Conflicted!!! What to do, what to do?
aimladuke
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I have been on my "weightloss journey" for roughly 4 months. So far I have been extremely happy with my results. I have lost about 20 lbs. ( I still have about 10 lbs. to go). Here is were the problem comes in. I am going to the casino tomorrow and have had this planned for 2 months. At this particular casino they have Ben and Jerry's. I have been telling myself for two months that as long as I stick to the plan don't go over calories/ continue to lose weight.... that I was going to splurge and get the most delicious sundae there is. I'm talking Cherry Garcia (full fat) hot fudge, whipped cream AND cherry!!! I have passed up numerous other "cheats" by telling myself "don't cheat now, save it for the sundae" , which was easy to tell myself when our casino day was 2 months away. Now, this isn't a distant splurge.... it's TOMORROW! I already and having guilt over the sundae and I havent even eaten it yet.
Keeping in mind that there are NO Ben and Jerry's anywhere around me ( Casino is about 1.5 hours away and that is the closest one) AND, that Ben and Jerry's is my favorite thing in the world. WHAT DO I DO!
1) I deserve it! Eat the sundae.... deal with the guilt
2) I havent hit my goal yet
Skip the sundae... deal with the regret of not getting it
Keeping in mind that there are NO Ben and Jerry's anywhere around me ( Casino is about 1.5 hours away and that is the closest one) AND, that Ben and Jerry's is my favorite thing in the world. WHAT DO I DO!
1) I deserve it! Eat the sundae.... deal with the guilt
2) I havent hit my goal yet
Skip the sundae... deal with the regret of not getting it 0
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eat the darn sundae!
you are at the casino - enjoy yourself, have a little vacation. if it were me, i would skip the drinks that are so common on the casino floor, and keep moving around. its gotta be a fairly good size, rotate around the room so you get a little bit of a walk. and eat the ice cream. if youve been dreaming about it for two months - i mean come on. you DO deserve a little indulgence.
you can plan it out too - know youre having the sundae on which ever day, and make sure the days around it are well balanced. one sundae will not break you, nor your weight loss goals.
have fun!0 -
You've given up other cheats for this sundae.... eat the sundae and ENJOY IT!0
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You don't really need us to tell you to eat the sundae. You want us to tell you to not feel guilty about it. You've worked hard and have been looking forward to it. So eat the damn sundae and enjoy every last bite of it
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.... having guilt over the sundae and I havent even eaten it yet.
Life is too short, one day isn't going to make a difference to your downward trend. Enjoy it, and move on. Don't punish yourself afterwards.0 -
Eat it!!! It's not like it's gonna make you gain back the entire 20 lbs overnight. Youre scale might go up a pound, if that, and then rightt back down in a week. Go for it!0
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Eat it!!! It's not like it's gonna make you gain back the entire 20 lbs overnight. Youre scale might go up a pound, if that, and then rightt back down in a week. Go for it!
Majorly agree with this! Eat it!!! Just get back on track the next day. One Sundae will not make or break your journey. Its these kind of desires and then subsequent denials of the desire that can knock things off track. You have done an amazing job so far! Eat the sundae! And enjoy it (don't feel guilty)0 -
Eat the sundae and don't feel guilty.
Stop moralizing your food choices.0 -
I want to echo what others said and also sympathize with your feelings. I too have had planned "treat" meals and felt nothing short of terror when it was finally upon me to order the food I had been looking forward to. That's when I realized I was getting obsessive and needed to back off being so rigid and strict. Then I dug into that Five Guys burger all the way and shared the small fries with my daughter even though it put me over for that day, and got back on track the next day. And weeks later I'm still losing and don't regret a thing. I think a big treat now and then reminds us that this is for life, and it's sustainable in the real world.
Eat the sundae. Love the sundae. Regret nothing.0 -
Eat the sundae and love every mouthful!! Over the next few days, cut back on a few calories if you feel some guilt...no worries. One bad day won't ruin your weight loss.
Option B, when you win a wad of cash, jump and dance around a lot, work off the sundae0 -
eat the darn sundae!
if youve been dreaming about it for two months - i mean come on. you DO deserve a little indulgence.
you can plan it out too - know youre having the sundae on which ever day, and make sure the days around it are well balanced. one sundae will not break you, nor your weight loss goals.
have fun!
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The problem with "dieting" is the guilt that people feel when they go off plan. Guess what? It's not supposed to be a diet. It's supposed to be an awareness and lifestyle change. I eat Ben & Jerry's on a regular basis................just not the whole thing at one time. So have some. Enjoy it. And if anything check to see if they have the new CORE flavors!!!
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Love option B. I hope I win a wad of cash! LOL0
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Sorry to sound harsh but if you continue this line of thinking your journey is going to be rough. One cheat meal is not going to break you unless you just give up all together. Just like one trip to the gym doesn't make you "fit". Everything in moderation - that is a good saying because those who deprive themselves end up splurging the most. Enjoy the treat and keep it moving.0
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Eat it slowly. Really savor each bite! If you haven't had a lot of sweets, make sure you don't inhale the sundae. You don't want to make yourself sick.
But enjoy it! :drinker:0 -
Team eat the sundae.0
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I have been on my "weightloss journey" for roughly 4 months. So far I have been extremely happy with my results. I have lost about 20 lbs. ( I still have about 10 lbs. to go). Here is were the problem comes in. I am going to the casino tomorrow and have had this planned for 2 months. At this particular casino they have Ben and Jerry's. I have been telling myself for two months that as long as I stick to the plan don't go over calories/ continue to lose weight.... that I was going to splurge and get the most delicious sundae there is. I'm talking Cherry Garcia (full fat) hot fudge, whipped cream AND cherry!!! I have passed up numerous other "cheats" by telling myself "don't cheat now, save it for the sundae" , which was easy to tell myself when our casino day was 2 months away. Now, this isn't a distant splurge.... it's TOMORROW! I already and having guilt over the sundae and I havent even eaten it yet.
Keeping in mind that there are NO Ben and Jerry's anywhere around me ( Casino is about 1.5 hours away and that is the closest one) AND, that Ben and Jerry's is my favorite thing in the world. WHAT DO I DO!
1) I deserve it! Eat the sundae.... deal with the guilt
2) I havent hit my goal yet Skip the sundae... deal with the regret of not getting it
I'd go for option 3. Eat the sundae and adjust your calories the rest of the week to hit your goal on AVERAGE for the week. Win, win!0 -
Where in the world is there no Ben & Jerry's?? There is an entire refrigerator of it in every grocery store near me.
It sounds like you're giving yourself a complex over this. It's just food. Honestly, it sounds like you've been obsessing over a cheat, which is not good. Why has this become that important to you? Are you depriving yourself of joy in your daily sustenance? Once you have enjoyed the ice cream, will you pick something else to obsess about?0 -
I have been on my "weightloss journey" for roughly 4 months. So far I have been extremely happy with my results. I have lost about 20 lbs. ( I still have about 10 lbs. to go). Here is were the problem comes in. I am going to the casino tomorrow and have had this planned for 2 months. At this particular casino they have Ben and Jerry's. I have been telling myself for two months that as long as I stick to the plan don't go over calories/ continue to lose weight.... that I was going to splurge and get the most delicious sundae there is. I'm talking Cherry Garcia (full fat) hot fudge, whipped cream AND cherry!!! I have passed up numerous other "cheats" by telling myself "don't cheat now, save it for the sundae" , which was easy to tell myself when our casino day was 2 months away. Now, this isn't a distant splurge.... it's TOMORROW! I already and having guilt over the sundae and I havent even eaten it yet.
Keeping in mind that there are NO Ben and Jerry's anywhere around me ( Casino is about 1.5 hours away and that is the closest one) AND, that Ben and Jerry's is my favorite thing in the world. WHAT DO I DO!
1) I deserve it! Eat the sundae.... deal with the guilt
2) I havent hit my goal yet Skip the sundae... deal with the regret of not getting it
Eat the sundae! Skip the guilt!
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Eat the Sunday and enjoy it. Be aware as you eat it, if you get to the full/stop point, stop even if you haven't finished it. I have found that I can't handle as much of those special 'treat' foods as I used to. My craving is actually satisfied with a smaller portion.
If you are compelled to feel 'guilty' about it, plan on exercising an extra 100 calories a day for a week.
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Eat it. And have fun at the Sun. :drinker:0
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Were is this casino?
I tell you what, if it was me. I would POWER though that Sunday. I work out, live life healthy, eat right, so I can on a whim eat something like that.
In fact I'd take pictures of it, post it on the internet and laugh about how awesome I am.
... or just not eat it and give death stare daggers at anyone eating chocolate.0 -
Do it! :drinker:0
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Eat it slowly. Really savor each bite! If you haven't had a lot of sweets, make sure you don't inhale the sundae. You don't want to make yourself sick.
But enjoy it! :drinker:
^THIS!!!^
Seriously, take your time with it and go 'mmmmmmh' at every spoonful!
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Your guilt is irrational.
One meal did not cause you to gain all the weight in the first place.
One sundae will not cause you to derail or to gain it all back.
Success should be celebrated with extreme joy.
Food is fuel, eat enough.
Food is life, you literally need it to live.
Why can't you enjoy the things that sustain you.
There are no bad foods (unless you are allergic or the dose is toxic).
Fit that sundae in your week. I say week because even if it pushes you over on the day it wont ruin your progress long term.
As far as I can tell, you earned it. Please enjoy it. :flowerforyou:0 -
I dunno, I've done stuff like this-- promising myself reward food-- (it happened with lemon meringue pie), and then sometimes I'm not in the mood for the food I've been craving/talking about for weeks. And then I feel really let down by the food when I indulge. So. Wait until you're at the casino. Ask yourself, "Do I really, really want to eat this sundae? Or do I feel like I SHOULD because this is my only chance at a Ben & Jerry's sundae for the next few months?" If you really, really want it, go for it!! But just be aware of what you ACTUALLY want at the moment, vs what you've promised yourself.0
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The problem with "dieting" is the guilt that people feel when they go off plan. Guess what? It's not supposed to be a diet. It's supposed to be an awareness and lifestyle change. I eat Ben & Jerry's on a regular basis................just not the whole thing at one time. So have some. Enjoy it. And if anything check to see if they have the new CORE flavors!!!
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IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
We've have the caramel core flavor here in NYC for years.0 -
Thank you all! I think I needed a reality check! I forget that I am playing the long game sometimes, that one day, one meal for that matter isn't going to ruin me. Its really easy to get caught up in the numbers. Thanks for all the support!0
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Eat it slowly. Really savor each bite! If you haven't had a lot of sweets, make sure you don't inhale the sundae. You don't want to make yourself sick.
But enjoy it! :drinker:
This!!
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i really dont understand the issue here.
it's um....a sundae.
eat it.
doesnt it take like 3500cals of SURPLUS to gain a pound?
this isnt going to set you back at all.
stop stressing and have a sundae. :drinker:0 -
The problem with "dieting" is the guilt that people feel when they go off plan. Guess what? It's not supposed to be a diet. It's supposed to be an awareness and lifestyle change. I eat Ben & Jerry's on a regular basis................just not the whole thing at one time. So have some. Enjoy it. And if anything check to see if they have the new CORE flavors!!!
A.C.E. Certified Personal/Group FitnessTrainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
HOLY MOLY!! I might have to run to the store after work today! THIS looks amazing.
I agree with everyone else, enjoy your cheat meal without guilt. It's one splurge, not the end of the world!! I've had several "cheat meals" in the last 2.5 months and I'm still losing weight! :flowerforyou:0
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