How to say no.

You are NOT being rude by not eating it. You did not ask for it and he did not ask if you wanted it before buying it.

I know it's tough, but next time just tell him thank you but you are not hungry. If he insists on leaving it with you, either find someone else who wants it or toss it out. If he's offended, too bad. YOU have control over your body, not him.

Eat half of it?

You can lower your cals a bit on your other meals, or even the next day. It helps some people to look at the weekly calorie totals instead of the daily totals. This way of you go over one day, but make it up the next day it all evens out.

And yes, you could always do some extra exercise.

I would have eaten the sandwich too :laugh: but probably said no thank you to the soda, and put the chips away in my desk for another day

If they think you're being rude for choosing healthier foods, they are being rude. It is very nice of them to bring it by you, but express your plan for change to them, so it doesn't happen again. You can choose to eat it, then workout later on, or find someone else who might like it. Even if he watches you choose not to eat it, if he gets pissy with you, politely tell him "Look, I'm trying to get healthier and lose weight. I appreciate your offer, but I just can't eat it, so I'm going to give it to someone else."

if you don't want it, don't eat it.

Re-plan out the rest of your calories for the day today. And there is nothing wrong with a "thanks, but no thanks " If this is something that happens regularly in the office, can you privately talk to the person who brings in the food about how you don't want to be rude and you appreciate the gesture but you're really trying to make some healthy lifestyle changes? I politely, nonchantly turn down this sort of stuff regularly and it doesn't ruffle any feathers.

"Thank you but I already ate. I'm going to save it for later." Wrap it up, put it away and toss it later in the day.

+1

I would eat a small portion of it now and save the rest for later. The same with the soda and chips, have some now and save the rest or share. When something like that comes up instead of getting frustrated, just think of it as something for now and something for later. You don't have to eat it all at once. Hope this helps

I am so hungry right now, I wish someone would bring me some food

Fake it. I'd say something like - "Oh! Thank you so much! I already ate breakfast and I'm stuffed. I couldn't possibly - let's see if there's someone around who'd like this treat."

It's not rude, you're not wasting food or his money, and you were totally gracious about it. You can do this with lunches too. "Oh I'd love to go out to lunch but I brought mine today. Go grab your lunch and we'll eat together in the office."

I'm personally not someone who likes to advertise that I'm trying to lose weight. I think it invites too many comments (Oh you should try X diet...), judgments (getting looks for eating a cupcake that totally fits in your calories for the day), etc. I prefer to deflect and keep people out of my business!

Also - it's a little weird he bought it for all the ladies and is watching you eat.

How to say no? Just say no!

"No, thanks!"

Of course, depending on the calories it had I guess you can burn some or all of it. I used to tell myself this all the time but after getting home at 11:00 p.m. from college I have no energy to do anything but sleep. So instead of being upset at myself for going over my calories I just say no. You'll feel better about your decision later.

You can also remove something else from your diary to make space for it too if you haven't had some of the pre-planned foods yet.