What do you think of the term BBW/SSBBW

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People like to glamorize their perceived short comings with labels that may seem more "acceptable" to come to terms with.

For example "Thick," "Curvy," "BBW," etc.

It makes the reality much less harsh, in the same way that belittling someones "Success." can make someone who may be guilty of not achieving the same success, or envious of the the success of someone else, feel better.

It's human nature, and It happens all the time on this forum, a fitness forum of all places.

Every time a Healthy girl, at a healthy weight makes a picture thread, there's usually 3 pages of Self-Proclaimed "Curvy" women telling her she's too skinny, or she needs to gain weight, or she should do X,Y or Z to be more like them.

Then when someone who's considered medically overweight, makes a thread, generally a "progress thread" Implying she's still on her Journey.
Those same girls jump in to tell her she's "Perfect" and the way a "Real Woman" should look, which is implying anyone who isn't like this, isn't a "real woman."

If you like being "overweight" I really couldn't care any less, but in the same sense Person A shouldn't tell person B to lose weight, Person B shouldn't tell person A to gain weight.

There's also no non-malicious reason person B should imply "real women have curves" or any of those other ridiculous cliche statements.

I agree with this. I have medically diagnosed morbidly obese friends who say they love their curves. Clearly they're trying to feel better about their shortcomings, because they will, in the same conversation, say they don't like the way they look. They're trying to justify their weight by making it sound nicer than it really is.

I've never been very overweight, and I've always been the classic hourglass shape. Usually I wear a size 4-6, but I can't tell people I'm curvy anymore because they assume I'm overweight. My word has been hijacked, and I am being very candid when I say I really resent this. I'm not athletic, I'm not overweight, I'm not average, and I'm not slender. I'm curvy. BUT I CAN'T SAY THAT ANYMORE.

I also hate the "real woman have" comments. Real women are women who are alive, that's it. I saw an article once titled, "Real Women DON'T Have Curves." It was about women who are underweight and people telling they're too skinny all the time. Real women are just women, the shape of their bodies don't decide if they're real or fake.