Girls, can you always tell you're being checked out?

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  • Good to know most of us have mastered that art
    Most of you are too good at that art! I walked straight past a (spectacular, intelligent, charming) guy today who apparently followed me from one end of the street to the other, looking for an opportunity to talk to me. Granted, I was pretty focused on my ice cream cone, but… had no idea he was checking me out.

    Lucky he was persistent. :wink:

    How do you follow someone for that long and not feel like a kidnapper?
  • s4naz
    s4naz Posts: 86 Member
    The problem is that if any are interested they don't approach! Do they want me to do the work?? :huh:

    I ask myself this all the time!
  • I'm a bartender and have been for 18 years. I pretty much just watch men in their natural habit all night. It's not a club, just a working person's/hometown bar, so it's not like it's a meat market.

    My take on it is that sometimes guys have to try not to check women out. If a woman walks in, I immediately look at the guys and see which ones check her out, and most of the time, it's most of them. I think it's a bit involuntary. I even joke with the guys about it and give them a bit of a hard time when it happens and we all laugh.

    That being said, it's not a particular badge of honor to have guys checking you out because guys check out chicks a lot. It's kind of like, "oooh shiny object!" or me looking around in a shoe department!:love:

    Speaking for myself, I know I do not check out women I don't find attractive.
  • 15Nov2013
    15Nov2013 Posts: 46 Member
    I am surprised many women here don't notice ... i can notice a guy checking me out miles away ....


    I think it depends on your self image.
    Nobody ever checks me out, but if you're pretty (and are aware of it) you probably expect people to and notice it more.

    You are probably right ... self confidence surely attracts attention ... if you feel attractive i bet people will find you attractive ...
  • The problem is that if any are interested they don't approach! Do they want me to do the work?? :huh:

    I ask myself this all the time!

    It would be nice, sometimes :/
  • kelly_e_montana
    kelly_e_montana Posts: 1,999 Member
    I'm a bartender and have been for 18 years. I pretty much just watch men in their natural habit all night. It's not a club, just a working person's/hometown bar, so it's not like it's a meat market.

    My take on it is that sometimes guys have to try not to check women out. If a woman walks in, I immediately look at the guys and see which ones check her out, and most of the time, it's most of them. I think it's a bit involuntary. I even joke with the guys about it and give them a bit of a hard time when it happens and we all laugh.

    That being said, it's not a particular badge of honor to have guys checking you out because guys check out chicks a lot. It's kind of like, "oooh shiny object!" or me looking around in a shoe department!:love:

    Speaking for myself, I know I do not check out women I don't find attractive.
    Well, I think it depends on what "checking out" means. I always took it as evaluating to determine your level of attraction. So we might be saying different things. I don't care what people think they do. I see what they really do whether they see it or not.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Yup.
  • Satiable
    Satiable Posts: 121
    Good to know most of us have mastered that art
    Most of you are too good at that art! I walked straight past a (spectacular, intelligent, charming) guy today who apparently followed me from one end of the street to the other, looking for an opportunity to talk to me. Granted, I was pretty focused on my ice cream cone, but… had no idea he was checking me out.

    Lucky he was persistent. :wink:

    How do you follow someone for that long and not feel like a kidnapper?
    It was a short, very crowded street, but… good point. Want me to ask him, next time we meet?
  • coolcoolcool2
    coolcoolcool2 Posts: 21 Member
    My friends sometimes tell me later that someone was checking me out but I usually don't notice myself. I have gotten the "double take" glance a few times in my life and those are always flattering. I'm very shy so I always assume no one cares about how I look lol.
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  • Good to know most of us have mastered that art
    Most of you are too good at that art! I walked straight past a (spectacular, intelligent, charming) guy today who apparently followed me from one end of the street to the other, looking for an opportunity to talk to me. Granted, I was pretty focused on my ice cream cone, but… had no idea he was checking me out.

    Lucky he was persistent. :wink:

    How do you follow someone for that long and not feel like a kidnapper?
    It was a short, very crowded street, but… good point. Want me to ask him, next time we meet?

    If you remember, yes :p
  • Laura732
    Laura732 Posts: 244 Member
    I never notice. For most of my life I've never been 'check-out' worthy unless it was by guys who liked 'round' shapes. I'm just acquiring a 'fashion sense' too. A few weeks ago when the team at work went out to lunch, one of the guys I work with told me that another guy was checking me out when I was getting some Tea. Then my co-worker tells me that my jeans, flats, and short-sleeve Henley was a bit too edgy for work. Hmm, really? Funny, that's what LL Bean and Land's end dress the 40-ish aged models in. Guess that was a round about way to know he was checking me out too. I've also had a complete stranger tell me I filled out my jeans nicely in the produce section. Now that kind of approach you just can't miss ;)
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  • tmaryam
    tmaryam Posts: 289 Member
    I don't really make eye contact with strangers, so who knows? I asked my fiance just now, he says both men and women approach him to tell him he's a lucky guy or that I'm pretty, but they don't approach me directly. I cover from head to toe (literally - I only show my face and hands, or sometimes just my eyes), so all compliments go through him. :smile:
  • autumnlily31185
    autumnlily31185 Posts: 279 Member
    I never notice, especially at the gym. My husband always notices and then when we leave he tells me and I'm like....um, you sure it was me?
  • elainek79
    elainek79 Posts: 499 Member
    i have never noticed and if i did i would presume they were looking at me because ive prob got peanut butter on my face or like today i was wearing my yoga pants inside out:blushing:
  • Maryaly40
    Maryaly40 Posts: 551 Member
    Years of a poor self image will kill being able to notice or appreciate being checked out.

    completely agree
  • Aparz1
    Aparz1 Posts: 949
    It's 50/50 I think.... Sometimes I notice other times friends point it out and I'm oblivious...
  • EternalDecadence
    EternalDecadence Posts: 445 Member
    Sometimes very obvious and vulgar, others very subtly. Subtle guys get the smile.
  • Crimson_Fire
    Crimson_Fire Posts: 2,504 Member
    I can remember 4 actual times when I've noticed a guy checking me out. Other than than...it's either not happening or I'm not noticing.
  • sanderdejonge
    sanderdejonge Posts: 415 Member
    I can always tell when a girl is being checked out. Heh..
  • moya_rargh
    moya_rargh Posts: 1,473 Member
    Years of a poor self image will kill being able to notice or appreciate being checked out.

    This :frown:
  • andreacason
    andreacason Posts: 8 Member
    I have more than enough self esteem that I could care less about who is or isn't checking me out. LOL. Creepers...
  • EllieB_5
    EllieB_5 Posts: 247 Member
    Now that I've gained all this weight, I still see some men looking at me but I no longer think they're checking me out (checking out a fat girl? c'mon :p ) Sometimes the dudes will smile if I meet their eyes and at that point I like to think maybe they're checking me out. My bf says I'm still smokin' hawt and not near as fat as I think I am, but he's also slightly biased lol.

    [Story Time]

    A decade or more ago, when construction guys could now be criminally charged and fired for whistling or cat calling at women, I was wearing a super-sexy summer dress with a low cut top and didn't think when I walked under scaffolding holding two men. The one dude whistled, caught himself, and turned it into a Disney song as I walked under. Some reason I thought that was adorable and way better than the traditional wolf whistle he was gonna give. :flowerforyou:
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I am surprised many women here don't notice ... i can notice a guy checking me out miles away ....


    I think it depends on your self image.
    Nobody ever checks me out, but if you're pretty (and are aware of it) you probably expect people to and notice it more.

    ^this. I was just thinking that so many of the ladies in this thread, purely based upon what I can see in profile pictures, are absolutely gorgeous. Guys (and probably some girls) are definitely checking out all of you! :smile:
  • gcastellano83
    gcastellano83 Posts: 5 Member
    Sometimes but only when he mutters a comment (damnn) or does a lil grunt (mmm). I'm not much for eye-contact because of issues with my self-esteem so I don't really notice unless its obvious. Like years ago when I first started college I was waiting for the bus and noticed this guy who kept giving me glances but never saying a word. Anyways I got on the bus and he didn't and in all it took about 25-30 minutes to get home. He was behind the bus the whole time! He must have parked his car and acted as if he was waiting for a bus because and as soon as I got off he started honking! I ignored it and kept walking. When I reached my street he parked once again and started walking up to me. OMG I felt like running and of course when stuff like this happens no one is EVER around! He was talking and finally realized I wasn't interested and left. Scariest moment of my life!!
  • cad39too
    cad39too Posts: 874 Member
    No; my friends always laugh and say I have tunnel vision. Unless something catches my eye I am clueless.
  • EricJonrosh
    EricJonrosh Posts: 823 Member
    Sometimes but only when he mutters a comment (damnn) or does a lil grunt (mmm). I'm not much for eye-contact because of issues with my self-esteem so I don't really notice unless its obvious. Like years ago when I first started college I was waiting for the bus and noticed this guy who kept giving me glances but never saying a word. Anyways I got on the bus and he didn't and in all it took about 25-30 minutes to get home. He was behind the bus the whole time! He must have parked his car and acted as if he was waiting for a bus because and as soon as I got off he started honking! I ignored it and kept walking. When I reached my street he parked once again and started walking up to me. OMG I felt like running and of course when stuff like this happens no one is EVER around! He was talking and finally realized I wasn't interested and left. Scariest moment of my life!!

    To have some level of self esteem issue is to be human. I'd rather that than think I was king ****all of the world. At least you can relate to people, and incidentally, you're plenty gawkable. =o]
  • JenniCali1000
    JenniCali1000 Posts: 646 Member
    Yeah, I can tell most of the time. Some guys are really sneaky about it, but most aren't!
  • pusheen12
    pusheen12 Posts: 192 Member
    lol