*kitten* People Say To People Who're Trying To Lose Weight!

This makes me absolutely furious. I hate that there are folks out there ("nutritionists" if they want to call themselves that) that are not supportive of your goals. My background is in nutrition and community health and I specialized in exercise science. I would never tell someone to swap a healthy choice for a candy bar! How awful.

My boyfriend is kind of a turd when it comes to the weight loss thing... He deliberately orders extra fast food when he goes and then says he got it for me. I don't want fast food, I don't like fast food, but thanks for thinking of me? This is only until he puts on a few pounds and then it is time to cut back on the burgers and fries.... :explode:

edit: sorry I forgot to hit "quote" - this was in response to the person who sought out nutrition advice from a "professional" and was turned away. Grrrrrr.

I had a family member say "You're getting older, it's just going to be a lot harder to lose weight and keep it off."

Thanks for the double whammy. Now I'm old and fat!

And at the same party my cousins wife was talking to me and asking what I was doing to lose weight and then she was like OMG you should do paleo, we are doing paleo and go to my Pinterest I have a ton of recipes......... All while shoveling pizza into her mouth... Which I am hardly the expert she is (after following paleo for 3 day) but I am pretttttty sure pizza and cake aren't paleo...

"You shouldn't lose weight. Guys like thick girls." usually followed by a wink. :sick: :explode: :grumble: :huh:

I find the most annoying is:

(when trying to decide what to eat)
".... oh, but you can't have that, right?"

I guess I get angry when other people think they can dictate what I can and can't have. I can eat whatever the F* I want...but i can't help it if my choices are better than yours.

Ten years ago, I lost 60 lbs. I am 5' 3" and went from 200 lbs. to 140 lbs. I worked out 5 times a week, doing 30 minutes of cardio and 30 minutes of weight lifting every day. I did this for two years and kept the weight off. I discovered that I build muscle quickly when I lift and kind of got a kick out of being able to lift more than some of the smaller guys. I felt wonderful, wore a size 10 jeans, had tons of energy and could curl 25 lbs. with one hand. I felt like superwoman! The worst things that people said to me at the gym: From a personal trainer; "Oh you don't want to build muscle, you need to do more cardio and lose 20 lbs or you are going to look like a body builder." From other people at the gym: "Wow, you have back muscles! Are you sure you want to do that?" "Oh me and my girlfriends have decided to help you with your workout because you are going to get too muscular." Why is it that people feel free to comment on your body shape, your workout, your weight, etc. in the gym? I would NEVER to do that to someone else because it's rude. It got so bad that I quit going to the gym completely, gained all of the weight back and am now trying to lose it again. I will go back to the gym one of these days. I need to work on my comeback lines though so I can shut people up when they make stupid comments. Any suggestions?

Person: Wow you look great! What have you been doing?
Me: I track my food and eat at a deficit and I make sure I hit the gym 5-6 times a week.
Person: **Silence** (Obviously upset that I didn't give them some sort of miracle pill/diet/shake answer)

Hahaha, people always want the "I tried the <insert name> diet!"

When you tell them "hard work and dedication", they're like "Oh, I guess that means there's no hope".

I think a lot of that may be people don't know what that means... I just started a post early because I had no idea what the technical meaning of "eat at a deficit was"......

Real questions asked:

"Did you get weight loss surgery?" (no)

"You cutting out all fried foods?" (hell no)

"Oh you can still drink on your diet???" (lololol eff yes)

"Are you f***ing with blow" (lol no)

Most people just ask how I did it - and when I tell them count calories/macros - their eyes just glaze over and conversation is over.

This is how it goes down for me too. Exactly!

I have an acquaintance who is trying to lose about 80 lb. She started on Jan 1st and has only lost 4 lb. She KILLS herself with daily workouts but still eats the same food as her husband and son. She says counting calories is just too tedious. And she's eating "well" because she no longer goes back for seconds and doesn't salt her food.

The salting-your-food comment gets me. I occasionally get further into a discussion with friends (who ASK ME) about tracking my sodium. They ALWAYS say "well I don't have a prob with that, I never salt my food". Yep, your Chick-Fil-A for lunch and Pizza Hut for dinner has no salt since you didn't use the shaker...WAT!?

(FTR I eat fast food, fried, etc...just think that is hilarious)

I got this from a 400+ person,he is a chef,
Chef:"you should give me a try,I will give you a meal plan to lose weight!"
Me:face palm!!!is there a mirror in your house?
I didnt say that!lol

Some people have the knowledge though, they just can't apply it to their own lives. Like me, because I'm a fussy eater, I won't eat loooads of fantastic foods. :B

"I can't believe you weigh that much! I didn't think you were that fat!"
"You look the same to me, you're not trying hard enough"

I just get the typical ..... " you have lost to much weight"
and THEN if I gain like 10lbs.... " are you still going to the gym.. think it would be good for you"


:indifferent: :indifferent: make up your mind

Person: Wow you look great! What have you been doing?
Me: I track my food and eat at a deficit and I make sure I hit the gym 5-6 times a week.
Person: **Silence** (Obviously upset that I didn't give them some sort of miracle pill/diet/shake answer)

^^^^ THIS!!!!!

The other one is " You are getting too skinny." Or "Eat a sandwich." or "You don't need to lose weight, you look fine."
Also
It's either, "so you can eat whatever you want since you work out rite?" or the "You can't have that, this or that, rite?"

My all time favorite is the 200+ lbs over weight women clucking over their fast food about what they should and shouldn't eat and how to work out...

This woman at the gym counter several years ago when I was joining and had to get my photo ID for their system taken: She said "Say SKINNY!" (instead of cheese). I thought that was such an *kitten* comment to make but took me completely off guard.

More recently, an older man at the gym looked at me one day and said: "If you keep it up, you too will be thin one day, I lost 89 pounds". he said. To which I replied "Thanks but I've been working out my entire life so this isn't new to me and but the weight gain is fairly recent". Adding, I was recently diagnosed with a medical condition contributing to it but again, Thanks".

I guess I just don't get what gives people especially strangers a free license to make any comments to someone that they don't know. Blows me away at the ignorance in our society.

Favorite quote from a co-worker about diet. Ever. I did a juice cleanse for something like 7-8 days, just fresh squeezed juice.

She comes up to me, with a broken leg from doing something stupid, drunken and redneck, her lips wrapped around this gross looking burrito, chewing with her mouth open, smacking her lips: "Dude, juicing is, like, the most unhealthy thing you can do."

Says the woman with the broken leg and burrito...

Update and true story: after juicing, I never once broke my leg!

Person: Wow you look great! What have you been doing?
Me: I track my food and eat at a deficit and I make sure I hit the gym 5-6 times a week.
Person: **Silence** (Obviously upset that I didn't give them some sort of miracle pill/diet/shake answer)

This exactly. I have this conversation more often than anything else.

"Oh, you're working out? Cool. What do you do? Just that? 30DS, running and pilates? That doesn't seem like it's enough for you."

I would just say "Oh...yea... if I wanted your opinion, I would have asked for it" But I don't have a filter most of the time.