Frustrated with nonMFP people!!!

So where I work EVERYONE is super skinny and eats and drinks non stop but few have kids and all work out like crazy! I have lost close to 60 pounds over the last year and have completely changed my mindset and plan to keep going, this is who I am now. I am told often how great I look by coworkers but the fact that I get teased all the time because no one wants to work with me because I never want to eat out or have treats is getting old. Lately people are choosing to work in our other office when they can and make a big day of it and eat all day long... the constant digs are annoying...is food really that big of a deal?!

I don't really understand what the problem is. If it really bothers you that much eat what they eat during the day.......and then don't eat anymore. Or....You could decide you don't really care what other people think.

That's the thing, I've never turned them down because they never asked since I started losing. They make the decision for me... I think they believe they are doing me a favour but it's ticking me off now.

That doesn't sound consistent with your earlier statement...

"...no one wants to work with me because I never want to eat out..."

If you aren't turning them down because they aren't asking, how would they know you "never want to eat out"?

Seems to me they're getting a solid "don't ask me!" signal from you.

That's the thing, I've never turned them down because they never asked since I started losing. They make the decision for me... I think they believe they are doing me a favour but it's ticking me off now.

Maybe they don't want to affect your amazing habit changes or tempt you with their decisions to go out. You should definitely approach them instead of letting it fester within you. If they're just being rude and not inviting you, why would you want to spend time with them anyway!? Keep up the good work!

Dang..stop worrying about what other people say and do and do for you! If you are good with your choices and happy then get past it already! You can join in with them just control what you stick in your mouth! If you don't like them then dont worry about it!

That's the thing, I've never turned them down because they never asked since I started losing. They make the decision for me... I think they believe they are doing me a favour but it's ticking me off now.

Do you get along with these people? They may sense you are annoyed. Try to be friendly and happy

That's the thing, I've never turned them down because they never asked since I started losing. They make the decision for me... I think they believe they are doing me a favour but it's ticking me off now.

Here's a thought OP, take some initiative and ASK THEM where they are going for lunch that day. ASK to go, SUGGEST a place that has choices you will be able to eat and they will like as well. Maybe they think you don't want to go anymore because of your new habits. I agree with another post that said you were whiny, you kinda have the Woe is me attitude with this! If you don't like being left behind, take some initiative and be the one to ask what the plans are. Nothing will change with your coworkers unless you do I!

Invite them to lunch...

I have lost almost as much as you in the course of a year and it doesn't stop people from asking me because I ask them.

I have cake at birthdays...when we do go out I order what I want (ff and chicken fingers) with gravy...people see me eat all food as nothing is bad....

I haven't advertised I am counting calories they just see me getting smaller...no idea how (I actually think they believe I work out all the time)

That's the thing, I've never turned them down because they never asked since I started losing. They make the decision for me... I think they believe they are doing me a favour but it's ticking me off now.

Here's a thought OP, take some initiative and ASK THEM where they are going for lunch that day. ASK to go, SUGGEST a place that has choices you will be able to eat and they will like as well. Maybe they think you don't want to go anymore because of your new habits. I agree with another post that said you were whiny, you kinda have the Woe is me attitude with this! If you don't like being left behind, take some initiative and be the one to ask what the plans are. Nothing will change with your coworkers unless you do I!

Have to agree take the initative... because maybe its not about the food! If were me id be WTF..and make them tell me to my face they dont want me around.

I observe daily the communal eaters that have clearly bonded to form their own groups of which I'm not a part. Maybe it's my slightly introverted and independent nature but personally I'm not bothered in the least. I view these groups in the same way as do the smokers or after-work drinkers (never smoked and recently stopped drinking). I have more important issues to deal with in my life and when it comes to my diet I have no intention of being derailed by peer pressure (real or perceived).

Frankly because I understand their position and vice-versa I have no problems with these people. We still talk and sometimes I will still get asked to go to lunch with them but invariably politely decline. Many of them are pizza eating gym fanatics but rarely rib me on my eating habits. In fact, some of them have started eating similarly (porridge with blackberries, apple, and cinnamon is now very popular in the office).

The only negative since I started to approach my target weight is that I'm now sensing some co-workers think I need feeding up. Today being a typical example - chocolate bars, savoury snacks, mini-mars, coconut & chocolate biscuits, home-baked treats all either appearing on my desk or being offered. The home-made ones are of course the hardest to decline.