Sharing as a Man, Flipping The Script

FrnkLft
FrnkLft Posts: 1,821 Member
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This one's for guys. Am I alone here, or does it drive you crazy too when you're trying to share something and someone tries to fix the problem for you? Didn't ask for the advice, just looking to get something off your chest.

I feel like a ***** (isn't it women who are supposed to be saying this?) but I'm not going to lie it frustrates me like hell. Just trying to get something off my chest and the person starts chiming in like I couldn't just handle it myself.

I swear, makes me wonder what the use is in sharing at all. Doesn't do **** but open you up.

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  • Coolhand1969
    Coolhand1969 Posts: 821 Member
    You sound like a woman... Man up, dude!
  • myuhmaya
    myuhmaya Posts: 71 Member
    As a woman, I totally don't understand what you're saying.
  • BigBellyGoAway
    BigBellyGoAway Posts: 781 Member
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  • BigBellyGoAway
    BigBellyGoAway Posts: 781 Member
    As a woman, I totally don't understand what you're saying.

    As a man, I approve of this statement.
  • sseqwnp
    sseqwnp Posts: 327 Member
    This one's for guys. Am I alone here, or does it drive you crazy too when you're trying to share something and someone tries to fix the problem for you? Didn't ask for the advice, just looking to get something off your chest.

    I feel like a ***** (isn't it women who are supposed to be saying this?) but I'm not going to lie it frustrates me like hell. Just trying to get something off my chest and the person starts chiming in like I couldn't just handle it myself.

    I swear, makes me wonder what the use is in sharing at all. Doesn't do **** but open you up.

    Well you see, what you need to do in a situation like this is to try to keep the listener on topic. I'm surprised you had to come to a forum to get this addressed; you should have been able to handle this yourself.
  • SugarBaby71
    SugarBaby71 Posts: 3,630 Member
    This one's for guys. Am I alone here, or does it drive you crazy too when you're trying to share something and someone tries to fix the problem for you? Didn't ask for the advice, just looking to get something off your chest.

    I feel like a ***** (isn't it women who are supposed to be saying this?) but I'm not going to lie it frustrates me like hell. Just trying to get something off my chest and the person starts chiming in like I couldn't just handle it myself.

    I swear, makes me wonder what the use is in sharing at all. Doesn't do **** but open you up.

    Looks like someone needs a Snickers. :laugh: Oops, sorry fella, not trying to fix things...:bigsmile:
  • FrnkLft
    FrnkLft Posts: 1,821 Member
    Well alright then. That was fruitful lol
  • treesloth
    treesloth Posts: 162 Member
    Yeah, a bit. And some of it comes from this cycle:

    She: "You never tell me how you feel. Why don't you communicate with me?"
    Me: "ok..."
    Me, later: "So, here's how I feel about X. It's ok, I'll be fine, but that's how I feel."
    She: "Well, here's why you're wrong to feel like that, and what you should do."
    Me: chews off own leg to escape trap
  • BigBellyGoAway
    BigBellyGoAway Posts: 781 Member
    This one's for guys. Am I alone here, or does it drive you crazy too when you're trying to share something and someone tries to fix the problem for you? Didn't ask for the advice, just looking to get something off your chest.

    I feel like a ***** (isn't it women who are supposed to be saying this?) but I'm not going to lie it frustrates me like hell. Just trying to get something off my chest and the person starts chiming in like I couldn't just handle it myself.

    I swear, makes me wonder what the use is in sharing at all. Doesn't do **** but open you up.

    Looks like someone needs a Snickers. :laugh: Oops, sorry fella, not trying to fix things...:bigsmile:

    If I laughed at this, does it mean that I'm not being supportive?
  • FrnkLft
    FrnkLft Posts: 1,821 Member
    Yeah, a bit. And some of it comes from this cycle:

    She: "You never tell me how you feel. Why don't you communicate with me?"
    Me: "ok..."
    Me, later: "So, here's how I feel about X. It's ok, I'll be fine, but that's how I feel."
    She: "Well, here's why you're wrong to feel like that, and what you should do."
    Me: chews off own leg to escape trap

    Rofl
  • JackieRL55
    JackieRL55 Posts: 144 Member
    From now when you're not in the mood for input just be like, 'Not looking for advice, just venting' maybe that will help...

    Oh wait, was this a trick question?? I probably failed. Yes I most certainly did, you said men only. But why men only? This is a universal issue...or are you looking for validation from other penis weilders that you are not indeed a **** ?

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  • pseudomuffin
    pseudomuffin Posts: 1,058 Member
    From now when you're not in the mood for input just be like, 'Not looking for advice, just venting' maybe that will help...

    ^^^ This

    I tend to analyze/offer advice and had a friend who started telling me when she just wanted to vent and wanted empathy rather than advice. It was pretty effective (though I didn't realize I was being "unsupportive" before :grumble: )

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