How much do I look like i weigh?

katherinelav2
katherinelav2 Posts: 29
in Health and Weight Loss
look at my main picture..
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  • AJ_G
    AJ_G Posts: 4,158 Member
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  • arrseegee
    arrseegee Posts: 575 Member
    a healthy BMI. why does it matter?
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    Im wondering because i weigh more than i look (i think) just want others opinions..
  • stanleypoobrick
    stanleypoobrick Posts: 71 Member
    well it would entirely depend on how tall you are. if you're short it could be 120-130 with low body fat/high muscle, but a tall person would weigh closer to 160-170.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    I am 5'4 ish
  • FitnFeistyLyness
    FitnFeistyLyness Posts: 757 Member
    lol.. AJ..

    i dont guess peoples weight, but AJ cracked me up

    you look great .. how do you feel? thats what matters?
  • stanleypoobrick
    stanleypoobrick Posts: 71 Member
    I am 5'4 ish

    then I'd say roughly 125lb, but you're not going to be happy with what anybody says.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    Im not sure.. I feel chunky at what I am right now. and my mom wants me to loose 10lbs.. but I'm not sure if thats healthy. I'm just really confused with how i look. and my mom is like really skinny and is so focused on her looks. so sometimes I feel like maybe she wants me too look like a VS model but maybe i do need to loose 10 lbs to look my best.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    i weigh 142 ish.. and I'm actually closer to 5'5 just measured myself lol
  • pastryari
    pastryari Posts: 8,646 Member
    Im not sure.. I feel chunky at what I am right now. and my mom wants me to loose 10lbs.. but I'm not sure if thats healthy. I'm just really confused with how i look. and my mom is like really skinny and is so focused on her looks. so sometimes I feel like maybe she wants me too look like a VS model but maybe i do need to loose 10 lbs to look my best.

    How old are you?
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    18.
  • EpsilonGamma
    EpsilonGamma Posts: 96
    I reckon you look find. Do you want to tone up ? Losing weigh doesn't always mean better looking. Up your protein a little bit and don't be afraid of doing some weights.

    Ask a trainer for some advice.
  • arrseegee
    arrseegee Posts: 575 Member
    Im not sure.. I feel chunky at what I am right now. and my mom wants me to loose 10lbs.. but I'm not sure if thats healthy. I'm just really confused with how i look. and my mom is like really skinny and is so focused on her looks. so sometimes I feel like maybe she wants me too look like a VS model but maybe i do need to loose 10 lbs to look my best.

    You look healthy and strong. Your mother doesn't get to dictate your weight.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    I do want to look better. I don't feel very skinny or lean. and i want to be.. but I'm not sure if 10 lbs is healthy..
  • stanleypoobrick
    stanleypoobrick Posts: 71 Member
    Im not sure.. I feel chunky at what I am right now. and my mom wants me to loose 10lbs.. but I'm not sure if thats healthy. I'm just really confused with how i look. and my mom is like really skinny and is so focused on her looks. so sometimes I feel like maybe she wants me too look like a VS model but maybe i do need to loose 10 lbs to look my best.
    you're a thin girl. if YOU feel like you'd like to weigh less then lose weight; if you're just doing it because your mum is hurtful then she's the problem and you should tell her it makes you uncomfortable and you're happy how you are. you could work out your BMI for now and if you were 10lbs lighter and see if they're both healthy, but ultimately BMI and weight are arbitrary health statistics and you should be more concerned about how well your body is running. if you were to lose weight, you wouldn't have to lose much and you wouldn't need to do it quickly - so instead of focusing on trying to reach a certain number you should just make healthier changes to your lifestyle. do exercise because it gives you endorphins and makes you fit/strong - not to "burn calories".
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    I do want to look better. I don't feel very skinny or lean. and i want to be.. but I'm not sure if 10 lbs is healthy..

    You don't need to lose any weight, especially not just to please your mom.
    If you'd like to look leaner, i suggest doing some kind of resistance training. Do you workout at all?
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    I have been working out every day for the last like 2 weeks.. and i loose weight relatively quick because i don't eat bad food. i don't feel like i look 142 but whenever my mom sees the scale she flips. I mean it makes me self conscious and i do want to loose weight but I'm not sure how much. i guess thats more my question. she wants me to be 135 and maybe thats good, but i want to look fit not anorexic. and i have told her to stay out of it, but she gets all crazy she chased me around the house with a scale one time lol. its funny now but I'm a little confused on how i look because of her..
  • eeeekie
    eeeekie Posts: 1,011 Member
    I don't think you look anything like 142lbs. You look like you weigh less than that. Personally I feel like 10lbs would be too much. You should focus on maintaining. Your moms opinion is just that, her opinion. She obviously has some sort of issue with weight and health if she thinks you should lose 10lbs and is focused on barrading you to make you feel confused and upset.

    p.s
    STOP weighing in front of your mom. She's doing more harm than good.
  • obesemonster
    obesemonster Posts: 4 Member
    Compared to majority of American females 16-20 yrs. old you look just fine. NO NEED FOR ADDITIONAL WT. LOSS, IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED SOMETHING MORE PERHAPS JUST BODY TONING EXERCISES. BUT BELIEVE ME YOU LOOK JUST FINE!
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    I have been working out every day for the last like 2 weeks.. and i loose weight relatively quick because i don't eat bad food. i don't feel like i look 142 but whenever my mom sees the scale she flips. I mean it makes me self conscious and i do want to loose weight but I'm not sure how much. i guess thats more my question. she wants me to be 135 and maybe thats good, but i want to look fit not anorexic. and i have told her to stay out of it, but she gets all crazy she chased me around the house with a scale one time lol. its funny now but I'm a little confused on how i look because of her..

    Your mom obviously has some body issues. You need to understand that those are HER issues and she is just projecting them on you. You are at a healthy weight. Like i've already said, you don't NEED to lose weight.

    If you lost 10 pounds, you'd still be at a healthy weight. Do you feel like you'd be happier 10 pounds lighter? Then do it. If not.. don't, you look perfectly fine.
  • stanleypoobrick
    stanleypoobrick Posts: 71 Member
    I have been working out every day for the last like 2 weeks.. and i loose weight relatively quick because i don't eat bad food. i don't feel like i look 142 but whenever my mom sees the scale she flips. I mean it makes me self conscious and i do want to loose weight but I'm not sure how much. i guess thats more my question. she wants me to be 135 and maybe thats good, but i want to look fit not anorexic. and i have told her to stay out of it, but she gets all crazy she chased me around the house with a scale one time lol. its funny now but I'm a little confused on how i look because of her..
    first of all, I've suffered with anorexia for the past 5 years, and you shouldn't say things like "look anorexic". anorexia is a mental disorder with a higher mortality rate than any other mental illness and not just the state of being thin.

    secondly, there's lots of good advice on here but the main thing you should take away from this is that it's YOUR body, not your mother's. if you work out a lot, then your body weight is probably higher than you think you look because of muscle mass, but we're not going to change your mind if you aren't happy. as someone who suffers from disordered eating, I really think you need to not focus on arbitrary numbers like weight and pay more attention to treating your body with care i.e. carry on eating well and exercising and not pushing yourself too far.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    Well i try to weigh by myself but she always is like "lets weigh and see where your at" she's just so obsessed with how i look. and she's probably the same weight as me. i don't get it. i mean my boyfriend loves how i look and i know he means it. but I'm not confident or happy with myself because I'm just so confused. she tells me that he won't tell me how i really look because he doesn't want to hurt my feelings which could be true. but she had a good point that he's a year older than me and when he goes to college there will be so many gorgeous skinny girls. i want to look better but i have no clue how much to loose.
  • DawnieB1977
    DawnieB1977 Posts: 4,248 Member
    You look fine and healthy. If you feel good, healthy and fit and look good in clothes, then why would your mum say you need to lose 10lbs. It's not like you're overweight.

    I always look lighter than I actually am. My personal trainer was always surprised by my weight. So I've learned to worry more about how I feel, body fat percentage, and the size of my clothes! Before I got pregnant I was 154lbs at 5'6 and wearing a US size 6/8.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    Im sorry, i didn't think about the whole anorexic thing. I didn't mean it in any bad way. i just mean i don't want too look unhealthy..
  • stanleypoobrick
    stanleypoobrick Posts: 71 Member
    Im sorry, i didn't think about the whole anorexic thing. I didn't mean it in any bad way. i just mean i don't want too look unhealthy..
    oh, I know! I'm sorry for snapping, I know you didn't say it intentionally but it's a harmful thing and a lot of people say it as a synonym for thin. like I said, your body is yours and it's the only one you'll ever have so just continue to treat it well and stay healthy. the best piece of advice I can give you is to not care what others think of your body. you shouldn't lose weight for anyone - not your mother, not your boyfriend, nobody. if you allow yourself to be swayed by what they think, then it's an endless slope where you compare yourself to everybody around you and eventually to the unattainable VS/runway models. you're healthy, you work out and you eat well so you have nothing to worry about.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    Thank you to be honest I don't think I will ever be content with myself. So i guess thats why I listen so much to other people, because if they think i look good then I must.. I'm not sure. its weird
  • mfp2014mfp
    mfp2014mfp Posts: 689 Member
    she tells me that he won't tell me how i really look because he doesn't want to hurt my feelings which could be true

    This is an absolutely horrid and untrue thing for your mother to say. I am so sorry!
    My father did similar things to me about my looks and its taken years for me to come to terms with the fact these were his issues not mine. Please know if someone says something like that to you they do not have your best interests at heart. You are 18, start standing up for yourself and set some boundaries with her about what is ok and what is not, it will help you build your self-esteem. Btw in answer to your original question you have a lovely healthy body, you should be proud :flowerforyou:
  • arrseegee
    arrseegee Posts: 575 Member
    Well i try to weigh by myself but she always is like "lets weigh and see where your at" she's just so obsessed with how i look. and she's probably the same weight as me. i don't get it. i mean my boyfriend loves how i look and i know he means it. but I'm not confident or happy with myself because I'm just so confused. she tells me that he won't tell me how i really look because he doesn't want to hurt my feelings which could be true. but she had a good point that he's a year older than me and when he goes to college there will be so many gorgeous skinny girls. i want to look better but i have no clue how much to loose.

    I think you need to set some boundaries. Her making you stand on the scale is fckng outrageous, particularly if she's then using this an an opportunity to criticise you and then put doubt in your head about your relationship. Tell her where to go, that your weight is your issue, and you don't think it's any of her business. Because it's not. This is your thing, not hers, and what you are describing is really destructive to your self-esteem.
  • Dewymorning
    Dewymorning Posts: 762 Member
    Tell your mum that know that you are 18 your weight is non of her beeswax, and to stay out of it.

    Or move out of home.
  • katherinelav2
    katherinelav2 Posts: 29
    I know.. I have been standing up for myself lately.. but i don't feel good about myself anymore.. my younger sister is just like my mom when she gets mad at me she calls me really mean things that have to do with my being overweight. so i guess i always feel like i am overweight because why would she say that otherwise

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