So what do you do when someone calls you fat to your face?

It goes something like this:

You reply "um, that's muscle. You would know if you had any".

Okay, not really, cause that's mean. But seriously, you look great so try to not take it to heart.

I love hot women with low self esteem. Please use me to reaffirm yourself.

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you asked what to say when someone calls you fat to your face. i say, "wow, is that the best you can come up with. i mean, i can fix my weight, but there is no cure for stupid."

what it looks like your issue is is that your mom has some serious personality flaws. parents are supposed to make their kids feel special and good and wanted and cared for. you look awesome. you should feel awesome. i'm sorry your mom isnt living up to her potential. sometimes we dont get the parent child relationship we deserve.

in my humble opinion, shake her off. laugh her off. take it as a joke. oh mom, you're so funny, of course i go to the gym still. oh mom, at least i have an *kitten*, ha ha, you're so funny.

you look great, keep on doing what your doing because its working.

I just say "Yep." And walk away. Usually they're confused at the lack of emotional response and proceed to start flinging poo in all directions.

Things are crazy with moms and sisters. My sister can get under my skin like no one else. One time we were getting ready to go out (I'd finally lost all of my baby weight since I'd last seen her) and she says, "ugh! Now I'M the fat sister!!" I was mad and said,"you always were!"... Classy, I know. I was a size 0 and she was a 3. That just shows that neither of us was fat, we were just being insecure, competitive, and mean.

bishes be cray

A quick kick to the gut followed by a powerbomb.

When someone calls me fat to my face, I cry about it and feel awful for days or weeks.

So, yeah. And if I had to live with that person, as it seems you have to live with your mother, I'd want to avoid them so I wouldn't be hurt again.

If you're stuck in that house and can't get out, then here is what to do: "Mom, the next time you make a negative comment about my weight, I'm leaving the room." And then do it. And she'll up the ante, calling you all sorts of things -- oversensitive, whiny, can't take the truth, bla bla bla. She'll try to shame you or act like you're not being a good family member if you don't suck it up and take what she says to you. (Why do I know this? I went through it too.)

But if you state "If you do X, I will do Y" and then follow through -- no stomping, no slamming doors, just doing what you said you'd do -- eventually the new environment will become normal for her and she'll adjust to it.

And if she says "Watch this!" to someone else and then turns to you and says "You're fat," you can get up and walk out of the room. And don't come back. Yeah, she's pressing your buttons, but she's the one who will look like the @ss, not you.

Finally: do what you can to get out of that awful environment, if it's as awful as I'm imagining.

Firstly you look great in your photos.

Secondly what I think really does not matter - it is what you think that matters.

One of the hardest things in my life has been to love me for who I am. There are so many "nice" quotes and expressions that are inspiring but it can take time to actually understand things like "you are perfection / beautiful; to love others you need to first love yourself".

The deeper your connection with your true self the less power and meaning you will give to the opinion of others. This is really all about owning your life and who you are, how you choose to express yourself. This is an exciting journey and at some stage you will come to realize what other people think has less relevance to you.

Try to keep true to yourself and keep doing what you feel driven to do. You will always have an initial reaction when people make comments, I encourage you to explore why you have the reaction to these comments, you may find that you are not being kind to yourself for instance, learn to embrace every part of you your "faults" and "strengths" - simple but not necessarily easy.

"Big butts are genetic...and obviously, I got my genes from you, MOM!"

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