difficult to just eat 1/4th of a pint). Since I love coffee, a better choice for me is a tall iced coffee with 2% milk at Starbucks, which comes in at 90 calories, or an espresso frappuccino (similar to a coffee frappuccino, but with espresso shots instead of coffee syrup) if I can fit an extra 90 calories in on top of that and want that ice cream-esque texture.
As far as exercise - so what if you need support? That doesn't make you any different from most people. I realized long ago that I never go to the gym on my own - I have to go to group classes and work out with other people. That keeps me accountable and allows me to enjoy it more than going it alone. I respect anyone that can get up every morning to go running but it's just not me. I lost around 60 pounds doing group workouts (TRX, boxing, bootcamps, etc etc) and maintained that for years. l even managed to throw in solo workouts in my schedule where I'd go weight lifting, although it felt like a chore and I didn't care for it much. After a few years the gym I went to cut some of my favorite classes so I decided I could just do my own thing for awhile and join another gym after the summer, where I'm most active. Well, that didn't pan out :P I'm a little out of shape and have not been as mindful about my eating as I once was. That's okay. Life got in the way a bit, I made excuses for myself, and now I have to pay the consequences when I show up at bootcamp today! haha! There is nothing wrong with needing help and support from others, even if that's just working out around them, calling them to discuss your week's diet and exercises, etc. Always take advantage of any resources you have.
Diet and exercise, as others have said, are lifestyle changes not things you go crazy with for a few weeks to a few months to lose a bunch of weight quickly and then go back to your old ways. They're choices for the long haul. More specifically, they're DAILY choices to take control of your life, health and happiness. It's difficult at first to force yourself to REALLY evaluate choices like what to eat. For years we just ate what sounded good. "Ice cream for dinner? Sounds good!" haha. Now you have to think "okay, what is best for me calorically? How about protein for muscle recovery and building? How many carbs do I need to get through a tough workout? How much fiber does this have to keep me full so I don't snack on something I shouldn't later?" etc etc. Eventually, it becomes second nature. You start to find the foods that work best for you. You start to find the workouts you enjoy most and what works best for your body and goals. You start to lose your taste for sugar-laden foods because you love the feeling of being fit and healthy over feeling fat and lethargic and when you do have that donut, you appreciate it more as a treat and not as a meal (anyways your tolerance for treats with a LOT of sugar is down and you won't really want much more than one). Even if you fall off the wagon down the road and you're not working out as much as you used to, not sticking to a calorie diet like you used to...many of those new ways of thinking, eating, and exercising have become ingrained so you lean towards those over what you did before them. Replacing bad habits with healthy habits that you love just as much is key. You just can't tell someone who eats a lot of sugar that they can't have any more ever again. That's not realistic and it's not going to work. Give that person a granola chocolate chip Clif bar to replace chocolate chip cookies and that's when you are steering in the right direction. Deprivation does not work. Eventually the feeling of being fit and healthy is addicting and drinking something like soda (a total waste of calories) seems like an illogical choice to drinking water and maybe a Zico Chocolate Coconut Water as a treat sometime in the day. So that is the goal, in my mind: to feel fit and healthy, making healthy (and fun) lifestyle changes that always lead back to that feeling.0 -
Now imagine if that was your own kid saying that to you. What would be the first thing you would advise them to do?
I don't know. I have the knowledge, but I don't stick to it. I do know though I have impulse control issues. One split of second, I have eaten something which I shouldn't, and the moment has passed and my diet is ruined.
I don't feel it is a big enough issue to see a councellor (and it cost money which I don't have) but it is definitely one of my biggest issues.
A big problem I see is that one slip up counts as absolutely ruining your diet to you. So then I'm assuming you go "Whatever" and just start eating all sorts of stuff because it's over. Eating a few extra cookies isn't the end of it. Don't say it's over for today, don't say you'll start new tomorrow. Correct the mistake this second even if you only have 1/4 of a cookie left.0 -
Forgive me if this has already been posted and I missed it, but have you tried reading "The Beck Diet Solution"? I absolutely loved this book. It is a day by day method to prepare you for losing weight and to help you out with whichever weight loss plan you choose. Some of the topics didn't apply to me, but some definitely helped me immensely! Give it a read. Good luck!0
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I know the feeling, but........
The good news is you don't have to deprive yourself from food at all to lose weight!
Try MAKING real food in your kitchen only using fruits and vegetabes. Great thing about this is YOU CAN EAT AS MUCH AS YOU WANT! For example: Make vegetable stir-fry, add a little stirfri souce or soy souce or oyster souce, eat with 1 or 1/2 a cup of white or brown rice and there you go! you can eat as much as you want and and feel good about it.
Remove all processed food and white food from your diet and youll retrain your taist buds to accept real healthy food. Like vegetables.
Trust me, this works.
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There is so much good advice in your thread. There are some really smart people here.
I am in the 300 club. I know how you feel. Though I have never had kids, I have struggled with my weight my whole life. Recently (in January), I was diagnosed as living with diabetes and high blood pressure. I had no clue. I knew other issues, but I changed doctors (really needed to) and she did very extensive physical. Thank God she did! I was killing myself so slowly.
My recommendation is that if you haven't already done so, go to the doctor. Not to look at surgery or into diet pills (I've done both!!!) but to just get everything checked out.
Once I got started on meds for my diabetes and BP, I have watched EVERYTHING that has gone into my mouth. I check my blood sugars 2X/day; weigh 1X a week--same time, same place, same situation; and I log my food. Another thing I did was up my exercise. I was doing the bare minimum. I totally look forward to going to the gym now. I look forward to sweating. It took me several months, but I'm doing this thing! YOU CAN TOO!!
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OP: Sounds like you're beating yourself up over a lot of different things you can fix, but you're not giving yourself time to fix it. Don't say that you screwed up your diet when you binge or eat too much or over treat yourself. Just acknowledge that you over did it FOR THAT MEAL, pull yourself back up and get back on your plan for the next meal and set yourself a mini goal: tomorrow you're going to plan better and you have two goals: 1) stick to your plan for your mini goal 2) if you MUST do the binge food, this time you're going to think about it and how you can a) fit it into your plan for the day and/or b) is there something better for you that you can have (ie rather than full fat strawberry ice cream, is there low fat available or low fat frozen yogurt that you can have instead) just get back on track, use whatever mini goal works for you.
You set a big goal for a short period of time, give yourself smaller goals and more reasonable time frames (we're at baby steps here not giant leaps). Decide something like this: This week I'm going to cut out regular soda (or even, I'm going to cut down to having it only three times this week). Remember it takes AT LEAST 30 days to change a habit. If you don't make it the week before drinking regular soda, don't beat yourself up, just reset your goal from that day and TRY AGAIN. You don't have to set another goal until you accomplish this one, or if you think you're up to more then go for it, it's up to you. I haven't given up regular soda, but I have rules for myself to have it: I can't have it at home (don't even keep it in the house) I can only have it when I go out to a sit down restaurant and I can only have it when they have root beer (happens to be my favorite kind, and not many places have it, so needless to say, I drink a lot of water when I go out) That works for me, it may or may not work for you, but I found that when I deny myself I tend to crave things more, making them accessible, even if they happen not to be available removes that problem.
Have you had your general health checked by your doctor to see if there are any health problems? Get a check up, have him/her get labs done to make sure. Some depressive states can be due to simple imbalances in the general chemistries or hormones, could be why you're feeling blue (actually discovered that I have slightly low Vitamin D levels which can affect mood and how tired you are, by simply taking a supplement every day I'm back on track.) Check with your County or State Health Dept they may have free or low cost appointments available and may have counseling available too.
I spent YEARS doing the fad diets, spending a lot of money to lose weight, then gain it back when I lost interest in the program because it wasn't "working" anymore or I couldn't afford to continue. I quit MFP a few years ago because it "wasn't working." In 2011 I lost 40 lbs the wrong way, once again. I had to quit the program I was in because it was starving me and I couldn't stand not being able to enjoy the things I liked. Well, of course I started gaining weight back, tried Weight Watchers, didn't work, so joined a gym and returned to MFP.
I've gained back almost 30 of the 40 I lost in just over the past year since I came back to MFP. I tried the calorie numbers MFP suggested, I tried TDEE-20%, I tried Eat More to Weigh Less, if someone on MFP suggested something other than an extreme diet I tried it. The entire time I was being asked if I had a thyroid problem (I don't) said I must be doing the calculations wrong (suggested they do them for me... and they got the same number I did and had been trying for a few months). I tracked everything I could. I kept my exercise up to 5-6 days a week (one of them being working out with a personal trainer) except during two times: when I broke one of my toes in 2 places (I had to drop my walk/jog days during this time, but kept up with training, combat, and dance classes... all of which I did barefoot) and over the past two months when I had a mystery problem with one of my ankles (doctor never did figure it out, but it seems to be healing itself and I'm getting back into the walking/jogging I dropped and my trainer is going to start increasing my cardio at my training sessions.)
I kept saying that it's got to be something with the food... and we think I am right (we're still in testing phase on this, my food has been irratic over the past month because of travel for work.) All of the extreme dieting screwed up my metabolism, doctor sent me for one of those tests for metabolism (those pod thingy ones) and then to a registered dietician (insurance covered the dietician) turns out I do have a high metabolism, BUT the problem is that my metabolism is in preparation for winter mode, ie it's preparing for times when food is going to be sparse (the next fad diet that will cut my calories beyond reason) it does't know/care/understand that I am not planning to do that to it again, all it knows/cares/understands is that it happend at irregular intervals and it needs to make sure that the body survives. The RD gave me an eating plan that works better for me, I am horrible at tracking but I now know that I can have X number of proteins per day (she even gave me the amounts she wants me to eat for each meal), X number of fruits, X number of veggies (although I have permission to eat more if I am so inclined), X number of servings of grains (she even adapted the information on this because I am gluten free), X number of servings of dairy, and X number of servings of fats. She gave me a sheet with a list of all the foods for each section and I shared it with my trainer who now keeps track of me (I get asked three times a week when I see her for either training or combat class how the food is going.) Is it working? I don't know yet, it's only been about two months I'm still working out some of the bugs and I refuse to get on a scale at the moment (next time on a scale is at next doctor's appt in July, that's the only time you'll get me on one right now, I tend to get too obscessed with the scale numbers and this can send me over the edge.
So you need to find what works for you and it make take more time than you think. Just stick to the baby steps, make some supportive friends here, check out some of the groups to see if you find one that is a fit for you and join. Just don't give up, there is a light at the end of your tunnel, with each step you get one step closer0 -
Self-control is a muscle, if you don't use it you lose it.
I've read conflicting theories. Some people suggest that self-control, or will power, can be strengthened to a degree. But far more these days argue that will power is a limited resource so you have to choose carefully the targets to which you apply it. For example, don't bring home foods that are inconsistent with your diet. You'll be wasting will power trying to resist them.
Limited amount of will power? Nonsense. I've still got two or three dozen Cadbury eggs left from Easter, and three bags of chocolate covered freeze dried strawberries . I don't have any trouble at all resisting temptation. I know that some people have a problem with that sort of thing, but I can only speak for myself.0 -
It's a journey. Ups, downs, sideways, backwards and forwards. You have to make peace with your past or it will really screw up the present. You can't wait to lose 10lbs before you'll be happy... that's the future, and all you have is this moment. What are you waiting for? Permission? Forgiveness? Time is marching on. It never stops. Breath in, breath out, feel the joyous moment you've been given. You're alive, what a blessing!
All the successes and failures you've experienced are "yesterday". Today, right now is all you have. It doesn't really matter what you plan to do tomorrow. Right now, what you do is all that's important. It doesn't matter if 1 min ago, you ate an entire pumpkin pie or you just ran a marathon. That's the past. Time doesn't care if you plan to be happy once you find that perfect job. That's the future. What are you going to do right now.... that's all you have... right now. What do you want from life? What needs doing to get what you want? Then do it, right now.
Be mindful of the moments... that's the magic stuff life is made up of. Be grateful for your body, the way it is right now! It's perfect because it's you. It's the body that lets you experience LIFE. It's not too short, too tall, too skinny, too fat. It's perfect. Can it perform better? Of course it can. The journey, the goal is to be better today than yesterday, and worse than tomorrow - but all the while loving our body every damn moment we're blessed.0 -
I really appreciate this thread. I am back on the wagon again after having gained back 8 of the 9 pounds I lost. (We were travelling.) I, too, keep losing and gaining the same 10 pounds but I have to remind myself that I am still a size smaller than I was two years ago. And, if I didn't keep losing the same 10 pounds, I'd probably be about 50 pounds heavier than I am right now.
I'm not okay with the weight I am at now. And, I know I can do better! I will do better. And, so will you!
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Self-control is a muscle, if you don't use it you lose it.
I've read conflicting theories. Some people suggest that self-control, or will power, can be strengthened to a degree. But far more these days argue that will power is a limited resource so you have to choose carefully the targets to which you apply it. For example, don't bring home foods that are inconsistent with your diet. You'll be wasting will power trying to resist them.
Limited amount of will power? Nonsense. I've still got two or three dozen Cadbury eggs left from Easter, and three bags of chocolate covered freeze dried strawberries . I don't have any trouble at all resisting temptation. I know that some people have a problem with that sort of thing, but I can only speak for myself.
If you can only speak for yourself, why do you disagree with the previous poster? Obviously, you can control your urges, good for you, but other people can't. It's not always a matter of self-control. Food affects our hormones and neurotransmitters like alcohol and drugs. Some people don't have any problem with that, but some are addicts. And it's not "just" a lack of self-control.0 -
I have just sat down after my daily routine (work, kids, supper, bedtime) and I cannot thank you all enough for your support. Lots of great words are said... lots of it I already know.. I only call it a diet because it is "a way of eating"... I am not too restrictive with what I eat because I know otherwise I will not last.... I am now leaning towards low carb / high fat approach as I tend to be always hungry with carbs. I do drink lots of water, I don't log it because it is never a problem, it can range even 4-5 litters a day (again I am not thirsty that much but I try to fill up my stomach with something).
Food is an addiction, the way of harming myself, I either love it or hate it. I feel sad and low without it. My eyes always want more than I am supposed to eat. If I could eat as much as I like and remain thin, I would probably bathe in food, so much I feel addicted. I do not normally eat junk. All sorts of healthy foods, enormous quantities of it, would do. That is why I chose low carb / high fat diet, hoping I will be fuller with small amounts and my stomach will eventually shrink. Not sure if this is happening, but it is slightly easier with cravings. At least I don't crave bread, biscuits, cruasants anymore.
I guess the reason I am losing the battle is because I can eat 1000s of calories within 30 mins and be far over my calorie limit and increase my weight. Again, these are not excuses. I pick up myself and start every day. MFP gave me an impression that all of you are successful, and it is only me who goes back and forth. I was wrong - and I have got many new MFP friends because of this thread. Thank you for all of this.0 -
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