Do you get support from your family?

That must be really annoying as all you're doing is trying to improve your health.

You are an adult. Yes, if you live with your family you need to play by their rules, but there are ways around it. If your family are having pizza and you don't want any then you could get some ingredients and cook your own meal…or if you do want the pizza then take it into account when thinking about the rest of your days calories. You can easily have 2-3 slices and a nice salad on the side. As for them making comments, try to ignore it. You know that you're doing it for your own health and so long as you're doing it in the correct way then they have no reason to complain about how you are treating your body.

Luckily it's just me, my husband and our two boys and whilst I bore my husband to death talking about MFP he's proud of me for sticking to it and making the change…..he's also pleased that it's had an effect on how he feels as I'm keeping an eye on portion sizes far better than I was.

I know how you feel, but I'm kind of on the opposite side. I have to fix my meals seperate as I am the only person dieting right now even though my spouse could drop a few pounds himself (I would not tell him that though as he is the love of my life even after 27 yrs). Have you tried using the calorie chart here on the site? Once I found it I was like "OMG! I needed this"! I was trying to google each food item to get calorie count as my weight loss goal calls for a 1,200 calorie intake and when I typed in my meal it done all the work for me. I am so glad that I figured out how it worked. After each meal I know how many calories I can partake in until next meal or end of the day. Maybe this will help you in your journey. Maybe you can place smaller helpings on your plate your mother gives you. That way she will be happy that you are eating and you can keep up with your calorie intake and if you happen to go over the exercise chart will let you know how many you can burn per exercise Hang in there!!! Stay positive!!! I'm cheering for you to make this work for you because you seem so determined and weight loss takes determination!

I don't live with my family, but I get mixed support by proxy. My parents are both overweight (my dad I think has reached obese, from what I've heard) are recently got themselves gym memberships. They don't go to the gym, though. They make excuses for why they don't go and it's usually because they are tired after work and don't want to leave the couch. In turn, they whine about how they've gained weight so I suggested eating less/smaller portions. They then get upset with me and say that eating less works for me only because I'm 20. It feels like a reversal of when I was a kid; I know they aren't happy with their weight, but I want to give up on them because they refuse to change.

The next time I'll be seeing them is Easter. It will also be with the entire extended family who haven't seen me since June when I was 245lbs (I'm 188 now). It's going to be a shock. I'll also have to deal with my uncle commenting positively on my weight loss purposely in front of my cousin who has always been overweight in comparison to her thin EMT/rugby-playing older sister. It's uncomfortable dealing with that ****.

My husband supports my decisions but he isn't trying to lose weight, so he doesn't workout with me or eat the same foods as I do. I often end up making a different meal for him then I would myself. I recommend that if you don't want to eat what the rest of your family is eating, make your own food. People wont always understand your journey and that's OK, it's not theirs to understand. I actually didn't tell anyone I was starting to lose weight until people started noticing and asking. Most people who tell you it's "stupid", change their tune when they see you getting results.

I am an adult and live with my husband and yes he is very supportive. We support each other in living healthy and eating well.

As for extended family, they're supportive too. My dad and stepmom have changed their own eating habits for health reasons so they're very understanding. My mom is a work in progress and doesn't tend to choose the healthiest stuff (eats a lot of very high sodium and processed foods) so we don't eat together a whole lot but she's encouraging nonetheless. My husband and I try to help her make better choices, at HER request not forcing it on her...but old habits die hard and she is in denial about some stuff being bad for her.

ETA: I really do not want to be rude here but if you're on MFP I assume you are 18+...is it possible for you to buy some or all of your own healthy food to eat at home? I know you might have studies or disabilities or whatever else limiting your choices but maybe it would really help (if possible).

Sounds like a great time to start learning how to cook!

I don't blame your Mom for not wanting to make separate meals - that's more work for her. You are old enough to be responsible for yourself. I imagine that you don't have pizza every single day (although if it fits into your macros that would still be fine). What else is she making? Foods don't have to be low calorie or low fat to be healthy....it's all about portions. And why does your Mom care what size plate you eat off of?

Definitely start buying/cooking your own food. If you are 18 you should be able to do that no problem. I assume you will move out at some point, so it would be good practice for when that time comes.

My husband does not necessarily support me eating healthy the way I do (because he keeps pushing me to gain weight when I don't need to), but that doesn't stop me from making my meals healthy. Yes, sometimes I make things slightly different for myself than I do for him. You can't let other people hold you back from achieving your health goals.

And why does your Mom care what size plate you eat off of?

lol...spoken like someone who is lucky to have never had a super control freak parent.

I say that in good fun because I'm actually glad for you. To this day my mom cares about shizz like that...which is why I have not lived with her since my teens.

LOL. I never knew it was a thing! Granted, I haven't lived with my parents since I was 14. Boarding school.

I've never had "support" from family (unless you count constant nagging for the last 25 years, or the "celebrations" when I did lose weight which implied somehow my life was perfect/I'd become a better person when I dropped 10lbs..). My husband and I don't discuss it, because he knows it might feel like the nagging from my own family and the d-word is absolutely banned from our household since I have an 8 year-old daughter and refuse to allow her to experience what I did. For me, it's all about health and things I can measure for health, so BMI, exercise per week etc. with no emotions attached.

Maybe instead of focusing on the things which provoke conflict with your Mom/sis or need their cooperation, focus on the things which don't need any help from anyone else? Your Dad offering to run with you is unbelievably cool, but why wait? You can always burn some calories by yourself, just going for a walk or jog yourself, running up and down the stairs, or whatever, and you don't need anyone else's help to do it. Or maybe instead of focusing on the meals which feel unhealthy to you, start counting the pieces of fruit or grams of fiber instead.

Getting healthy has a lot to do with feeling good about yourself, and that means focusing on the positive and the things you can and will change for yourself.

Go for it!!

Yes, like some others said--do some cooking! It's fun, it will help out your mom, it will be good for the whole family, and it's a good thing to learn for when you're out on your own. Maybe each night you could contribute a vegetable or salad? Or offer to cook a meal or two each week? Then you can enjoy the other stuff your mom cooks in moderation.

When you live with people, you've got to find the happy balance. It's not always easy on them to live with someone who is on a weight loss mission. I know I can get to be a little "preachy" with my kids sometimes, and I have to check myself. :-)

Most defnintely! My family are my number 1 cheerleaders and accountability partners

It's nice to have support from others but ultimately this is very much a solo journey. With or without support, we have to be able to make it on our own and be comfortable in our skin.

Nailed it. I see a lot of posts on MFP with similar messages to the OP, that someone is feeling sabotaged, or not supported by their parents, spouse, partner, coworkers, etc, etc.

Personally, I've intentionally done this alone. I'm the one that caused me to be overweight and out of shape, I'm the only person that has to live in this body every day, and so I'm the one that owns my decisions and actions.

It’s been incredibly empowering and a huge self-esteem boost to know that I’ve accomplished something where my success is 100% attributable to my own efforts, and to be accountable to myself when I don’t succeed.