Having unsupportive family sucks!

My opinion, ignore what she says! You've been doing so well from what I could tell. Sometimes you have to rely on an external support rather than your own family. I know that family usually know you the best, but for something like this, it's just not the case. And from what I've read, dark chocolate is a lot healthier for you than milk chocolate. And good for you saving it for later. It's great that you have such awesome support on this site!

Yep, It sucks when family members never really do anything to make the load easier. =_=

Yes, I relate. If I want to accomplish something positive, I have to sneak it. They have a "kick her when she's down" philosophy and if they find my Achilles heel, they will shoot arrows at it. They are oppositional to everything. Total energy and time suckers. I have no real advice. The best I can do is keep my mouth shut and not share any goals or interests with them because that gives them a target to attack. Sorry you're dealing with so much negativity. I know it sucks.

Just do like I did and move 2,100 miles away on short notice. That'll teach 'em.

In all seriousness, I don't even mention my diet or exercise regimens to family members who either won't care or will be judgmental about it. It's hard with family because you can't exactly pick them, unlike friends. I can tell you right now, I get a lot more support and encouragement from my friends than I do from my family, and that includes both my own blood relatives and my in-laws.

Sorry to hear your family isn't so friendly about your goals. I have the opposite problem . Instead of tearing down my efforts they just don't acknowledge anything at all. Good OR Bad. UNLESS i put it in their face. HEY LOOK AT WHAT I DID then i will get feed back. I know that some may not care and some are just so wrapped up in their own lives that they lose site of what others around them may be doing. Then you have those who do notice when they see you and tell you just how great you are doing. If everyone is used to you being large and you show up small or the other way around they will have a reaction for you trust me. But don't be surprised with what they may say, or the looks you may get from them. All you can do is listen and thank them for their input and move on. My family is used to seeing me on the smaller side but we don't see each other often so they have a hard time remembering just how much i had changed over the years. My mother heard i had lost 15 lbs and figured i should be at my goal weight already. I STILL HAD ABOUT 40 TO GO !! Any way just keep doing what your doing as long as it works for you. Everyone else will come around or they wont but the only thing you need to worry about is you. BEST OF LUCK TO YOU !!

Family dynamics can be super complicated. From the short time I've known you here on MFP I can tell you're really an amazing person who has determination. Don't let the negativity coming from parents deter you from your goals! You definitely should eat that dark chocolate and savor it knowing that it's a healthier choice than most sweets.

I'm here in Toronto with just my partner carving a life of our own and no family within an 8hr drive... so I can't totally relate, but I do know that when I see my mom next she'll try to give me unsolicited advice on healthy living and boss me around as much as possible (I think that's an attempt to regain control of me as if I was a child). I just brush it off now and nod along... then do what I want anyway.

OMG - Families are the WORST!!! UGH - My mother would tell me I was fat when I wasn't - as soon as I hit puberty, I put on a little weight (seriously - maybe a LITTLE pudge, but not much at all), and all the sudden I was labeled "fat". She got on me for EVERYTHING I ate - from the pieces of dark chocolate to the salads (don't put on too much dressing!), to everything and anything. I got so tired of hearing it, that I started sneaking food, but then my brother and sister would hide in the cabinets, wait for me to go and try to sneak something and jump out of the cabinets to scare me.

Any money I made from babysitting went to buy junk food. My parent's couldn't figure out why I never had any money. DUH!

That's just the beginning of a LONG dramatic saga on how I got to gain lots of weight and never being able to handle the emotional stress of it all. Even after arguing with them endlessly that I'm the only one who can lose this weight, they can't lose it for me, and all their blathering about it doesn't help, and in fact, does more harm than good; and I'd tell them that if/when I chose to lose weight it was going to be my choice, and not because they badgered me into it.

That day did eventually come, but along with it came tools from doctors that I trusted on how to do it the right way. Seeing a therapist, seeing a nutritionist/dietician, being accountable via several avenues, and doing what they told me to do - then growing a "suit of armor" so that it didn't matter what they said, it wouldn't derail me. I could tell them - "That's not part of the master plan. I've set myself up for success, I'm listening to the right people and that ain't you."

Sometimes family thinks they are being supportive when they are not. I have had issues with my family also trying to sabotage without realizing they are doing it. At my heaviest my mom hounded me about my weight and how fat I was. I finally confronted her and asked if she loved me less because I was fat. It made her step back and realize how hurtful her words were. She also told me that she thought I was beautiful and hat she did not want me to struggle all my adult life with weight as she did. I no longer tell anyone when I am dieting, instead I say I am trying to make healthier choices. You look as if you are doing amazing, and just a side note, dark chocolate is really good for you. The closer a food is to it's natural state the better it is for you! Keep you feet planted firmly on your journey,