RANT OVER UNHEALTHY PEOPLE JUDGING YOU

Does anyone else get FURIOUS at people who judge you for eating healthy??? And watching what you eat?? Or tell you that you're "too obsessive" over exercise and eating healthy and should "enjoy your life??"" I'm like BACK UP, I take pride in my work in the gym and kitchen and DO ENJOY EATING HEALTHY. Sorry I don't want fries with that???!?!

Like today I was told running long distances was terrible for you and I would have to have knee surgery and leg surgery when I got older and was basically belittled because I like running ten miles instead of being told, "Wow look at you go!" Like excuse me people, I love love LOVE being healthy and no I may not eat the entire serving of cake that is put on my plate, but that means I'm "too obsessive" and "worry about my weight too much" ?!?!?!?

People can just piss you off, ya know?

The way I see it: opinions are a dime a dozen and everyone has one. All their judgements are about them and have nothing to do with you.

Enjoy who you are and your weight loss journey and just allow their comments to roll off you back. You are incredible and you know it! ::bigsmile:

Does anyone else get FURIOUS at people who judge you for eating healthy??? And watching what you eat?? Or tell you that you're "too obsessive" over exercise and eating healthy and should "enjoy your life??"" I'm like BACK UP, I take pride in my work in the gym and kitchen and DO ENJOY EATING HEALTHY. Sorry I don't want fries with that???!?!

Like today I was told running long distances was terrible for you and I would have to have knee surgery and leg surgery when I got older and was basically belittled because I like running ten miles instead of being told, "Wow look at you go!" Like excuse me people, I love love LOVE being healthy and no I may not eat the entire serving of cake that is put on my plate, but that means I'm "too obsessive" and "worry about my weight too much" ?!?!?!?

People can just piss you off, ya know?

step back a second...

what exactly is "eating healthy" and why do you think that the foods you choose to eat give you a position of moral superiority over the foods that others choose to eat? food is just fuel. if you're getting enough nutritional value from your food choices, then fries can be a regular part of your diet.

of course, the foods you choose to eat are your business and nobody should be giving you a hard time so long as your diet is giving you the nutrients that you need. however, if you are disgusted when you see somebody else eating fries and you think that person is necessarily "unhealthy", then you're in the wrong too. that doesn't mean you're a bad person. it just means that you may be misinformed about the true nature of food and how your body uses it. your body doesn't care whether it gets what it needs from a diet that includes only so-called "healthy" foods or one that also includes so-called "unhealthy" foods. it simply goes to work breaking them down and extracting what it needs from them.

Was not saying that I don't eat unhealthy at times and never stated that I hated fries, I do my binge eating as well. And no I don't judge people for not eating healthy or not exercising every day. I let them do them. That's why I don't understand why they come after me when I am choosing not to eat bread for lunch. I don't think I should be told that "You are depriving yourself when you say you don't want cake" or "You're too obsessive." Or judging me because I don't eat the entire cake that's on my plate??

based on those examples, it sounds like what people are objecting to is you not engaging in social eating. there have been zillions of threads about that on here. just search for titles like "OMG. i hate my co-workers for getting mad at me for not having birthday cake with them!!!". it sounds like maybe those comments are coming more from a place where they feel like you're refusing to be part of the group due to a food obsession. whether true or not, the way to respond to that is to simply politely decline with a smile and say something like "wow, it looks really good, but i can't have any because right now i'm strictly watching my calorie and macronutrient intake". usually that will be enough for people to know not to push the issue. alternately, you can have a couple of bites and it literally won't affect your diet at all. only if you make a big deal about people pressuring you to eat will people typically get snippy back. most adults understand if you're watching your diet and won't push the issue if you're polite about it.

There is a technique that you should perfect that I call "The art of listening without listening" and it is the ability to nod, make sympathetic noises and generally agree while not taking the slightest notice of what the other person is actually saying.

I always think its worth trying

Sounds like most men I know; mainly my husband, lol.

To the original poster, I know exactly how you feel. I am going through that myself. I am getting more confident, more energy, & feeling better from eating better (4 weeks) & getting exercise (8 weeks now) & it’s like people are upset because I am happy & they aren’t. I also hate when they ask me how much weight have I lost & I tell them, then they tell someone else that I am bragging. WTH! I know it’s because deep down they are jealous, but the heck with them. I can’t stay away from them though because they are in my day to day life, & have no choice but to be around them. Just hang in there & tell them what they are saying isn't nice & they should be supportive if they care about you. Next one that says something harsh or acts upset at me for trying to better my health, then I am going to let my mouth do the talking, lol. :P

Does anyone else get FURIOUS at people who judge you for eating healthy??? And watching what you eat?? Or tell you that you're "too obsessive" over exercise and eating healthy and should "enjoy your life??"" I'm like BACK UP, I take pride in my work in the gym and kitchen and DO ENJOY EATING HEALTHY. Sorry I don't want fries with that???!?!

Like today I was told running long distances was terrible for you and I would have to have knee surgery and leg surgery when I got older and was basically belittled because I like running ten miles instead of being told, "Wow look at you go!" Like excuse me people, I love love LOVE being healthy and no I may not eat the entire serving of cake that is put on my plate, but that means I'm "too obsessive" and "worry about my weight too much" ?!?!?!?

People can just piss you off, ya know?

step back a second...

what exactly is "eating healthy" and why do you think that the foods you choose to eat give you a position of moral superiority over the foods that others choose to eat? food is just fuel. if you're getting enough nutritional value from your food choices, then fries can be a regular part of your diet.

of course, the foods you choose to eat are your business and nobody should be giving you a hard time so long as your diet is giving you the nutrients that you need. however, if you are disgusted when you see somebody else eating fries and you think that person is necessarily "unhealthy", then you're in the wrong too. that doesn't mean you're a bad person. it just means that you may be misinformed about the true nature of food and how your body uses it. your body doesn't care whether it gets what it needs from a diet that includes only so-called "healthy" foods or one that also includes so-called "unhealthy" foods. it simply goes to work breaking them down and extracting what it needs from them.

well put, Brainy.

We all make choices about judging each other without being fully informed. OP, it might upset you when people come across as judgmental about your your workouts or eating choices, and that's not necessarily okay. But some of what you say about how you eat comes across as judgmental about how others eat. The same could be said about the working out.

Everyone you meet has a story you don't know about . so first thing, Always, be kind.

I have perfected the art of tuning out such nonsense and going to my happy place in my mind. Try it. It works wonders on relieving stress.

Sometimes people tell me to stop losing weight. I just smile and nod. I don't tell them I've maintained for over twelve months now. I don't get pissed off either.

Middle fingers are wonderful tools.

:laugh:

I can't deny that it doesn't get under my skin a little as well. My father-in-law routinely makes comments like, "You need to eat something, you're getting too skinny." I feel like I put a lot of work into my weight loss, and I do think of it as an achievement, exactly because I'm eating PLENTY, and losing it in a healthy way. But, I do have to take a deep breath and relax also, because I know that he's coming from a place of love, and he just doesn't understand. And, honestly, I'd rather hear that than gentle suggestions from people, when I was fat, about how I could stand to lose a few pounds...