In denial, need brutal honesty

Bookworm8290 · April 2014

I am in denial about my health and have tried lots of things to really knock it in to me how bad things are but it's just not registering. All the people in my life don't know what is going on with me and I don't want to turn to them.
I need to hit ROCK BOTTOM. I would like some brutal honesty please to wake me up and see what I have done to myself.

I am 32 years old, 5'8 and weigh 100kg (220lbs). I have been told that I have Type 2 diabetes by my doctor but I don't care. I have had gestational diabetes with my 2 pregnancies so I know what diabetes is all about and I refuse to accept that I have Type 2 now. I had my gall bladder removed at 26 years old because I had obviously eaten so much crap in those years (it does also run in my family though). A couple of years ago I saw a personal trainer twice a week and increased my fitness levels but couldn't get the food under control and never ended up losing weight during that time. I have now been seeing another better trainer for the last 7 months, starting at 2 times per week and for the last 3 months, 4 times a week. Again, improved fitness and muscles. Over that time I lost 5 kg but have put most of it back on, again because I cant get the eating right.

I want to lose weight for a variety of reasons including overall health, self esteem, easier to play with my kids etc. I also cant stop shoving food in my mouth and 4 intense workouts a week isn't enough to make the weight disappear whilst doing this.
I am destroying myself and I want to change but I am in denial. Could someone please say to me what I need to hear instead of what I want to hear. I don't respond to motivational quotes but I do respond to brutal honesty, truth, the no bull**** approach, tell me like it is etc. Please don't spare my feelings. I need to hear this. Please. I don't have anyone else I can turn to.

JenniCali1000 · April 2014

The only thing I'm going to tell you is that YOU will change when YOU are ready. There is nothing anyone can say to you that will suddenly make you want to change. You say you are at rock bottom, but I don't believe it. If you were, you'd already be making the changes you need to make.

That said, I wish you the best! Good luck to you in your journey!

harrypotter22 · April 2014

You are still young and you have plenty of time to lose weight to be honest. It's true losing weight is not a quick fix, well it can be if you crash diet but prepare to yo yo diet for the rest of your life. lol jk but you will feel sooo much happier with yourself and your body if you just start living healthily. as far as shoving food in your mouth- don't have low caloric goals. a normal person eats 2,000 calories a day to maintain their weight. (no specifics/tdee/ technical bs lol jk. but a normal person ok)
also you are exercising which is great! even if you were to just keep on logging your intake on MFP for a month and your goals were manageable- like 2,000 calories or less a day and lets say one or two days a week you ate 2,500. well you wouldn't be in trouble or anything because you are doing intense workouts.
you would look more toned and you could probably lower your intake gradually

also take it easy and don't beat yourself up. give yourself time to lose the weight and you'll get there.

Rocbola · April 2014

I'm a no BS type of guy. Feel free to friend me.

If you want to hear what you need to hear, and not what you want to hear, check out a book called "The Pleasure Trap" by Dr. Alan Goldhamer and Dr. Doug Lisle. That was my favorite book so far in my quest for better health.

craftywitch_63 · April 2014

The only thing I'm going to tell you is that YOU will change when YOU are ready. There is nothing anyone can say to you that will suddenly make you want to change. You say you are at rock bottom, but I don't believe it. If you were, you'd already be making the changes you need to make.

That said, I wish you the best! Good luck to you in your journey!

^^^This

jadethief · April 2014

'Find a good therapist and resolve those psychological issues you have. Learn to love yourself.

missiontofitness · April 2014

Echoing advice said above.

Also, Type 2 diabetes can be dangerous if left untreated or not treated properly. You need to accept that you have it and start taking care of yourself.
If you're refusing to acknowledge your health problems and the dangers they pose, especially with two children, you should now. If you can't change for yourself, think of your children, and have them be your motivation. They need their mom for a good long time!

Loralrose · April 2014

You're only 32 years old and already you have type 2 diabetes and no gallbladder? What the heck is it gonna take before you wake up and realize what you're doing to yourself? The only treatment for diabetes is for YOU to clean up your act and start taking care of your body. Both my mom and dad have it. My mom started taking care of herself and is doing well now, hardly needs medication and she's in the best shape of her life. My dad didn't, and I'd give it a few more years before he's hospitalized or needs something amputated. They can give you pills, they can give you insulin, but that stuff won't work forever unless you stop doing whatever it is that made you sick in the first place. Not to mention the thousand other problems you're speeding towards that just haven't shown up quite yet.

"It runs in the family" is not an excuse. It's the reason you need to do EVEN BETTER than everyone else, unless your goal in life is to end up sick and miserable.

eldazzio · April 2014

As somebody already said, YOU need to be ready. I tried to motivate myself when I got married, didn't work. Tried again when my son was born, didn't work and kept gaining. One morning out of nowhere I just woke up motivated and have lost over 50lbs so far. Not really helpful to you I realise, but unless you are 100% mentally ready it will be a struggle.

Feel free to add me if you like, best of luck! :drinker:

jennifries227 · April 2014

My uncle refused to take care of his diabetes and it literally killed him. He lost all sensation in his legs. He had multiple strokes. And he finally died of liver failure at age 59. Do you really want to live only 30 more years?

My aunt (same side of the family, I've got great genes) refused to go to the doctor for years despite having abscesses all over her legs. She tried treating them with antibiotic ointment, but eventually had to be rushed to the hospital when her sister came home from work and found her passed out on the sofa, unresponsive. She was in renal failure (luckily reversed with medication) and has MRSA in her legs. She didn't even know she was diabetic.

A few days ago another uncle was found by his wife passed out on the bathroom floor. His blood sugar was well over 600 and he was in a diabetic coma. Once he came to in the hospital they discovered he'd also had a stroke. He's also had multiple seizures since.

I have type 2 diabetes, but as soon as I was told, I acted. I changed my diet, lost some weight, and took my medication exactly as prescribed. Now my average fasting blood sugar is about 85, and my HA1C has been 5.6 consistantly for the last two years.
I've unfortunately gained back most of that weight, but my diabetes is still under amazing control.
I started my own journey to better health because I was diagnosed with asthma last spring. In the fall I was sick for nearly three straight months. MONTHS. Much of it was due to the asthma, of course, but it was complicated by the fact that I was up to 240 pounds and my body was having trouble functioning with the fat, diabetes, AND the asthma.

That's what scared me straight. Maybe it will help you, but more likely you're going to have to find your own. You know you have a problem, now it's time for you to find a reason to solve that problem.

Edit for a typo.

lacurandera1 · April 2014

I am in denial about my health and have tried lots of things to really knock it in to me how bad things are but it's just not registering. All the people in my life don't know what is going on with me and I don't want to turn to them.
I need to hit ROCK BOTTOM. I would like some brutal honesty please to wake me up and see what I have done to myself.

I am 32 years old, 5'8 and weigh 100kg (220lbs). I have been told that I have Type 2 diabetes by my doctor but I don't care. I have had gestational diabetes with my 2 pregnancies so I know what diabetes is all about and I refuse to accept that I have Type 2 now. I had my gall bladder removed at 26 years old because I had obviously eaten so much crap in those years (it does also run in my family though). A couple of years ago I saw a personal trainer twice a week and increased my fitness levels but couldn't get the food under control and never ended up losing weight during that time. I have now been seeing another better trainer for the last 7 months, starting at 2 times per week and for the last 3 months, 4 times a week. Again, improved fitness and muscles. Over that time I lost 5 kg but have put most of it back on, again because I cant get the eating right.

I want to lose weight for a variety of reasons including overall health, self esteem, easier to play with my kids etc. I also cant stop shoving food in my mouth and 4 intense workouts a week isn't enough to make the weight disappear whilst doing this.
I am destroying myself and I want to change but I am in denial. Could someone please say to me what I need to hear instead of what I want to hear. I don't respond to motivational quotes but I do respond to brutal honesty, truth, the no bull**** approach, tell me like it is etc. Please don't spare my feelings. I need to hear this. Please. I don't have anyone else I can turn to.

What makes you think strangers can say magic words that will make you care enough to do something about your situation?

You'll do it or you won't. No one here is going to be cooking your dinner or telling you to stop at one serving of cake/ice cream/potato chips/etc. No one here is going to be getting you up in the morning to walk or run before you go to work.

You won't be very successful until you're accountable for everything (including your own motivation).

angelique_redhead · April 2014

I knew a woman that was the mother of a friend with type 2 diabetes. She was in denial too. She died blind and missing both legs due to amputation. My sister was in denial about her diabetes and blood sugars. She had to have laser surgery due to diabetic retinopathy. Please get the help you need. It's a nasty way to die. *HUGS*

RunMyOregonBunsOff · April 2014

It doesn't sound like denial so much as not really caring about yourself and likely a compulsive eating disorder. See a psychologist to help with that. Do it for your kids because if you don't, they won't have you around (or at least not in a functional capacity) to even see them through high school.

143tobe · April 2014

Just over a year ago I weighed 218lbs, and at 5'4", it was unbearable. 5 years before that my average was about 165lbs. Not a great weight but I was very active and healthier than I was at 218, that's for sure. Within the past 5 years I went through two pregnancies, the last one with gestational diabetes. I ate very healthy for the remainder of my second pregnancy, but once the kid was out, I was back to my old eating. Sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar (with lots of fat in the form of baked goods of course). It seemed like I just couldn't stop eating sugar. I really felt out of control. And since I had a glucose monitor, and my blood always checked out fine, I did not have that extra incentive to just stop.

When I got up to 205lbs with my first pregnancy, it was the heaviest I had ever been in my whole life, and my body did NOT like it. I just felt so out of breath and my heart was always feeling weird with strange palpitations. I was scared. It scared me. Within weeks of me giving birth I was doing the elliptical machine 30 minutes a day 5 days a week, but after a month of this I had felt no better, my weight had not budged, and the exercises left me feeling weak and tired with no energy left for the rest of my day. I wish that I had changed my plan to do maybe 15 minutes a day, or for 3 times a week, but instead, with much frustration, I quit.

During this time I was so afraid of having a heart attack. Although my heart did finally seem to catch up to my unhealthy body, it seemed stronger and the odd palpitations stopped, I still knew that I was putting myself at risk and it was only a matter of time before something broke. I WANTED to make a chance once and for all, but no matter how many good starts I had, I was back to old habits within weeks. It finally took someone else's health scare, to scare ME straight.

Last year I was 36 and my brother in law had just turned 40. He is such a great guy. One of those people who just makes everyone feel welcome and at ease. I could not ever imagine him being upset or cranky, or even stressed. Well I guess he was. When I returned from a trip I was told that he had had a heart attack. It stunned me, although at the moment it also was not a complete shock. He was probably about 80lbs overweight, but the fact that it was HIM was in itself shocking. He is doing really good now and has made a lot of changes, His heart attack was just the wake-up call that I needed. He didn't have any kids, but I do. The reality that in just 4 years (or even before!) that that could be me, that my young boys could possibly one day soon be trying to deal with losing their MOTHER...well, that did it for me. Within months of my brother-in-law's heart attack I was finally making changes that would slowly but eventually stick. One year later I am 30lbs lighter, with still a long way to go, but the fact is I am a lot better off than I was a year ago.

I know that my story will probably not be personal enough to affect you or to inspire you to make changes, but I hope it does something. I would hate for a tragedy to happen to you or someone you love before you are moved into action. Please feel free to add me if you would like some support. I am no 'guru', but I've been where you've been and I know how hard it is to finally make a change, especially when you've had so many starts or tries that just didn't go anywhere. I know you can do this. And you do too.

LoupGarouTFTs · April 2014

I am in denial about my health and have tried lots of things to really knock it in to me how bad things are but it's just not registering. All the people in my life don't know what is going on with me and I don't want to turn to them.
I need to hit ROCK BOTTOM. I would like some brutal honesty please to wake me up and see what I have done to myself.

I am 32 years old, 5'8 and weigh 100kg (220lbs). I have been told that I have Type 2 diabetes by my doctor but I don't care. I have had gestational diabetes with my 2 pregnancies so I know what diabetes is all about and I refuse to accept that I have Type 2 now. I had my gall bladder removed at 26 years old because I had obviously eaten so much crap in those years (it does also run in my family though). A couple of years ago I saw a personal trainer twice a week and increased my fitness levels but couldn't get the food under control and never ended up losing weight during that time. I have now been seeing another better trainer for the last 7 months, starting at 2 times per week and for the last 3 months, 4 times a week. Again, improved fitness and muscles. Over that time I lost 5 kg but have put most of it back on, again because I cant get the eating right.

I want to lose weight for a variety of reasons including overall health, self esteem, easier to play with my kids etc. I also cant stop shoving food in my mouth and 4 intense workouts a week isn't enough to make the weight disappear whilst doing this.
I am destroying myself and I want to change but I am in denial. Could someone please say to me what I need to hear instead of what I want to hear. I don't respond to motivational quotes but I do respond to brutal honesty, truth, the no bull**** approach, tell me like it is etc. Please don't spare my feelings. I need to hear this. Please. I don't have anyone else I can turn to.

If you don't care, get a jump on things and make your funeral plans now. Seriously. Nevermind the weight issues or playing with children. You are my roommate made over again.

Diabetes ran in her family, too. Her mother, father, brother, and sister all had uncontrolled diabetes because they were in denial or unable to care for themselves. They all died young. Her sister had a limb removed when she was 46 years old. At her final admission she had a blood sugar of over 600. I don't have to tell you what happened.

My roommate had COPD. She smoked. She had diabetes. She ate all manner of junk foods and had a milkshake every night. She never tested her blood glucose. She rarely used her insulin. She never exercised. She had MRSA. She had a stroke and failed to lose weight. She had her gall bladder removed. December 22, 2013 she died of aspiration pneumonia. She was 49 years old.

She had "finished" a dog and wanted to take her to Westminster next year. It will never happen. She's dead.

She had wanted to move closer to the coast and work with a girl who had once been a junior handler for her. It will never happen. She's dead.

She had wanted to get a mobile grooming van and be self-sufficient. It will never happen. She's dead.

She wanted to use the money she was getting from SSI to improve her life and visit friends up North. It will never happen. She's dead.

She wanted to see Sprite have puppies and start them in the show ring next year. There is a particularly handsome stud in WV she wanted to use and she was very excited about it. It will never happen. She's dead.

Nothing will ever happen for her again.

She's dead.

Don't take care of yourself. That's your option. But see that litany above? That's not even a third of the things she will never see, she will never do. I was around to clean up the mess she made of her dogs' lives--thank goodness she never had children. The dogs had no idea why she was not coming home. But your relatives will know. That list up there . . . they will be able to make a list like that for you.

Just a few days ago I learned an acquaintance of mine had died. Her situation was fairly similar to my roommate's and to yours. I cried a bit and asked God, "what is with these people?" It's up to you to figure that out for yourself.

Good luck, God bless . . . but please examine your lack of caring for yourself carefully. The poster who suggested you need to attack the psychological component to your illness before being able to deal with the physical part might be right. Don't wait for someone to say about you, "that will never happen. She's dead."

IIIIISerenityNowIIIII · April 2014

You can either start eating properly and change your lifestyle now or you can kiss your loved ones goodbye and welcome an early death.

mspoopoo · April 2014

Ok here is brutal.

Do you want to see your children grow up?

Do you want them to form the same bad habits that you have and suffer?

Do you want them pushing you around in a wheel chair because you had to have your feet amputated.

Why are you doing this to yourself? Do you need to grow up?

Go to a therapist and get some help if you really want to change this.

jennifer_417 · April 2014

Well, here's the thing: If you don't stop what you are doing, you are going to die. You are going to make your children watch you die a slow, painful death. I know because that is what my mother is doing to me right now. She has been diabetic for years, and has not cared, and not taken care of herself, and now it's too late. She's on dialysis and she's going to die. She will die slowly and early, all from completely preventable causes.

Don't do that to your kids, your wife, yourself.

kelli_panzera · April 2014

Look, I've been where you are. I was diagnosed at 30 with diabetes. I was about 220 lbs and when I went to the Dr my sugar was over 600. My father passed when I was 13 after having both legs amputated a little at a time and finally having a heart attack while on dialysis at the hospital. I loved food, and even with all the meds, I felt like I was being punished and continued to do what I wanted. I tried dieting time after time only to feel deprived and depressed, so I'd quit.
Well, this year was a turning point. In February I finally opened my eyes and took a good look at myself - fat, out of shape, sleeping badly, blood sugar uncontrolled. I had enough. I decided it was time to change my thinking as well as my lifestyle. I'm not deprived of food, though it took me over a month to stop feeling like I was starving. I realized that it was mental, and I was an emotional eater...any emotion, lol. I eat every few hours, a meal or a small snack, and I don't let this crap get the best of me anymore. After about 3 months, the changes you make become more of a habit and it's not so hard. But honestly, if you don't care about yourself, nobody can force you to...but understand that risking your life when you have children around to watch you go downhill is seriously selfish.

Jen800 · April 2014

If you don't make time for your health now, you'll have to make time for sickness later.

Cut the excuses, get your nose to the grindstone and DON'T QUIT.

Now, some kinder words:

Look at every day like a graph: are you going up (increasing your health and vitality) or going down? You are in control of which way the scale tips. There is NO in between.

Find the strength to love your body. Not just in the "stand in the mirror, repeat after me" type of way. Love it with nutritional food that energizes and encourages your body to stay strong and healthy. Love it with exercise, to keep your muscles working and able to support you for years to come. Love it with an occasional splurge because it deserves a treat. But most importantly, DON'T neglect it. You get one shot and if you ruin it, that's it. You get no second chances when it comes to your life.

laurigibson7 · April 2014

Why should I care you dont.

BillyJan1992 · April 2014

Feel free to add me I will be honest with you.

rbbrrmqn · April 2014

First of all, a lot of good stuff's been said.

Second, is this: Dangerous Effects of Diabetes

Diabetes is a kind of metabolic disease that is either caused by the insufficient production of insulin in the system or by the inability of the cells to take in the insulin produced by the body (effects of diabetes).

As a metabolic disease, the effects of diabetes can be manifested all throughout the different organ systems, making it a very dangerous and fatal condition if left undiagnosed or untreated. Below are the dangerous effects of diabetes.
Effects of Diabetes in the Cardiovascular System

Those who have diabetes are also very prone to heart diseases and stroke. This is primarily because of the accumulated amounts of glucose that is stored up in the blood.

High glucose increases the viscosity of the blood, which can in turn produce very high blood pressures. Aside from that, diabetes can also lead to high amounts of blood cholesterol.

Cholesterol can accumulate at the linings of the blood vessels, blocking the flow of the fluid entirely and cutting off oxygen and nutrient supply to various tissues and organs in the body.

Over time, these accumulated amounts of cholesterol can also damage the blood vessels. These effects of diabetes can lead to heart attack and even death.
Effects of Diabetes in the Nervous System

Diabetic patients are also very prone to never damage, a condition called diabetic neuropathy.

The extent of nerve damage can vary from one patient to another and this can occur in various parts of the body. However, these effects of diabetes start out commonly as a pain, numbness or tingling sensations in the upper and lower extremities of the body.

This is a very common complication in diabetic patients. Studies have revealed that 60-70% of all diabetic patients have some form of diabetic neuropathy. Although dangerous, this kind of complication can easily be prevented by simply controlling blood glucose concentrations.

Effects of Diabetes

The most common effects of diabetes in female patients are urinary inconsistency or bladder problems such as polyuria or the excessive production of urine. This kind of complication can have a huge impact on the patient’s lifestyle.

Most of the time, diabetic patients with bladder problems limit their physical activity and interactions with the outside world.

Diabetes can also impair very important senses such as the sense of sight. The disease can lead to a condition called diabetic retinopathy.

Diabetic retinopathy is a condition wherein the retina of the eye is damaged. This condition can eventually lead to total blindness if left untreated. Diabetic retinopathy is highly manageable and there are now plenty of options that diabetic patients can choose from for treatment.

So it is very important to seek medical treatment immediately once you are diagnosed with the condition. The effects of diabetes are indeed very serious if the condition is left untreated.

xsmilexforxmex · April 2014

Here's the brutal honesty: YOU ARENT READY. You're going to keep gaining weight and get sick and end up hospitalized. OR you're going to wake up and realize you're looking for excuses and being lazy and only making it worse and you're going to get up and just start doing what you need to. Right now, you aren't ready. You're heading down path one. It's easy. You're complacent. And you're too lazy to take your motivation and health into your own hands. And it's going to hurt you and your family. Get Help. Get a friend, a therapist, a trainer. Or don't. Doesn't affect me.

JesterMFP · April 2014

Honestly, it doesn't sound like you're in denial. You know how bad things are and, I'm assuming (since you've tried to knock some sense into yourself before) you know how bad things can/may/will get. You're choosing not to take the steps to change things, because as others have said, maybe you're just not ready. You're not ready to care enough about this yet.

I think a lot of times people wait for some magical moment of clarity where they suddenly know exactly what they need to do, and are filled with the required amount of Motivation to carry it through. That's not really how it works though. Some people have that "rock bottom" moment; a lot don't. A lot have that moment, but it's not enough to sustain the momentum needed to get the job done. Stop waiting for the lightening to hit. This is about making choices and taking responsibility for your future. Then, taking the steps to make it happen. Changing habits.

The other problem that often holds people back is that they see weight loss as this insurmountable obstacle. Some kind of tortuous rite of passage. Again, that's not how it works. Yes, weight loss is hard, and weight maintenance is hard (even harder for a lot of folk). But it's not impossible and it doesn't have to be torture. You don't have to go on a strict diet and cut out all the foods you love (diabetes management notwithstanding obviously). You don't need a personal trainer or to go from being sedentary to doing 6 days a week of intense exercise. This truly needs to be a lifestyle change, which means that you need to make changes that you can live with - forever. Not just temporarily to get the weight off before going back to "normal".

Keep it simple. Set MFP up to lose 1 lb a week, eat your normal diet and meet your calorie goal. ("Meet" means eat right up to it, including at least half of your exercise calories. Don't aim to come in under your goal.) Track accurately - use a weighing scale to measure portions. Do whatever exercise you enjoy doing and can sustain. If your diet needs to change to be more balanced or nutritious, that can happen gradually, naturally over time as you start paying more attention to nutrition. In the beginning though, meet your calorie goal.

Also, read this: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1080242-a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

I think you're asking people to be brutal so that you get scared enough to be "motivated" to change. That's not what you need. You already have motivation. You know your health is crap at the moment and will likely get worse if you don't change. You have children that you want to live for and see grow up. The motivation is there. Maybe you're not the kind of person who will have a "rock bottom" moment. Not everyone does - look at all the people who slowly kill themselves with their lifestyle and never, ever change. It's about choice and taking responsibility. Do it, or don't do it. It's up to you. Stop looking for someone to light a fire under you, and just slowly, quietly make the small adjustments to your lifestyle that will enable you to lose weight.

All this time and energy you're spending telling yourself you're in denial or that you don't want it enough - put that energy into tracking your food accurately and developing new habits. Stop overthinking it and talking yourself out of it. It takes hard work, but you have the tolls to do it - if you want to.

ashleyisgreat · April 2014

Nothing will change your mind, but my mom and my uncle both passed away in the past three months because of diabetes. It's really serious. Both had amputations of toes, my mom had two major strokes (the second one killed her because her brain swelled to the point that part of her brain was pushed down into her head and she had a death rattle for hours before she finally died), and my uncle's kidneys stopped working and he was in the hospital for months before he finally died. It was horrible to witness. And it doesn't just effect you--it hurts those who love you. I can't tell you how traumatic it was for me to watch my mom die that way. I mourn for her every single day. I am haunted by that f-cking death rattle.

You might have to have a stroke or something before it hits you how serious this is, but I hope not. I hope you can change before you lose control of half your body or before you lose a foot or before your kidneys fail and you need dialysis. Good luck.

KhatLady · April 2014

'Find a good therapist and resolve those psychological issues you have. Learn to love yourself.

This. Losing weight isn't going to solve your problems. All it's going to do is lessen one single symptom of an all-encompassing problem - You don't care.

Or you claim you don't.

I suspect the real truth is you don't think you're worth the effort. You're afraid to fail and show everyone that you are weak. You're afraid of proving that negative voice right. You think that if you don't nail it right off the bat, you won't have the strength to try again. That means even guilt of what you are doing to your loved ones by abusing yourself with food and apathy isn't going to be enough to make anything stick. They'd be better off without all "this" anyway, right? Why put out the effort if it's not really going to change anything and you're only going to fail? The last thing you {and your loved ones} need is more things to be embarrassed about, eh?

Yeah, I know those voices.

You don't need to start here. You need to start by figuring out why you think you are so worthless. Then you need to figure out that you AREN'T worthless. THEN this part becomes possible. Eventually it even becomes "easy" because your self-worth and strength are coming from you; not from the numbers on your scale, your bloodwork or your pants.

You need to want to be a "better" person, not get bullied and shamed into it. Find a therapist to talk to. Take up journaling and focus on the things that once made you feel good instead of all the ways things suck. Start doing some slow, meditative yoga to get active and further focus on listening to the part of you buried deep under all the emotional scars and conditioned reactions. Then hike up your skirts and take on all the things you have to do to make your life something YOU WANT.

toofatnomore · April 2014

Once you lose a foot (or 2) to amputation, exercising is a bit harder...

earlybrd7 · April 2014

I'm not diabetic, nor have a ever been... but reading the responses in this thread are SCARING me, lol. If me, being healthy now, am scared of this... then you, being sick, should be terrified. Please do something now... for your sake, your children's sake. You CAN do it, it's completely achievable.

AllisonB145 · April 2014

You want brutal honesty.....Stop being so selfish and think about your children. If you don't want to get healthy and live a long happy life for yourself than at least do it for your kids. They deserve a Mother!

Get rid of the junk food in your house and start making healthier choices NOW, before its too late.

Best of Luck!

SunofaBeach14 · April 2014

The only person who can change you is you. Stop asking for help from others until you're ready to put in the work, because you're otherwise wasting everyone else's time.

In denial, need brutal honesty

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