Does It Ever Get Easier?

Well you can stop saying you are dieting and just say you want to eat healthier and that might ease your parents minds some. Men usually require more calories for women so you will just have to learn to live with the boyfriend thing. The always tired part worries me some. That usually means you are being too restrictive or could be and underlying sign of a health probelm. Have you gotten a check-up lately?

I feel in control when I log everything I eat & drink accurately & honestly. I fit yummy, portion controlled treats into my calorie goal so I never feel deprived. I don't eat my feelings. I don't drink my calories.

Try prelogging your food in the morning. That way all your good decisions have already been made for you.

Read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

When you are ready to change, you will. Until then, it will be hard.

The mind is a very powerful tool in weight loss. It can make or break you. . Build habits to make you healthy. A side effect of getting healthy - is getting to a healthy weight.

Stop caring about what other people do or say. If it is a challenge, consider looking at your need to satisfy others.

Offer to shop. Offer to cook. Try and make small changes. Why not eat the can chilli but cook up a heap of veggies to go with it instead of rice. Even pre healthy eating every pasta dish I made was made with half pasta half veggies.
One trick I learnt on forums. Don't say no thanks I'm on a diet, say no thanks I'm full or no thanks in not hungry.
Get off the computer. 4 year WOW addict got fat. 10 month gym addict. Got fit (and slim)
And lastly. Stop blaming others. My husband is over weight and resisted my efforts for months. Teenage son was having different meals to me as I didn't want to force my lifestyle on him. Now they want to eat my healthy foods. It took a long time, but I told them I was doing it this time, with our without their support!

When you become addicted to the life, the better eating feeling and looking, you stop caring about what the outside world says.

The boyfriend is VERY overweight, and that's the part that annoys me. He hasn't tried to do anything about it at all. I may be only a few pounds overweight, but I can't stand it. I don't know how he can confidently wear that 3X when I cringe at the sight of my 1X!! I hate clothes, I want nothing to do with them. I hate my swollen feet and stomach, I hate everything! I don't even honestly eat that much until people start ordering out, but since my father got a better job it happens all the time now! Parents still buy the same old convenience foods that we used to get from the food bank because we've eaten it for 20 years and now that my entertainment comes from a computer instead of a bicycle, my body can't handle it anymore!

God I hate this. "Why won't you eat my food? What, are you too good for canned chili?" Ugh...I can't do anything...

People are naturally like crabs in a bucket - One crab can get out by herself, but more than one... they'll climb all over each other and pull each other down so much that they will all die in the bucket together, instead of helping each other.

Your family is perceiving what you are doing as threatening to their way of life. They are being made to feel badly for not making better choices, hence their reaction. You may not even be doing it on purpose, it's just how they are reacting.

My suggestions: Stop worrying about them and their comments. You're doing this for you. When people get snarky, understand where that is coming from, and don't argue (there's no point). Just say something like, "I'm sorry you don't agree with my choices, but this is how it is."

If you're saying the same things as above to your family, your comments may be making them feel defensive, in which case, you could reduce the stress by being more careful of how you talk about your new life habits.

Stop trying to get your fiance to change. He can only do that if HE decides to, so don't judge or pressure him. If he sees you succeeding, he may decide to follow in your footsteps... or he may not. You have to be a ble to live with that. It's not your life, and not your call.

Take control of your meals... you have a fiance, but it sounds like you're eating with your parents a lot. Perhaps it's time to reduce the amount of meals you eat together and cook more for yourself.

I made a choice to change how I eat. I did not ask my family to change, except to support me ( kids are at very healthy weights, hubby is not). Some nights, I will make a special supper just for me because what everyone else is having is too high in calories... or, I'll simply eat a much smaller portion. My husband has started making small changes as he is inspired by my success, but I never asked him to do this with me, nor do I presuure him if he indulges in fattening foods. If he has a treat, I have to practise self-control. Sometimes I succeed, sometimes I do not. He has to take his own journey, I only have the energy to worry about my own.

If you hate all those things so much, quitting is not going to make you feel any better. The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting different results. If you want change, YOU have to change.

Good luck!