Dealing with Co-Workers Concerns

Ouch. In general, deflection with a turn is how I would deal with that.

To the boss - a light laugh followed by "You are so silly, I lost weight so I don't get sick. Oh Hey, I was looking at the employee handbook the other day! There's a hilarious typo in the Harrassment section, you should go read it!"

To co-worker #1 - "I feel you, salad and apple for lunch is hard for most people. I figure if I keep going long enough I'll turn into an actual rabbit and I won't have to come to work anymore."

To co-worker #2 - "Oh, that's unfortunate. I really prefer ugly guys with personality and tattoos that say 'I love satan' do you know any of those? "

I deal with a lot of things with Rough humor.

Just keep doing what you are doing. I get some of the same things, not from everyone, but from enough people.

My 'favorite' is wow you are wasting away to nothing, pretty soon we won't be able to see you.

Thanks for the underhanded comment, but no thanks.

I just keep doing me and realize that it's their issue/insecurity, not mine

keep rocking it

number comment would have made me explode- I would have told him he had no business passing out my number without my consent and I was going to file up with HR (at the very least- make a note and tell someone you trust about )

secondly- my go to response is
"If I wanted to look like you- I'd eat like you"

Making rude inappropriate comments is what people do when they realize you are actually making a change- and they are not.

Also "why do you care if I eat it- I'm not asking you to eat it"

"alright judgy mcjdugerson- what does your delicious meal look like and what can I make fun of you for in it?

I have no shame- I look good- and I work out- I'm one of the fittest and most active people in the office- and I have good success doing what I'm doing- it's hard to argue with results or something with a specific goal (recently: I am bulking to put on weigh to get a better deadlift)

good luck my dear!

Ah, your responses are great. I have no self-confidence though, and I know I would just be flat out mean if I said anything at all. Maybe all I need is to practice being more...sassy?

It's just weird to me, I'm NOT the thinnest/most fit person in the office. I am the only one to change dramatically in the past few years but still....

it's okay- be mean- but smile.

it totally works. And it gets easier with practice!!!

This is true!!

When people are being jerks like this, I respond with equal insults and a smile. They usually shut up and don't mention it again. Sometimes (very rarely) they proceed to get mad and tell me I don't need to be mean. I then calmly explain why what they said in the first place was wrong, and watch them try to weasel their way through excuses as to why what they said was fine. I smile the whole time and wait for them to run out of steam and storm off, then laugh so they can hear me. :flowerforyou:

Lion do n ot concern themsleves with the opinions of sheep.

If it gets too bothersome, go to HR.

Ouch. In general, deflection with a turn is how I would deal with that.

To the boss - a light laugh followed by "You are so silly, I lost weight so I don't get sick. Oh Hey, I was looking at the employee handbook the other day! There's a hilarious typo in the Harrassment section, you should go read it!"

To co-worker #1 - "I feel you, salad and apple for lunch is hard for most people. I figure if I keep going long enough I'll turn into an actual rabbit and I won't have to come to work anymore."

To co-worker #2 - "Oh, that's unfortunate. I really prefer ugly guys with personality and tattoos that say 'I love satan' do you know any of those? "

I deal with a lot of things with Rough humor.

Can I carry you in my back pocket so I have a instant-burn on hand when these people come around? Please & thank you.

Well, I'm not back pocket sized yet. I have a kid you could probably fit in a bookbag, but his zingers aren't that great yet.

Good luck with the co-workers. I have this problem on a weekly basis and i'm learing how to deal with it and let go of the negatvity that surrounds OTHER people's lives. Once you realize it is THEIR problem, it gets easier. Keep that HR handbook close by though.

I totally agree with bethira. It seems they are trying to put you down in a way that makes them feel better about their lack of effort in regards to health. I do think they won't give up until you stand up for yourself in some manner, whether it's with your reply or a trip to HR.

Right in the middle of them making their lil comment say
"hold'on" pull out your phone take a selfie, look at it and say "damn I look good! Now what were you saying?"

Ouch. In general, deflection with a turn is how I would deal with that.

To the boss - a light laugh followed by "You are so silly, I lost weight so I don't get sick. Oh Hey, I was looking at the employee handbook the other day! There's a hilarious typo in the Harrassment section, you should go read it!"

To co-worker #1 - "I feel you, salad and apple for lunch is hard for most people. I figure if I keep going long enough I'll turn into an actual rabbit and I won't have to come to work anymore."

To co-worker #2 - "Oh, that's unfortunate. I really prefer ugly guys with personality and tattoos that say 'I love satan' do you know any of those? "

I deal with a lot of things with Rough humor.

This is fantastic!

I HATE this stuff, and have convinced everyone I know that I am obsessed with food to avoid it. I am constantly snacking so that everyone always sees me eating something. It's all healthy stuff, but now the comments I get are more like, "Wow, do you have a drawer of snacks in your desk?" (I do).

Unless your weight loss prevents you from working your boss has jack squat to say. I also don't give out my phone number to coworkers, that is what a work phone is for. Plus anyone giving out your number without your permission is extreamly rude. People are going to judge you no matter what, it's human nature. They are trying to bring you down so they feel better about themselves.

It's sad to see your coworkers treating you that way. Mine here are really cool about me trying to lose weight. Of course, I just started so I'm at a different stage of losing weight and getting healthy then you.

What is it about co-workers and the lack of filters? Honestly, I'm most conservative with the things I say to people when I'm at work or addressing co-workers. It's just crazy to me that people think it's acceptable in the work place (or quite frankly at all) to make comments on peoples bodies. The fact that the comments are negative is the strangest part...

I've had several of my co-workers make comments about my weight loss and it's almost entirely been wildly inappropriate. A couple of them were nice and mentioned that they'd noticed or asked for advice. The majority have been negative 'jokes' like "You're going to disappear soon", "you're done losing weight right?", etc. Others have been downright insulting. I had one co-worker eyeball me when I got my greek yogurt snack from the breakroom and say "Oh, I'm glad to see you are actually eating" with a straight face. Another confronted me last week and asked me why I decided to go on a 'diet' and go on about when I'm stopping (despite this person having already said things to me multiple times and I had already told him that I was no longer losing weight but maintaining).

People can be incredibly rude and petty. While they won't tell people to stop gaining weight, they'll go on for hours teasing/insulting those who have successfully lost weight. I try not to let it bother me, but it certainly doesn't feel good to have to deal with people like that.

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I would tell them to f@ck off.