Mourning my dad without gaining millions of pounds - how?

I am sorry, this is terrible. I can only imagine how you feel and I hope your heart starts to heal soon!

While I cant offer any advice I can TRY to empathize...
Im struggling right now too.
My grandfather just passed away about two weeks ago.
Leaving us with my grandmother who has Alzheimer and dementia to move in.
Our dogs dont get along, we dont have enough water ( showers etc ) /food/income/ and space.
I had to move all my stuff out of my room into the cold back room and no one is getting along.
Lots of screaming, arguing, etc.
This all paired with the loss of him just is so stressful, Ive been secretly binging 2,000 - 3,000+ calories a night...

All I can say is cut yourself a little slack. This is a very dramatic and sad time and you do need to mourn.
If you're over, dont beat yourself up too hard. Everyone needs time. Maybe just stop loggin for a few weeks ... calorie counting is the least of your worries right now.

Try to up your protein and fiber intake, this helps me a lot... along with seltzer waters to get that full feeling.
Maybe even kicking your frustrations through a good workout
You said you're going grocery shopping .. is it possible someone else could if you cant resist buying temptation foods?
If you dont have the ingredients to bake or eat sugary stuff, you cant eat them

I'm so sorry.

Here are my thoughts. It JUST happened. Give yourself some time, you may go through some different phases over the next few weeks. Do not stress yourself over your eating during this time. Do not weigh yourself either because you may fluctuate due to sodium and if this is going to upset you, just don't weigh. If after a few weeks you are not able to stop, then look for some ways to try to put the brakes on. But right now, just give yourself some time.

First, give yourself some time (a few weeks) to just process. Don't worry about your weight or anything. Exercise is a good distraction, and remember eating won't make you feel better. But seriously, don't stress about the weight right now. You aren't going to gain a million pounds in 2 weeks.

Think about getting some counseling, possibly for your entire family. See if you can help your mother with that. Look at what your insurance covrs (if you have insurance).

Then a few weeks start thinking about your weight again. Maybe try to use it as a bit of a distraction.

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Feck. That's awful.

My dad died of cancer on the 21st January and leading up to and past that, I've maintained my training schedule thinking that it would help me to cope. I don't know if it has... I suppose it has. I feel crap but who knows, I could feel much worse? Leading up to his death, my eating was pretty questionable as we spent a lot of time at the hospice so I was really guestimating my food intake. I don't think my physique has suffered, though, due to keeping up my training. And when it came to the crunch, I was there with him as he breathed his last. :frown:

I agree with those who say don't worry about your calories right now... and I also agree with givinig yourself time to grieve, taking a break, and maybe going to grief counselling might be good. When my father died, i remember that focusing on much of anything, including caloric intake, was hard. I also remember that going for runs was sort of beautiful meditative alone time.

Stay strong

I'm so sorry to hear this.

I lost my brother pretty suddenly almost two years ago. As a person with existing binging issues it was a difficult time for me weight/fitness wise.

Be patient with yourself. Seek out a grief counselor to assist you and your family. And understand that you will act irrationally at times when dealing with such a difficult situation, eventually you'll start to be able to identify when you're acting out of grief and it will get easier to deal with/curb the irrational behavior.

It just takes time. And we all grieve differently.

I am so sorry for your loss. :frown:

I am so sorry! I don't really have any good advice for you. I've lost close family members, but I know that's not the same as losing your father. Just try not to give yourself a hard time about it. Maybe go out for a walk whenever you feel like eating, if you can. When you get the urge to eat, distract yourself. And see a counselor if you need to. There's absolutely no shame in doing so.