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  • lucille_heather
    lucille_heather Posts: 650 Member
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    if its a free drink, il take it, polite small talk with the guy. but as soon as he gets too friendly, then il tell him ive got a boyfriend.
  • MrsPaulSmith
    MrsPaulSmith Posts: 401 Member
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    I accept all freebies. I will talk to anyone, but I do not intentionally flirt.
  • lraymond14
    lraymond14 Posts: 22 Member
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    No! I try to think about it if the shoe was on the other foot. I know I wouldn't like it if my husband accepted a drink from another woman.
  • Ihatecoldsoup
    Ihatecoldsoup Posts: 186
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    If the guy was smart, he wouldn't buy a random girl a drink unless they were conversing first.
  • Mele1973
    Mele1973 Posts: 27
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    If the guy was smart, he wouldn't buy a random girl a drink unless they were conversing first.

    Yup, this! I live in a small town, too, but this has not happened to me. We would have to be already chatting it up for a guy to even offer to buy. I think it's very situational - depends on the person, the circumstances, what was exchanged already, my relationship (since this assumes a committed relationship), etc, etc. As a rule of thumb, I would likely not accept under the over-simplistic situation laid out here.
  • phuckingbadasscutie
    phuckingbadasscutie Posts: 1,619 Member
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    Yes but I always start with "I'm married and I have 4 kids" usually the guys don't care. I've actually had this happen in front of my husband several times also. He thinks it's hilarious.
  • bd0027
    bd0027 Posts: 1,053 Member
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    No and no.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
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    no on the drink

    but yea on the talking to them if they seem cool ....which is rare

    its happened many times in front of previous partners not a big deal
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
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    No.


    Not that that ever happens. :laugh:
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
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    Depends on creep factor.
    It's my job to talk to people and I travel a LOT so I'll happily bullsh!t with anyone as long as it's kosher.



    I see I'm the minority here. LOL oh well!
  • vjohn04
    vjohn04 Posts: 2,276 Member
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    Yes, but I am a bartender and have been for 18 years. That's how I met my partner of 12 years. I live in a town of about 30,000 so most of the guys who come up to me are customers. I take their drinks and say thank you and keep it friendly but professional. I have to keep a flirty yet distant relationship with my clientele. My partner is aware of the fact that I'm "on stage" when I go out and is okay with it because I don't take it to an inappropriate level.

    Plus, in my experience both observing and being out, you can totally take a free drink and feel no obligation to say anything other than, "Thank you."

    Let the bartender hand you the drink, for heaven's sake. Of course you don't take it from the guy.

    I do want to say that friendly drink buying is super common where I live. People often by rounds for the bar or just any random people sitting nearby. It is considered a social faux pas not to take the drink (or if you don't want a drink, you will get a token for the next time you come in). The bartender will give you a token and take the person's money whether or not you want the drink. It's just the social custom in Montana.

    ^and everything she said here.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
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    Depends on creep factor.
    It's my job to talk to people and I travel a LOT so I'll happily bullsh!t with anyone as long as it's kosher.



    I see I'm the minority here. LOL oh well!

    It can get tricky for military spouses. There's a TON of infidelity and it's a super small community. It makes everything easier if there's not even the appearance of impropriety. In many ways the military community is stuck in the 50s.

    Also I'm antisocial and have no desire to talk to anyone. :laugh:
  • luadams2
    luadams2 Posts: 122
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    No. In a committed relationship means my man buys my drinks. If I'm out with the girls, I'm out with the girls, not the girls and some random dude.
  • nikkihk
    nikkihk Posts: 487 Member
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    If I'm in a committed relationship... I wouldn't need to ask that question.
  • krawhitham
    krawhitham Posts: 831 Member
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    Yeah, sure. As long as I see the bartender pour the drink and it goes right into my hand. I'll chat with him too. I'd expect my bf to do the same. Actually, I'm pretty sure he does. He's a bar tender, gets bought drinks all the time and flirts for tips every day! haha...
  • Slacker16
    Slacker16 Posts: 1,184 Member
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    I realize your question was directed at women, but I just wanted to say that this was the best answer by far:
    I'de be honest with the guy before he spends his cash and tell him I'm taken. If after he still wants to, sure! But it won't make a difference as I'm happily commited and will tell him that.
  • SuperWhoLock24601
    SuperWhoLock24601 Posts: 245 Member
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    Nope. No sense in having a guy waste his money when I have no intent on giving him attention.
  • salvationsdying
    salvationsdying Posts: 205 Member
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    Nope, for one thing I do not drink alcohol. And another I am with someone and offering to buy a drink to me is being hit on so Id pass anyways. Politly of course lol

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