feeling disheartened

jenny181111
jenny181111 Posts: 163 Member
in Motivation and Support
I just tried on the same dress I wore for New years eve expecting it to be big for me as I've lost a stone this year, but, it felt the same, tight and uncomfortable :/

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  • Karissa_Clohan
    Karissa_Clohan Posts: 126 Member
    Try not to feel too down, just keep up the good work and try it again later :)
  • Jaminjo2
    Jaminjo2 Posts: 31 Member
    This isn't meant to be mean Jenny, but maybe the dress was tighter than think on New Years. Here's my story: In March I focused on losing inches not weight. I was terribly upset when I didn't lose and inches at my waist and hips. I lost on my arms, neck & thighs, and lost 6 lbs. But when I tried a pair of pants on that were tight the last time I wore them I was able to put them on without unzipping them.

    I think I heard others in this website refer to it as "body Composition." It may be hard to not be discouraged when the numbers don't show your progress, but your body is changing for the good. Just wait, be patient, a new you will show up before you know it!
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    Yep!! Really depends on the cut of the item. I've been able to slip into some previously tight dresses and have extra room in my pants but these flippin' jackets I try on from my closet won't fit (unless I prefer not breathing and busting buttons). The cut of those jackets either doesn't align with where I'm losing weight from, or unfortunately, yes, it's possible that they fit me three dress sizes ago and not one, for example.

    Either way, just hang in there. This is a marathon, not a sprint. This is the rest of your life. You're doing great, not to mention you're an amazing MFPal, keep it up!!! :smile:
  • MyChocolateDiet
    MyChocolateDiet Posts: 22,281 Member
    that dress won't matter in six months when you are all excited about the smaller size you are shopping for at the stores.
  • slw5X5
    slw5X5 Posts: 282 Member
    that dress won't matter in six months when you are all excited about the smaller size you are shopping for at the stores.

    THIS
  • Deipneus
    Deipneus Posts: 1,861 Member
    Try not to feel too down, just keep up the good work and try it again later :)
    Yep. Focus on the success, the stone loss, and keep up what you are doing.
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Try not to feel too down, just keep up the good work and try it again later :)
    Yep. Focus on the success, the stone loss, and keep up what you are doing.

    +1
  • jenny181111
    jenny181111 Posts: 163 Member
    Thank you all very much. I've just got to keep going :)
  • Galatea_Stone
    Galatea_Stone Posts: 2,037 Member
    You've lost a stone in 2014? That is serious success! Keep it up, and forget about that dress.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    It's possible that you just haven't lost from the spots yet that would make the dress fit better. I tend to lose first from my chest area, so anything that goes around my waist/hips will still be tight even if I've lost a few pounds.
  • lauren3101
    lauren3101 Posts: 1,853 Member
    Don't feel disheartened. I didn't notice much difference in my body shape at first either.

    You could well have lost visceral fat, which is far more important.

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  • sarainiowa
    sarainiowa Posts: 287 Member
    Don't give one dress that much power over you. Put the dress away and go for a walk. You'll drive yourself crazy thinking about it which will lead to eating and that solves nothing!!

    Get ready to laugh at that dress in a month or two because it's to big.

    Get up. Have a glass of water. Then go enjoy a workout. You can do this!!
  • Jaminjo2
    Jaminjo2 Posts: 31 Member
    A man with the right words! Well said my friend!
  • Cynner2007
    Cynner2007 Posts: 46 Member
    Jenny, forget about the dress, focus on the weight loss, YAY YOU! You are doing something right to have lost that much weight! success often comes in baby steps, girl, keep marching forward...xx
  • PawPrints89
    PawPrints89 Posts: 16 Member
    Don't feel disheartened. I didn't notice much difference in my body shape at first either.

    You could well have lost visceral fat, which is far more important.

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    LOVE THIS!! And I agree, that dress won't matter months from now!
  • Tina_12thMan
    Tina_12thMan Posts: 6
    I am new to this, what is a stone lost? How much is that?
  • nicpare
    nicpare Posts: 15
    That's alright. You deserve a NEW dress, anyways! Focus on the positive--find something about your changing self that you appreciate. It could be something inconsequential to everyone else, but meaningful to you. Now focus on THAT success. Dresses come and go...styles change.....bodies change..... but you are always going to be YOU, no matter what dress you're wearing!
  • cbeevs
    cbeevs Posts: 41
    WoW!!!! kinda scary pictures.. the one on the right is the right way to be for sure. Is that an MRI? Look at the internal organs. I have heard all about this before , but seeing is even better.. Grrrreat job loving your self to health.
  • monis01
    monis01 Posts: 46 Member
    Keep up the good work! Don't be hard on yourself. You've been making great progess..... :wink:
  • loubidy
    loubidy Posts: 440 Member
    I've lost sixteen pounds all together but still not even a centimeter from my thighs.

    I bet you've lost weight from somewhere that the dress wasn't tight.
  • jenny181111
    jenny181111 Posts: 163 Member
    Thank you all. Even my fella said it must have been tighter at new year. One day it's going to be huge on me, and I'm going to be shocked at the size of the dress!
    And be very happy and much healthier with a smaller dress size :D

    Yippeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

    Thank you for everyones kind words <3 Love to you all, what a great community ~:D xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • Cynner2007
    Cynner2007 Posts: 46 Member
    I am new to this, what is a stone lost? How much is that?
    One British stone equals 14 lbs. My girl Jenny has done some excellent weight loss!
  • cbeevs
    cbeevs Posts: 41
    I wrote this before and it disappeared, so this may be a repeat:


    how about, when you are really discouraged, you try a "Root Cause Analysis"?


    This means, you consider everything that may be contributing to the problem/disappointment.


    NUMBER 1. One Problem is that the dress is tighter when, you should be decidedly smaller.


    Possible reasons have been mentioned by several posts, including:


    a. Maybe it was tighter at New Years than you remember.


    b. You may have lost muscle tone and are not as compact in some areas as then.


    c. The dress may have shrunk, is it a natural fiber like cotton, or linen? How is it washed and dried?


    d. maybe you tried it on after a large meal.


    NUMBER 2. The second step is The Root cause of your disappointment.


    a. Are you disappointed because you cannot wear the dress right now?


    b. Do you believe that the dress not fitting more loosely means that you are not getting healthier?





    NUMBER 3. The third step is, what will you do about Your findings from steps NUMBER 1 and 2?


    If you found the worst case scenario, that you are not as tightly compact as three months ago, despite weighing less, Will you try another approach or give up?


    What are your options?


    a. find a person who has had this problem and ask what they eat, and what type of exercise they do to get more fit and smaller.


    b. Google exercises for the areas that you find are not as fit as before.


    c. Go to a gym and ask a fitness trainer about these areas and what they recommend for exercise and eating.



    d. Watch or listen to motivational tapes, I love Zig Ziglar, he is all over u-tube. You may have to listen for a long time, but her is entertaining and encouraging.


    e. Watch some viedoes aobut healthy eating, Joe Cross has some great ideas, and here is one form a MYFItness friend:


    Fast forward to early April,... and I “happened” to catch a presentation on PBS entitled “Eat, Fast and Live Longer” https://player.vimeo.com/video/54089463 by Dr. Michael Mosley.
    It made me stop, think and watch it again…Fasting for two nonconsecutive days each week, while eating what I normally ate on the other five?
    “You can do anything for 24 hours,” I reasoned.



    f. give up





    then decide which option you really want to do.


    I realize that this is a long, drawn out answer, but sometimes the long way is the short way and if you are very disappointed, maybe it is worth really figuring out what may be happening and how to have more of the shape you want with a little change to some of what you are already doing to succeed. :)



    My thinking is that you are already accomplishing your goals, hang in there lady, you can do this!

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