HELP! My love interest wants me to just stay fat!

I think he must be lying considering he is male.

Right.

Ok.

Maybe quit smoking the medicinal substances, they make you paranoid lol!

And again, what if she has to? Medicinal substance for a medical reason?

Just sayin, smoking stuff makes people paranoid, medicinal or not. I think it's a pretty paranoid post, especially the bit about guys being liars.

Maybe quit smoking the medicinal substances, they make you paranoid lol!

And again, what if she has to? Medicinal substance for a medical reason?

Just sayin, smoking stuff makes people paranoid, medicinal or not. I think it's a pretty paranoid post, especially the bit about guys being liars.

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Maybe quit smoking the medicinal substances, they make you paranoid lol!

And again, what if she has to? Medicinal substance for a medical reason?

Just sayin, smoking stuff makes people paranoid, medicinal or not. I think it's a pretty paranoid post, especially the bit about guys being liars.

Are you calling OP paranoid?

That's really not nice.

Eat the damn candy......IN MODERATION!

Although I do know what it's like to be inebriated and end up shoving all of the candies in my mouth, but that only happens when I drink, which is a good thing that I rarely drink. lol

Maybe quit smoking the medicinal substances, they make you paranoid lol!

And again, what if she has to? Medicinal substance for a medical reason?

OP hasn't told us whether this "substance" is for a medical reason or not. My guess is it's for recreational use.

Well aren't you a snow flake.

You have no idea.

If a woman tells me that she doesn't want candy, and I give her candy, I'M SCREWED because I didn't listen to her.

If a woman tells me that she doesn't want candy, and I DON'T give her candy, I'M SCREWED because I didn't understand what she really wanted.

Either way, she's going to tell all of her friends -- and the entire internet -- that I am not appropriately supportive.

Maybe quit smoking the medicinal substances, they make you paranoid lol!

And again, what if she has to? Medicinal substance for a medical reason?

OP hasn't told us whether this "substance" is for a medical reason or not. My guess is it's for recreational use.

that's really judgmental. I use it for my glaucoma.

You openly shared with everyone on MFP that you smoked a medicinal substance so you should've been expecting it considering everyone has different viewpoints on smoking.

It would've been nice to know that you are smoking for a medical reason from the beginning. However, marijuana is rarely prescribed for glaucoma. Yes, it lowers the pressure on the eye but the effect of marijuana only lasts 3-4 hours so to get any real relief you'd have to smoke around the clock which results in side effects any smart doctor wouldn't want you to suffer from. Like I mentioned before, marijuana lowers pressure on the eye and while doing so, it lowers blood pressure. This can reduce blood supply to the optic nerve and result in serious damage. Hence the reason why marijuana is not recommended for treatment of glaucoma.

So I'm 99.9% sure this is a troll post. Have a good evening.

Ohh dear.

He might love you the way you are but he also should be supportive of what makes YOU happy. If my boyfriend did that I would have smacked him silly!

Realistically, I think it is a bit of a stretch to assume the worst of him and believe he is out to sabotage you. Presumably, he loves you, right? So why would he do that? Unless he has a habit of being underhanded or manipulative or you have fears that he does not truly support you, I think this might be a bit of an overreaction.

Even people who are trying to eat better or lose weight want to eat some candy sometimes. Actually, we probably want to eat candy all the time. But sometimes we actually LET ourselves. It was a holiday. Chocolates are a staple gift for Valentine's Day. Based on what I know about every man who I have ever met, I would guess he didn't even give it any thought. He likely just thought he was doing something sweet.

My suggestion? Relax. Trust your man. Thank him for the sweet gesture. Indulge in a few pieces of the candy and set the rest out at work for your coworkers. Perhaps for the next holiday you might want to drop some subtle hints that candy and sweets would not make a great gift for you at this time.

Society sends the message that chocolates and flowers must be given on VD if you love your woman. Your man successfully received the message and is showing his love. Chocolate will not kill you, just learn to dole it out to yourself in proper portions and for treats. There will always be food in your face, it's up to you to control how you ingest it. Now go show the man you appreciate his efforts, and let him know you're trying to avoid massive temptations.

Eat the candy and be happy to have a boyfriend who buys you things.

Early in my marriage my DH would find treats to bring home when he knew I was exercising. After a while, I realized two things.
1) he was feeling insecure
2) he likes curvy girls, or he wouldnt have picked me!

So, i simply told him one day that I love his gifts and nights out to eat, but I want a long and happy life with him. I didnt want one where I was obese or unhealthy...and for this to happen, I needed his support.

After that, I got flowers, not cheesecake. I got raquet ball dates, not dinner, movies and candy....and I lost 70 lbs with him supporting me.
I gained some back and am working on it again, but he is totally on board, bc he knows if makes me happy to be healthy.

You just have to word it the right way,

^^^ This.... worked for me

OP, just be glad he didn't show up at your door with an over the top collection of candy, stuffed animals, flowers, balloons and heart shaped glasses. Of course, if he had, we'd probably be filling out the missing person forms today.....

Is OP 18 years old? Does she like nutella? :laugh: