Why is this so hard???

It's hard because food tastes really good. You just have to try your hardest to stick with it, and when you do have a "bad" day, pick it back up where you left off.

you either want it bad enough or you don't. Simple

remember - weight loss is a cumulitive thing - a blow out doesnt mean it is blown! just get back on it the next day and try to account for your over indulgence by eating less when you feel stronger willed. apparantley it takes 3500 calories to gain one pound.

Losing weight is hard.... for everyone lol
Not just losing weight but even gaining weight for some, getting toned, bulking -- basically attaining the level of ideal fitness you set for yourself is difficult (but not impossible).

I can definitely relate in that I struggle with my relationship with food. I struggle with binge eating and even used to get literal adrenal highs from secretly eating. Then I used to be in this cycle of quick weightloss/fad diets where I deprived myself, then I binged because I deprived myself, then I dieted because I binged, then on and on and on.

But I think what I've learned is 1, you can't focus on weightloss. Weightloss is a BYPRODUCT of eating healthy and exercising and having an overall healthy lifestyle. That change to having a healthy lifestyle (from where ever we are now) doesn't happen over night, that my friend is the struggle.

The reason (I think) why you feel guilty is because you view that snickers as something that is "bad" and will hinder your weightloss because you have this ideal view of what a a diet to lose weight looks like (ie veggies, fruit, nuts, etc) but that snickers doesn't quite fit in. So in your mind you failed yourself. But I think quite the contrary, you should be PROUD that you fit it into your meal plan and managed to stay under your cals! That's awesome!

But like I said its a struggle for everyone, just try to take it one day at a time and know that it's okay to have chocolates and donuts and cakes etc once in while. It's okay to mess up once in a while. Remind yourself this is not just about weightloss, it's about changing your lifestyle and that will inevitably take time... or a few times even

Best of wishes to you love

I'm in the same boat, where I have less than ten pounds to go to meet my healthy goal. Do you live alone? I do, and so the solution to this is easy for me. I have absolutely NOTHING in my house that I can binge on that will push me over the edge calorically. The only thing I have that I could eat too much of is plain popcorn...and that is super low in calories. I shop for myself weekly...so I only have enough food in my house for the week. If I decide I want an extra string cheese one day, I'll be without it come Friday. I find this works great for me.

I used to be a huge late night snacker. It was hard to break, especially since my husband can eat whatever he want and gains nothing.

OMG, my husband is the same way and it's frustrating. Since I make all the meals in the house, he basically eats what I eat these days. If I lose 2 pounds, he loses 5 and he really doesn't need to lose any! GRRRRRRR

Haha, mine will eat what I make then at 9 pm start frying up bacon or making wings or go out and get McDonalds.. do you know how hard it is to resist the smell of bacon?! Lol, I just go straight to bed when that happens.

they say nothing tastes as good as skinny

i beg to differ

My serious answer to your question is that it's hard because you aren't ready yet. Your mind says you are ready, but emotionally you aren't. Which, you know, is ok. It took me YEARS to get to a place where I was ready, and there wasn't a big triggering event. There were several times I *felt* like I *should* be ready, but I never was able to stop the cycle of deprivation, binging, guilt.

THAT. RIGHT THERE, I had the worst time 'trying' to lose wight until now. All through highschool I was 'happy' with how I looked and 'didn't need to lose weight', meaning I didn't think I could ever be fit and had decided to settle for something I didn't want. In college, I joined a an incredibly intense major, and found myself stress-starving. I'd drop a few pounds from deprivation, and then gain them back as soon as a project was completed and turned in. It was unhealthy, and drove me insane.

Now I am three years into college, and I am ready to change. I know what I want, I've done the reading, I've done the math. I am ready to commit to my goals, and not give up until I reach them. I was a major slacker in many areas of my life, I am not a motivated person. But the discipline I have gained from my experiences in such a high-pressure degree program has shown me that pulling a failing project up to an A IS possible. And that's how I see my body.

Perhaps you have not yet matured tot he point where you want it badly enough. Being able to value long-term goals over short-term rewards is a very difficult concept to grasp for a very long time. Stick with it, some day you'll wake up and be ready for change.