Friends not happy for you!?

I only have a few friends I discuss my goals with...most don't get it and think I am nuts for lifting weights...most are women and believe I will get "bulky"

I discuss it with people who get it usually...otherwise I get that deer in the headlight look...

As for someone in real life being happy...you be happy...this is about you...

Some people are just crappy friends and put their own feelings ahead of yours. In my experience, this seems to be common for young women. Instead of being happy for you, all they can think is negative thoughts because they're envious and wish they had your drive (or going back to your other thread, think you're "lucky") or are jealous for other reasons. Adjust your expectations accordingly...

If they express a desire to lose weight, share your experiences with them and let them know you're there to help them and leave it at that. These kinds of things can ruin friendships if you're not careful.

I agree that most people don't get it. Don't understand how hard you work and the dedication you put in. They are either skinny/fit themselves or if they are not don't want to see someone have the success that they wished they have but don't want to try.

Working 24 hr shifts I still have guys that ask me every shift if I want to eat this or that or will I make this or that. ( I do most of the cooking for the shift). They just look at me like why would you not eat for example biscuits and gravy or refuse to make it for the guys at breakfast. Some understand and are supportive others not. So I don't share my losses and such with them.

Be happy for yourself. Remember this is about you.

You seem overly worried about what everyone around you thinks. Whether they are calling you "lucky" or not patting you on the back, dont let it bother you, are you trying to get fit for them or for yourself?

All my girlfriends are supportive so I don't have this issue. I have one girlfriend who can't really relate, shes all of 4' 11' 90lbs and eats her weight in bacon lol. However I have one close friend that doesn't have the same goals but its health and gym focused as well and we constantly share ideas and recipes and tips to maintaining a healthy lifestyle. We also have plans to start running outdoors together once the weather improves, this is something that I haven't really done before so I'm excited.

I would not focus on the amount of friends that support you/are happy for you but the quality of the few relationships that support your goals and achievements. Rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies

Let's not go down the road of jealous haters just yet and look at this logically. Are your health and fitness goals important to you? Yes.

Are they important to everyone else? No.

It's a big deal to you right now because you're focusing a lot of time, energy, and attention on it. But it's not a big thing to anybody else. If I told my friends I'd lost x lbs this month, it might get a "good for you" or "great job, I know how hard you've been working" and then the conversation would move on. I know family and friends are happy for me, but seriously, I finally got my *kitten* in gear and lost weight - it isn't like I cured cancer. I don't even really talk about because I've found that unless the other person is focused on fitness as well, it's just not something people want to hear about.

I don't talk a lot about my goals out loud or to my friends/family because I feel like, for me personally, if I talk about them, it gives me a false sense of achievement, as if they're already accomplished. I'd rather type out my thoughts on here on these forums to get more advice....

Isn't it weird how we do that...? I have a personal policy to NOT advertise my diet or fitness goals, or even my health issues in general. For me it just seems such a private, personal thing. In fact, only two of my MFP friends are also real-life friends, and only one or two other people know what is going on with me health-wise as far as the diabetes. I don't even talk about it much with my husband (doesn't get it and just leaves me frustrated so I don't bother.)

I haven't yet lost enough weight for anyone to notice... my friends are not the type to give me a hard time about it but it will be interesting to see people's reactions in general (including my family.)

its not even that I care about what they think, its just that they have the same goals and I'm proud of myself and would like to be an inspiration for them and show that even though I have a desk job 7-5 it IS attainable once you decide what your priorities are! I just thought I could be an inspiration and instead I feel like I can't share any successes because I won't get a response. its not that I get a negative response..i just don't get a response. but oh well... I have MFP to share successes on. and I love seeing the transformation in the mirror

This is not the same as them not being happy for you. This is you feeling butthurt, for lack of a better term, because everyone else isn't following your lead and making you their fitness mentor. In this case, you need to accept that they are going to making changes when they are ready and that they may not be responding because they feel like you are being preachy and pushy. Celebrate with your fitness friends and let your other friends decide for themselves if they want to make you their inspiration.

Well I don't personally have any girlfriends to share this sort of thing with anyway. But I do have girls in my family who I tend to tell whenever I have hit an achievement or talk about the gym etc...my sister can't stand talking to me about it and gets very jealous (even though she herself has lost 4 stone) and gets angry with me so I can't talk with her. My mum is supportive but can't relate to me as she's naturally thin so I usually chat to my cousins about it. One is a guy and is quite health and fitness focused so he's easy to talk to about it.
I usually find that if someone is not happy for you, they're somewhat jealous of your success or your ambitions with yourself. That's what I find anyway