the effect of your boyfriends on your diet?

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  • thalia8424
    thalia8424 Posts: 12 Member
    my hubby seems to like my better fat. every time i try to diet he does things that sabotage me like bringing cookies to bed at 10pm! it's crazy. the other day i had to ask him if he cared about my happiness at all. i think that finally woke him up.
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
    In my case, it's more like MY effect on THEIR diets.

    +1. it either takes time, or it doesn't take.
  • mockchoc
    mockchoc Posts: 6,573 Member
    You are in control of what you eat or don't eat. You can go out to eat but just make better choices and let him eat what he likes and at home do similar. Best thing you can do is add more veggies to whatever you eat to make you fuller for less calories. Have a little of the other stuff. You have to live it up a bit too.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    my hubby seems to like my better fat. every time i try to diet he does things that sabotage me like bringing cookies to bed at 10pm! it's crazy. the other day i had to ask him if he cared about my happiness at all. i think that finally woke him up.

    Well if he makes things or brings me things, it is up to me to make the decision to eat it or not. By 10 p.m. I know if I have any calories left for the day. If I don't, I say, "no thanks, honey, can you put that in the cupboard and I'll eat it tomorrow." Then tomorrow I will make room in my calories for it. He used to ask me why I would never ever make brownies and I told him I can't because I will eat the whole pan. So he started making brownies for himself when he wanted them. Yes, it was hard for me to not eat the whole pan, but eventually I got to the point where I could ignore them. Now, I can eat just one and not eat the whole pan. He is not trying to sabotage me, he just wanted brownies, and just because I don't want them doesn't mean he shouldn't have them in the house. It was on ME to decide whether to eat them or not, and how much, and get control over my issues.
  • josie_bean
    josie_bean Posts: 1
    I really glad it's not just me! As a couple of people have said, I don't think he does it on purpose, but it is often difficult to cook a healthy meal together, without him wanting to add extra cheese or oil or salt! Eating together in the evening, as we both work 9-5 is quite important, I think and it's sometimes challenging to find a middle ground to suit us both. I am finding that having something hot and healthy at lunchtime (maybe a soup) and then a cold picnic type dinner together in the evening means we don't have to eat the same foods.

    He is in the process of giving up smoking though, so so I can't blame him too much for making naughty food-decisions :-)
  • sbarella
    sbarella Posts: 713 Member
    If you think your boyfriend isn't supportive, think about a friend of mine: her boyfriend is training as a pastry chef. :laugh:
  • maria_stafeler
    maria_stafeler Posts: 41
    If you think your boyfriend isn't supportive, think about a friend of mine: her boyfriend is training as a pastry chef. :laugh:
    Lucky my bf doesnt work in food sector. Thank you all for your supports. I am new here. I love this site. We will talk and across many things together. Kisses all.
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    my hubby seems to like my better fat. every time i try to diet he does things that sabotage me like bringing cookies to bed at 10pm! it's crazy. the other day i had to ask him if he cared about my happiness at all. i think that finally woke him up.

    Well if he makes things or brings me things, it is up to me to make the decision to eat it or not. By 10 p.m. I know if I have any calories left for the day. If I don't, I say, "no thanks, honey, can you put that in the cupboard and I'll eat it tomorrow." Then tomorrow I will make room in my calories for it. He used to ask me why I would never ever make brownies and I told him I can't because I will eat the whole pan. So he started making brownies for himself when he wanted them. Yes, it was hard for me to not eat the whole pan, but eventually I got to the point where I could ignore them. Now, I can eat just one and not eat the whole pan. He is not trying to sabotage me, he just wanted brownies, and just because I don't want them doesn't mean he shouldn't have them in the house. It was on ME to decide whether to eat them or not, and how much, and get control over my issues.

    Jedi mind trick alert!

    Seriously though, on this I agree with you. None of us were force-fed to get this fat (I assume?) so it's up to us to make ourselves thin again. Just because we are on a diet doesn't mean they should be too.

    By being supportive I mean helping make sure shared meals fit into my diet (he doesn't mind this - he's actually enjoying having more veg), and fuzzy emotional support and encouragement. I don't mean banning foods from the house, doing the same diet plan as me, logging my calories for me etc. or even not having the odd chippy or take away. That said, he does hide his junk food in "his" cupboard so I don't see it (at my request).
  • tesstcool
    tesstcool Posts: 38 Member
    My boyfriend gives me a lot of crap about measuring out all my food and calls me obsessive. He has always been underweight, and he eats more than anyone I have ever met and never works out, so he does not understand the struggle. He is consistently offering me foods I shouldn't eat and says it'll be ok if I go over "a little." I just ignore him when it comes to food!

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