I'm Starting to Slip....

Just say no. I know it sounds easier than it really is but losing weight is mostly about willpower. You have to want it bad enough. You have to love yourself enough to want what's best for YOU.

I'm in my one year anniversary week on MFP and I have to tell you that it hasn't been a year full of motivation and perfection, but a year of eating ups and downs. I took a week or two off during the summer for camping and another 3 weeks off over Christmas (which I really paid for!) I often eat unhealthy and over my numbers on the weekend, but I've found a balance by cutting back earlier in the week to allow for this.

If you're in this for the long haul then you're going to have forgive yourself when you need to take a week "off" and just get back with it as soon as possible, and perhaps be prepared to sacrifice calories over the next few days to compensate for eating some of the things you enjoy.

Even if I've had a Sh*ty day I log it. It's always good to be aware of just how far over you went so you can correct it. And you can correct it! Just don't throw in the towel with each slip up.

Good luck!!

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Consistency and perseverance are key in long term success. I think it also has been necessary for me to educate myself. Certain foods that some people eat are just not viewed as foods by me anymore.

It helps to have a visual reminder of what you want to achieve. It sounds lame, but put a picture of a younger, skinnier you, or a body picture of someone who you want to look like on your fridge/bathroom mirror/computer desk and it will be a constant reminder of what you are trying to achieve.

The other thing i heard in your OP was that you wanted to eat as a reaction to life's stresses. I helped me to learn to use exercise as a stress relief, rather than food.

In know exactley how you feel, I am going through the same thing. I am having a hard time staying focused because of the everyday stress I fall back to eating as a comfort. I think the answer is always in us. We have to find what is it thbat truly motivates us and hold onto it with both hands and feet. Just like any journey and any addiction really we are going to fall we just have to keep picking ourselves up and getting back into the groove

I hate exercise! I'm sorry but I do. I don't want to run, jog, lift, do the elliptical or anything else. I don't get a "high" from working out it's just something I force myself to do but I will never love it. As for my motivation I am going to be more honest than most and just say it's about 50% health and the other %50 is pure vanity. Damn straight I want to look hot and sexy who doesn't? I just want to look and feel normal.

I'm with you sister! I have the eat everything days too, but I don't, but I want to , but I don't. As you can see, sometimes it's a vicious circle. Maybe find a yummy little treat that can saisfy the major cheat craving, but not kill everything you've worked for. That usually works for me. Other times, it's just saying NO until it passes.

I hate exercise! I'm sorry but I do. I don't want to run, jog, lift, do the elliptical or anything else. I don't get a "high" from working out it's just something I force myself to do but I will never love it. As for my motivation I am going to be more honest than most and just say it's about 50% health and the other %50 is pure vanity. Damn straight I want to look hot and sexy who doesn't? I just want to look and feel normal.

Girl, I'm right there with you. I'm in it for the vanity (ok, and health and making sure I'm a good example for my kids, blah blah blah) but honestly, in it for the vanity I want to look hot for my hubby!

My motivation is the continual downward trend on my graphs. I am such a visual person and I use 3 different trackers to keep up with my numbers. I hate seeing an upward tick in my graphs, so that seems to be motivation enough for me. But, since hitting my half way mark I've felt the grip loosen a bit. But, I know I'm going to stick this through until the end.

Maybe come up with a great reward for yourself for reaching your goal? Something that will motivate you and keep you going? It could be just a short term goal to get you though this tough spell.

I hope you stick with it and find your motivation again No one is destined to be over weight. You make the choice for yourself. Don't chose unhealthy and over weight. Chose to be healthy and a sexy hot mama

Tie a knot at the end of the rope and hang on with all your might! It's the only thing to do when you start slipping. As far as "normal" , I hate the term. I am not "normal nor will I ever be. Also you have manufactured a little person inside you. You will never be quite the same. Ease up on yourself and keep going. Be happy, be healthy. This is what matters in life.

Ok...your post struck a chord with me. It struck me because I think I am working my way out of the same thing. I have always been a yo-yo dieter. This past time, I lost 80 lbs and became a runner. I really thought, I finally won and it won't be such a fight anymore!! Well, I was wrong. Last fall I let my guard down, quit logging and running, and now here I am with 20 of those lbs back on and I'm digging through my "fat" clothes because my cute skinny clothes don't fit anymore. Ugh!!! :grumble: I think we all have a vanity side to our goals. So don't let that bother you. It is perfectly normal to want to look good to other people!! But remember that the most important thing is to love and look good for yourself first. You will never make everyone happy...so just start with yourself first!

I never liked exercising either, until I found what I really enjoy...which is walking and running, by myself! I am a special education teacher and a mother to three teenage boys. I have people talking to me and wanting things from me all day. So when I go exercise I get to remove myself from everyone else for awhile. I used to get upset when I didn't feel like running. Then I figured out that it was okay to let myself enjoy just a walk. I put my iPhone on and listen to Pandora or a podcast or my favorite music and just enjoy my peaceful time. So I encourage you to just find what you enjoy. I saw another poster mention that it doesn't have to look like exercise...just move!! Gardening, dancing, skating, biking, skiing, washing the car, cleaning the house...these are all ways to be more active. You don't have to sweat to benefit from some activity!! And don't stop until you find what you love. If you don't like it move on to something else!

Finally, just let yourself feel what you are feeling right now. Give yourself a week off. Don't log, but do keep in touch with your MFP friends. Read their accomplishments and frustrations. Make a plan to try some new activity. Set a goal to allow yourself to wallow for just a bit, but then drop it and move on. Make your decision to do better. Don't beat yourself up for bad days, just do better the next day, and move on.

We all go thru times like these...you are not alone and you are actually quite normal right now!!! Just make the plan and the decision for when it is time to move on from here. YOU CAN DO IT!!! :flowerforyou:

Are there things you are getting out of being 'fat'? Perhaps there is some reason you are self-sabotaging when you are nearing your goal? Being fat can be like a safety blanket sometimes for certain reasons, it can be a thing that feels like it connects you to friends or family, or perhaps it is just all you know (it was for me) and the unknown can be scary? Some things to consider!

I can totally relate to 90% of your post and can sympathise. I've been stuck in a rut for so long now and sick of it. Sick of my life constantly revolving around dieting but then at the same time i don't want to be over weight. This constant battle is really getting me down. Sorry i have no real advice but what i did was last week i joined the gym and have had 1 solid good week since but i'm still major battling with cravings ect unfortunatly.

It is really tough, I let myself slip but not too bad. I was undergoing a bunch of medical issues last year and basically took a full year off because my medical problems were discouraging me. Luckily I only gained 15lbs back but that year off gave me lots of time to think. Now that I have finally embraced my deepest desires and realized I am not happy at a size 18. So I am back in action.

Looking at my boys helps a lot.

Also, sticking a picture of myself at 325lbs on the fridge and pantry helps a lot.

Keep going, you are SO worth it. :flowerforyou:

I hate exercise! I'm sorry but I do. I don't want to run, jog, lift, do the elliptical or anything else. I don't get a "high" from working out it's just something I force myself to do but I will never love it. As for my motivation I am going to be more honest than most and just say it's about 50% health and the other %50 is pure vanity. Damn straight I want to look hot and sexy who doesn't? I just want to look and feel normal.

You have worked too darn hard to just give up. One of the most difficult things about loosing weight is *learning how to maintain*. Allow yourself some freedoms, but stick to being honest, continue to log everything, and learn how to maintain. And, by God, get out there and do some exercise! Doesn't matter if you "like" it or not, it is a huge part of being healthy and looking good. You have a choice, hon....either get it done....or whine about how much you want it! It's all up to you. Good luck!!

I hate exercise! I'm sorry but I do. I don't want to run, jog, lift, do the elliptical or anything else. I don't get a "high" from working out it's just something I force myself to do but I will never love it. As for my motivation I am going to be more honest than most and just say it's about 50% health and the other %50 is pure vanity. Damn straight I want to look hot and sexy who doesn't? I just want to look and feel normal.