Feeling low

You shouldn`t let one ignorant person get you down, clearer the slate and start again, get back on to the clean healthy eating and start the exercise again, if you feel you can`t go to the gym, get a dvd that you can do at home until you have the confidence to go back, also you can go for long walks as well, instead, remember its all about cal in vs cal out

Hey you've done really well, just allow yourself a setback and get back on the horse!

Few of us feel good or perfect in the presence of others but they only have a power to make us feel bad if we hand that power to them - just stay busy being you, they don't matter. :flowerforyou:


Here's a funny for you:

Why did the Baker have brown hands?

Because he kneaded a poo!!!!!!! :bigsmile:


ETA - if your diet is too hard try changing it rather than giving in. I only had 28lbs to lose but refused to starve so only cut back to 1400 cals and lost if just fine over about 7mths. You CAN do it.

Hi Jaqui, I know just what you mean about feeling embarrassed at the gym when someone is derisive. When a gym trainer gave me a dirty look I just gave it right back, I was angry. I need to be at the gym more than any of those thin people, and they are hypocrites for discouraging someone. Shame on them. I have a right to be there and to be proud of being there, and so do you! Also, I agree with the earlier poster who replied to you that a dvd at home will be a good alternative to the gym. That worked for me years ago when I just happened to find a great dvd in a sale bin, it really turned my life around to use that one every day at home. It was fun too. Any activity and positive attitude you can do for yourself that is enjoyable to you will be moving in the right direction.

Good Morning ~ Here's to a new day, a clean slate! Other than having this "safe" community of like minded thinkers, what has worked for me is to become my own best cheerleader! I had to become selfish and determine this new lifestyle was my own responsibility - and no one, not even those who love me best could be anything but support. This way, when I have a challenge or negative remarks in my face, I can respond with "It's all about ME". I only acknowledge good and healthy feedback, everything else is dismissed as noise. Keep the faith and believe in what you can do.

I find that for me fad diets do not work. Ever. I mean, yeah, I lose weight for the month or two I have enough determination and will power to stick to the plan, but then I get complacent, remember how much I love food and go right back to the way I was before.

The best thing I have ever done is not really change what I eat at all, but how much of it how often. I don't deny myself anything. If I want chocolate, I will damn well have it, as long as it fits in with the rest of my foods. If it doesn't, well, I'll jump on wiifit for half an hour and earn it.

Also, if you're discouraged so easily from gym and your eating program maybe you don't really want it that badly. Which is absolutely fine, but I think it's worth realising that this magical "motivation" folk keep gaining and losing is always there, it's just a matter of how lazy or dedicated you're feeling that day. Motivation is something people use as an excuse.

The most important thing, I think, is learning how to support yourself. Relying on other folks is just asking for trouble because, realistically, no one cares about you like you do. There's nothing wrong with gleaning warmth from support, but there is something wrong with it being a main motivating factor. There is also nothing wrong with f***ing up, everyone does it and in the end it will probably make you a better person. Success without failure is not really success at all.

I know it's hard not to let the stupid people in the world get to you. Basically, I've trained myself to ignore other people at the gym. I'm not there to "win friends and influence people" - I'm there to improve myself. Remember, I may be fat, but I can get skinny - they will always be insensitive clods.

Realize too that you're human, and allow yourself to stumble and not be bummed about it when it happens. I stumbled frequently this last week, and still lost 3.5 pounds. I know it won't be that much next week, but it's a start in the right direction.

The two things that have helped me most are:
1: Focus on protein, and the fats/carbs will take care of themselves
2: Increase fiber. I like Chocolite Protein bars to help with actually the fiber and the protein. They're about 100 calories, sugar free/gluten free, they have about 10g protein and 10g fiber. My fav's are triple chocolate fudge and cookies n cream.

Hi Jaqui, I know just what you mean about feeling embarrassed at the gym when someone is derisive. When a gym trainer gave me a dirty look I just gave it right back, I was angry. I need to be at the gym more than any of those thin people, and they are hypocrites for discouraging someone. Shame on them. I have a right to be there and to be proud of being there, and so do you! Also, I agree with the earlier poster who replied to you that a dvd at home will be a good alternative to the gym. That worked for me years ago when I just happened to find a great dvd in a sale bin, it really turned my life around to use that one every day at home. It was fun too. Any activity and positive attitude you can do for yourself that is enjoyable to you will be moving in the right direction.

I think it's horrible that anyone was mean to OP at the gym, but please don't say that you need to be there more than any of those "thin people". You don't know any one's individual story, or why they are there. We all need to be there.
Any gym trainer that gives you a dirty look for being at the gym is in the wrong profession.

People are actually laughing at you? That is horrible. These people need to realize that not everyone is born to be blessed with great genetics. I know it takes a lot of hard work and dedication too but they should realize you are at least trying. Don't let them get you down. Do you happen to have a Curves gym in your area? They are for women only and most of them are not the skinny young ones! You may feel more comfortable. If you don't have one then just keep going to the gym you are going to and don't pay one bit of attention to them! Walk in like you own the place!!! I would much rather be overweight than have a cold heart like them. I want you to read this link I am going to post. One of my friends who is also a trainer at the gym I go to posted if on Facebook last week and I love it!
http://ericamillard.com/?p=1566

So glad you are back on your meds. That will help. Like the others have said, the only thing you can control is your reaction to the crap that happens to you in life. I used to feel the same way. I LOVE to dance. But I would go to the clubs, be having a great time, and then I would feel like someone was laughing at me, that guys were dancing with me because it was funny. After I started working out and losing a few pounds, even while I knew I was still chunky, I just felt so good about taking control of my life that I cared less and less what others thought. I was finally proud of who I am. I could look at those other people in the clubs and know that I EARNED that night out with friends who loved me no matter what. I wouldn't let them take the fun away from me. Same at the gym. I never used to be able to walk into a fitness class unless I was shored up by the presence of good friends. Now I go and just give it my all. Don't care that I'm one of the biggest women in the class. Doesn't matter that the crazy fit women were out-exercising me. I just knew that months before I couldn't physically be doing what I was doing right then! That I had improved, all by myself. That was stronger, thinner, faster, etc. All me! I'm the only one who truly knows the struggles I have had in my life and what I have overcome. Same with you! Those other women may be laughing at you, or they could be laughing and just happen to be looking in your direction. Either way...forget them! YOU are stronger, YOU are thinner, YOU are taking control of something that has been controlling YOU for so long! And THAT is something to be proud of and keep fighting for. If you stop going because of them, then they WIN! You have let them take that away from you. You don't want to give them that power. You can do this!