How to say no.

I'm a receptionist at a car dealership and the salesmen stay buying food. All day, erry day. They also like to share. 99% of them are fine when I turn down their offers even though I used to accept free food left and right; they don't question my reasons so that's always cool. One of them, who ironically is the biggest of all of them, gets soooo mad when I refuse to take food he offers me, especially since we used to eat together the most. It's all "why don't you want this" "what you think there's something wrong with it" and when I try to keep it simple and just say "I'm watching what I eat" he thinks that's the stupidest thing ever. But that's the thing that's what HE thinks and that's his problem. I keep it moving. He can keep the calories.

There's some foods that I just don't want to eat.. and I sometimes phib and say it doesn't agree with my stomach.

Lots of people are sensitive to stuff with tons of cheese or bread etc., so it works.

I genuinely get a belly ache from a lot of greasy food- So it's become easier to just say that. No one ever asks me for more info haha. "Stomach problems" and they're over it.

Politely decline. It's not rude to want to take care of yourself, lose weight, and get healthy. If he has a problem with it, then that's just unfortunate on his part.

Our co-workers always have junk food... and EVERY Tuesday a vendor brings in FOUR-FIVE BOXES full of specialty kolaches, muffins, cinnamon rolls, etc. EVERY Tuesday! And every week, one of my office employees runs straight to the boxes, announces to the office that the food is here, and then complains for the rest of the day about wanting to lose weight.

There are two of us in here who eat mindfully, myself & another who is actually training for a bikini competition. They give us crap all of the time because we don't eat the junk they all do. We just shrug it off and tell them, that's ok, we would rather eat this than feel like crud later because we indulged in all of that. And to be truthful, I am STARVING if I eat the junk instead of what I planned to eat.

You're not being rude by not eating it. If he brought you something you're allergic to, would you eat it?

Tell him u already ate and maybe someone else would like to have your meal.

Interesting... is it really that wierd to bring food to your co-worker or co-workers? I do it all the time, healthy and un-healthy. If they say no, it's no big deal as there is always someone who will eat it, but I have never ever thought of it as wierd. I wonder if others at work think it's weird????

It's not weird to bring in, say, a plate of cookies and let them know it's available. It IS weird to go out and buy them sandwiches, chips and sodas for lunch without asking first if they want anything.

This guy didn't bring in a tray of food to share. He bought each of them individual lunches without asking if they wanted him to do so or asking what they might want.

This is SOOO simple.

You're in charge of what you put in your body. No one else.

I'd have said, "No,thanks," offered no explanation (you don't have to explain your dietary choices) and put the food out where someone else could take it if they wanted it.

The end.

I just say no thanks, never on a weekday. My colleagues even say that to me now and don't offer.

I am NOT eating just to please someone else. It's not easy to say no to my patients when they try to make me have biccies during a home visit but I don't want one and say I've already had something thank you.

I try really hard to not give excuses (I don't ask for them either). If I did't want the food, I would have merely said "no thank you." End of story.

I've frequently brought things or have had things (individual meals or specific drinks) brought for me. If its the norm and I want to make a change or someone else wants to make a change all that's needed is to let people know. I can't tell from your post, but is this a common thing? You say it happens all the time.

Like Bob brings sandwiches on Tuesdays and I always get the chicken club and Mary brings Chinese every Friday and she always gets me extra crab rangoon and I bring Sonic for everyone on Monday. If I decide to go paleo and want Bob to bring just the meat and veggies from now on, all I have to do is say something. He won't mind ordering it that way, but it would be rude of me to go off on him for something I didn't even tell him about. I've always worked in smaller groups/offices and this kind of stuff is the norm around here.

You say he does this all the time for you and your co-workers. If you've always appreciated it in the past and he doesn't know about your new dietary changes, you really should have let him know. Since you ate it and it doesn't sound like you said anything, then he'll continue to bring things and its on you. It doesn't seem like from your post that he would have had any inkling then or now that you wouldn't have wanted it, so it will happen again.

If you're not complaining so much about him specifically, but the feeling life is conspiring against you and you want more how do you stay on track/what would you have done type of advice, well....

If I wanted to eat it, I would have eaten it. If I wanted to save it for later, I would have saved it. If I ate it, I would have adjusted my day or week somewhat to better accommodate it within reason. Nope, no hours of cardio to accommodate. At worst, it would put me around maintenance for one single day. One breakfast sandwich is chump change in the grand scheme of things. Whether I ate it then or not, I would tell him and anyone else it might matter to, what I wanted in the future. If I still wanted to be included but with healthier fare, I'd say so. If I wanted to just be left off the list I would politely say so. If you want people to support you in your en devour, you have to let them know what it is you are trying to accomplish. :flowerforyou:


At some point I would have eaten it though as it sounds delicious.