Really confused.. whats wrong with me?

I find it helps to weigh everyday as well.
the TOM will cause a bit of gain with water retention but it will drop off right after

About a million things could be happening. Water retention, food in your stomach, the clothes you wore on each occasion, muscle growth, bloating... etc. Scales are liars, the only way to tell what is really happening is with a measuring tape or a caliper. Use the scale as a pseudo tool but not the end all of your progress. If your clothes fit better, you look thinner, etc... that's all tell tale signs you are on a great path.

It's best to lay off ANY wheat products and whole grains. Including all corn and soy. It's just pure sugar as far as the liver is concerned. Some goes for energy and the rest goes to fat. Stick to protein and veggies for now and re-introduce grains later on, if you so choose.

Oh and as ****ty as it sounds, you really should count calories. Its tedious and it sucks, but it works. Find your BMI and go under it by 200-400 calories everyday.

always use the same scale,
and make sure you're eating enough.
people think starving themselves is a good idea but its not, it messes with your metabolism.

keep at it.

when you first switch over to a calorie deficit from eating at a calorie surplus, your body turns to its glycogen stores to make up the difference. this is the energy most readily available to your muscles. it's stored with water. as you deplete those reserves, your body uses and sheds the water. this is why in the first 10-14 days of any diet where you are consistently in a calorie deficit, you will see a large early loss. it's not fat you're losing, it's mostly that water. once you go back to eating at a surplus for a couple of days, you can fill up those energy reserves again quickly - which leads to water again being retained. this sounds like what you are going through. i've seen my weight vary by 7lbs in a 24 hour period simply due to water (1 gallon of water weighs about 8lbs).

there are other factors that could be contributing as well, but it's important to understand this glycogen depletion mechanism so that you don't misunderstand what your scale is telling you. it's also important so that you don't get upset when you see the number on the scale fluctuate wildly as a result. if you see that, you should be able to figure out why it's happened based on how well you've stuck to your calorie goal in the previous few days.

It's best to lay off ANY wheat products and whole grains. Including all corn and soy. It's just pure sugar as far as the liver is concerned. Some goes for energy and the rest goes to fat. Stick to protein and veggies for now and re-introduce grains later on, if you so choose.

^ this is complete and utter nonsense

OP just choose one scale. Understand that weight fluctuates by several pounds per day. If it's going to cause you serious anxiety then don't weigh so often. I'm a daily weigher but it doesn't stress me-- I could weigh anywhere from 123-128 depending on salt the day before, whether I've been to the beach or had alcohol, time of month, and how much exercise I did the day before.

Be patient and track the overall trend. And don't believe the scare mongering around specific foods, unless you've got reason to believe you have a food intolerance or other medical condition.

If you were weighing in at a meeting, I assume you were fully clothed. Clothing can weight much more than you expect, especially if you're wearing jeans and/or boots. Even a bulky sweater. Put that all together and it can add up.

You're using two different scales and your weight is fluctuating. I've made this mistake more times than I care to admit and I've allowed it to mess with my efforts. I've decided to put the scale away for a month, track my eating and get my exercise, and then weigh again and reevaluate.