going to a friends house, what's appropriate?

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aribugg
aribugg Posts: 164 Member
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This friend knows that im counting calories, so i dont think it would be that bad if i brought my own snack for the day. since her family would never do such a thing as counting calories, food selection over there can become an issue. last time i was there i ended up eating 660 calories worth of one cup of soup, and thats more calories then i like to give myself for lunch... not too much more, but its freaking soup and i'd like a side with that but i couldnt.
problem being, if i brought something i feel the need to bring her some too. but i cant really afford that, financially and for the sake of my every day calorie plans. (im may need it later, i mean)
we're pretty close and we've always shared our food, but if i bring only something for me and share it, it will throw off my count >.<
I feel like a jerk for all this, but idk what would be appropriate and polite and still keep my goals in check...
what would you guys do?
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  • sjohnny
    sjohnny Posts: 56,142 Member
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    I'd bring potato salad. It's relatively inexpensive to make and it's salad so it's healthy.
  • Iknowsaur
    Iknowsaur Posts: 777 Member
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    You're not being a jerk at all!
    Does your friend know that you're trying to lose weight, or be healthier?
    Since you say you're close, it might be best just to be honest about the whole situation so she knows that's going on.
  • BlueBombers
    BlueBombers Posts: 4,065 Member
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    Bring some potato cheddar soup.
  • petefromguelph
    petefromguelph Posts: 84 Member
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    Bring some potato cheddar soup.

    yum.
  • nineteentwenty
    nineteentwenty Posts: 469 Member
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    You can always say you have a stomach ache and only eat a small bit of what she has in her house, I do that all the time.
  • mmm_drop
    mmm_drop Posts: 1,126 Member
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    Um, I say eat what they are eating. It is ONE day. One day will not undo all your progress.
  • CaitlinW19
    CaitlinW19 Posts: 431 Member
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    Share with your friend your thoughts. Maybe the two of you can do something together like go get ingredients to make something healthy and then cook/bake together. My favorite snack is Skinnytaste.com's healthy cookies...2 overripe mashed bananas and 1 cup of quick oats, then whatever nuts, chocolate/peanut butter chips, coconut, dried fruit you like. See if she'll go along with you to make it into an activity you can share.
  • FluffyDogsRule
    FluffyDogsRule Posts: 366 Member
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    I think that if you can't bring enough to share (I usually make something healthy to share and then have mostly mine, but a little of the other stuff) then you should just eat before you go and eat a little of what they offer you. I agree it's only one day. Either lie and say your stomach is acting weird or tell the truth and say you're counting calories...but i dont' think that means you can't have any of what they make.
  • CupcakesAndLettuce
    CupcakesAndLettuce Posts: 13 Member
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    My argument with these things is that one meal or one day of eating bad didn't make me fat. It's doing it all the time that did that, so I allow myself like one day or meal every few weeks to have whatever I want, because one meal isn't the be all and end all if you see this as a lifestyle change. If you see it as a diet, then it will hurt it I guess. But when you see it as a lifestyle thing, I always think it'd be a pretty crappy life if I couldn't let my hair down once every so often haha
    xxxx
  • LoraF83
    LoraF83 Posts: 15,694 Member
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    Take potato skins. Everyone loves them.
  • malloryah1
    malloryah1 Posts: 2
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    I think you should be honest in this situation. Have a conversation that you want to come over but you're eating healthy and will need to bring your own food. If this is your friend they will be supportive or get over it.
  • Ang108
    Ang108 Posts: 1,711 Member
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    This friend knows that im counting calories, so i dont think it would be that bad if i brought my own snack for the day. since her family would never do such a thing as counting calories, food selection over there can become an issue. last time i was there i ended up eating 660 calories worth of one cup of soup, and thats more calories then i like to give myself for lunch... not too much more, but its freaking soup and i'd like a side with that but i couldnt.
    problem being, if i brought something i feel the need to bring her some too. but i cant really afford that, financially and for the sake of my every day calorie plans. (im may need it later, i mean)
    we're pretty close and we've always shared our food, but if i bring only something for me and share it, it will throw off my count >.<
    I feel like a jerk for all this, but idk what would be appropriate and polite and still keep my goals in check...
    what would you guys do?

    I am wondering.....
    Cup-of-soup has anywhere from 47 calories for lets say an envelope of Spring vegetable soup to 71 calories for Chicken noodle soup and you blame your friends for your eating anywhere from 9 to 14 portions ( depending on the soup ) of the stuff ? Did they tie you down and force feed you ? Anything that is more nutritious than that is appropriate to take......
  • moviestarsara
    moviestarsara Posts: 66
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    I think you should be honest in this situation. Have a conversation that you want to come over but you're eating healthy and will need to bring your own food. If this is your friend they will be supportive or get over it.

    This. And once you have this conversation, you won't be worried about food when you go to her house in the future.
  • 19TaraLynn84
    19TaraLynn84 Posts: 739 Member
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    I think you're over-thinking this. Just go to her house and eat what they eat. You don't have to eat as much as they do. Or if you choose to pig out, eat less for the remainder of the day and/or make sure to get some exercise in.
  • seltzermint555
    seltzermint555 Posts: 10,741 Member
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    I think you should be honest in this situation. Have a conversation that you want to come over but you're eating healthy and will need to bring your own food. If this is your friend they will be supportive or get over it.

    This is what I was thinking too. Talk honestly & openly about this with your friend.
  • Bounce4
    Bounce4 Posts: 288 Member
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    For one day I would go and eat what was served but select small portions if it is something calorie dense. Life and eating shouldn't be so complicated.

    Now if you go over there 3-4 times a week, that might be a different story.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
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    For one day I would go and eat what was served but select small portions if it is something calorie dense. Life and eating shouldn't be so complicated.

    Now if you go over there 3-4 times a week, that might be a different story.

    This. If it is an infrequent thing, just eat whatever, log it the best you can and move on. If you go there frequently, then maybe have that conversation others have mentioned.
  • patsypooter
    patsypooter Posts: 175 Member
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    I'm going to a birthday party this weekend. I already told the host I am bringing my own meal for myself and I will also bring a potato or pasta salad for the group.

    I doubt your friend will want some of your healthy food, you might be worried about nothing. If she asks for some when you get there just tell her Woops I only brought enough for my self, sorry!
  • oneloopygirl
    oneloopygirl Posts: 151 Member
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    My argument with these things is that one meal or one day of eating bad didn't make me fat. It's doing it all the time that did that, so I allow myself like one day or meal every few weeks to have whatever I want, because one meal isn't the be all and end all if you see this as a lifestyle change. If you see it as a diet, then it will hurt it I guess. But when you see it as a lifestyle thing, I always think it'd be a pretty crappy life if I couldn't let my hair down once every so often haha
    xxxx

    THIS!!!
  • Kenazwa
    Kenazwa Posts: 278 Member
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    Do one of two things:
    1) Have a talk with your friend; tell her what you told us.
    2) Just go, enjoy yourself, eat what is served.

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