People irritate the *kitten* out of me

I am also in the camp of feeling it is never acceptable to comment on someone else's body unless they ask for advice or help. I absolutely hate people making comments on weight loss or gain, even if they are seemingly positive comments (because even then they're implying something negative about how you used to look). I guess I just hate to think anyone else would scrutinise my body to the same extent I do! I just can't be bothered with people like this any more, so I tend to let them know how inappropriate their comments are or just avoid them altogether. Now don't even get me started on people who comment on how much or little you're eating. Like just p*ss off.

ETA: I will say, I think it's marginally more annoying when people make these comments to others behind your back. I guess if any comments have to be made, then I'd rather they are said to my face. But still, there is no need to do either!

sometimes people just suck! Lol

But other times they are trying to avoid dealing with their own issues, so they mock others. They might be jealous of your success!

To the OP, congrats on your loss! You look great. I agree with you, for some incredible reason people feel weight and personal appearance are free game to talk about in public.

I'm 5ft 3 and 153lb and have started having these comments the last couple off weeks. "Why would you want to be any smaller?" "you be careful you don't want to get too thin" and the best "women our age have to be careful as it ages you" and my delightful daughter" "you'll look haggard". My bmi is still overweight and I'm not big boned so it threw me a bit, I'm just smiling now and not saying anything.

^^^^ Same here. I'm 5'3, just turned 60, and have heard those same comments, plus "is she seriously ill?" and "older women shouldn't get too thin" (when I was 150, still overweight). I've also found it's better to be silent.

Oh. They talk. Yea. Their mere breathing does it for me.

It should never be OK to talk about a person's weight. Ever. Period. I have worked at the same place for the past 14 years. Some of these people have known me almost half my life. And over the years (and 2 kids) I had put on some weight. I carried it well, thankfully, but it was totally unhealthy. Now that I have lost the bulk of it and am back to a healthy weight people are making all kinds of comments! "Oh you're too skinny now" "You need to stop losing weight" Mind you, I was this weight 14 years ago when I started working here and no one had anything to say about it then! It's just that they got used to seeing me heavier and now they aren't used to it. I'm so over. I've gotten to the point where I lie to people about whether or not I have more weight to lose. Granted, I'm only one pound away from my goal (!) but it still aggravates the *kitten* out of me!

Ok, rant over. Thanks for listening. Happy Friday :happy:

I could have wrote this. I am experiencing the same thing. I started my current job 8 yrs ago. I was about 160 lbs then. About 1 yr later, I had finally lost the baby weight from my first pregnancy going down to 125 lbs. No one even noticed. Now fast forward to 2013 and two more pregnancies later, I was 202 lbs. I was heavy! So, I put in the work and am finally down to a healthy weight for my height (5'2") of 125 lbs. People seem so shocked as if I was never this weight before. I know that it is only because for the last 2 yrs I was heavy. When I try to explain that to them, the still don't understand. I am tired of feeling as if I need to explain myself. It is my body after all and I am healthy.

Oh dear.

Recently fallen into some of this nastiness as well, and it's REALLY annoying. I feel your pain OP.

I totally get where you're coming from. Gosh, people were telling me I needed to stop losing when I was still overweight. To be fair, overweight is the average in America these days. So, some people just genuinely don't know what healthy and/or fit look like. Also, they have to adjust to seeing us smaller just as we do.

Nevertheless, it gets frustrating. You think it would be nice to hear the comments, until you actually are hearing them. Now, I just wish people would SHUT UP and realize I want to talk about more than the food I eat, how much I weigh, or how much weight I lost. Geeze.

People are constantly telling me i need to stop losing weight (i actually stopped over a year ago, give or take a few lbs). I also get told to eat a burger etc. People are ruder to me being slimmer than when i was obese!