In denial, need brutal honesty

So you decided to be a parent? Then step up and lead by example, if you dont love yourself enough to do it for you, do it for the children you willingly bought into the world so they wont adopt your habits and have to face what you do now.

Brutal honesty? Here ya go... I'm the grown up son of someone who is bigger than you, but not as much as you may figure. Hopefully this helps.

Diabetes is evil. Flat out EVIL. It started out for my mom as something she could diet her way out of. Had she done so and not eaten her way back into it, she wouldn't be looking at ever ramped up doses of metformin and perpetually out of control A1C numbers. By neglecting this, she is setting herself up for shots and circulation issues. There are people missing feet and body parts because of diabetes. She also has mobility issues and has been missing out for years on things she wanted to do and couldn't because of her size.

Would you be okay with going to the county fair and not being able to keep up with the six year old you brought with?
Would you be okay with that six year old sitting around for hours and eating huge portions because that's what they see?
Would you be okay with hearing that they nearly got put on blood pressure medicine - in college?
Would you be okay with hearing them rant about the targeted ads on Facebook for bypass surgeons and specialty stores?


That fourth 'okay with' is fictional, courtesy of consistently using a good privacy add-on with my internet browser. A couple weeks of turning it off and it may not be. What helped and is helping to turn things around for me would be growing up in a community that still valued home ec classes being taught in schools, the doctor who had the guts to say he nearly put me on blood pressure pills, and all the hippies who have pushed to get biking to be seen as a viable method of transportation.

your post screams depression. Try Inositol, its vitamin b8. I take it for about a month now, and it works wonders. take the recommended 3tablets per day as on the box.
I started taking it other reasons but i can't believe how good i feel now since i take it. I stopped nail biting and lip biting, and i feel much more positive about everything. i think it surely would help with your denial, i used to be in denial myself. its inexpensive and its 'just' a vitamin so you don't have anything to lose if you try it.

There's a lot of good info on here from people. Read it. I'm certainly no expert, not in medical issues, fitness or nutrition - but I have been a yo-yo dieter for years and for me it was about changing my mind set and not setting myself up for failure.
Don't look at this as a never-ending diet - if you do it becomes discouraging and you are more likely to fail.
Take it one day, or even one hour at a time and just try to make a better choice than you would have done previously.

I started by being 100% honest with myself - I ate what I wanted, and would usually eat, but made sure I weighed everything and logged it on here so that I could see where I was. Then, after a few weeks, I looked back at my diary and tried to work out how I could make some small changes that would improve things - for example, rather than the sandwich with butter, mayo, endless cheese and a large bag of crisps, I changed it to a salad wrap with an apple and a small bag of crisps and saved myself about 300 calories. It was just as yummy and I wasn't depriving myself of anything.
Point is, start somewhere......
Feel free to add me if you want some support

You DO know what happens to untreated or out of control diabetes, right? Especially when you're diagnosed at a young age? I was diagnosed at 31...

If you're not aware of the dangers of out of control diabetes, you'd better start reading up. It's ridiculous that you don't believe your doctor. You HAD gestational diabetes. Did you know you're 7x more likely to develop Type 2 if you've had gestational?
http://ndep.nih.gov/media/fs_post-gdm.pdf

You have kids. I assume you want to be around and HEALTHY when they're grown. Want to be there for your future grandkids? Grow up and face the facts. You caused this disease by your unhealthy eating habits and sedentary lifestyle.

BUT THAT DOESN'T MEAN YOU CAN'T BE HEALTHY NOW.

Start making small changes now. Today. Not tomorrow, not Monday, but today. Make 1 change today. Just 1. You owe it to your kids and the rest of your family and those who love you to do what you can to prevent or slow down the effects diabetes will have on your body.

Talk to your doctor, take a diabetic education class. It's very informative and will help you get started on the right track.

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for the last 6 years. I know my previous lifestyle directly impacted my current infertility issues.

I'm honestly angry with you right now. You have NO excuse for not wanting to do something about your diagnosis. Take responsibility! Get moving! Today! Start today!

Ok I will be brutally honest. Sorry if this offends anyone.

Get a grip with yourself. You have 2 children who depend on you for everything. Not just for you to look after them but to be a role model.
What message is to sending to them if you don't look after yourself?
What are your excuses going to be when you cant play with them because your too big to move?
What are your excuses going to be when you lose your sight and cant watch a school play or graduations?
Who will you blame?

You need to get your priorities straight.

This seems like a deep rooted issue. Once I got done reading this it left me with wanting to ask many questions. The truth lies within yourself. You know that your not treating yourself right. It seems like you have psychological problems. You need to change the way that you think. Why don't you care? Why don't you love yourself? Have you always had weight issues? Do you have anyone in your life that truly matters? Your a mother with kids, that should be the reason you shape up!

You sound like my sister... she passed away...
Just know if you can not or will not take care of yourself at least do it for some one else!!
Stop, do not hate yourself! :noway:

I am in denial about my health and have tried lots of things to really knock it in to me how bad things are but it's just not registering. All the people in my life don't know what is going on with me and I don't want to turn to them.
I need to hit ROCK BOTTOM. I would like some brutal honesty please to wake me up and see what I have done to myself.

I am 32 years old, 5'8 and weigh 100kg (220lbs). I have been told that I have Type 2 diabetes by my doctor but I don't care. I have had gestational diabetes with my 2 pregnancies so I know what diabetes is all about and I refuse to accept that I have Type 2 now. I had my gall bladder removed at 26 years old because I had obviously eaten so much crap in those years (it does also run in my family though). A couple of years ago I saw a personal trainer twice a week and increased my fitness levels but couldn't get the food under control and never ended up losing weight during that time. I have now been seeing another better trainer for the last 7 months, starting at 2 times per week and for the last 3 months, 4 times a week. Again, improved fitness and muscles. Over that time I lost 5 kg but have put most of it back on, again because I cant get the eating right.

I want to lose weight for a variety of reasons including overall health, self esteem, easier to play with my kids etc. I also cant stop shoving food in my mouth and 4 intense workouts a week isn't enough to make the weight disappear whilst doing this.
I am destroying myself and I want to change but I am in denial. Could someone please say to me what I need to hear instead of what I want to hear. I don't respond to motivational quotes but I do respond to brutal honesty, truth, the no bull**** approach, tell me like it is etc. Please don't spare my feelings. I need to hear this. Please. I don't have anyone else I can turn to.

Kudos to you for seeking the help of a personal trainer, and the time you have been dedicating to exercising. At least you have that part going for you at the moment.

I don't buy it that "you don't care". That might be a protective mechanism you are using that helps mask that you indeed do care and that is why you are posting. I also don't believe that one has to hit "rock bottom" or suffer some sort of an event that is considered hitting "rock bottom" to make a simple lifestyle change to start losing weight and turn things around. We constantly make changes and choices in our life on a daily basis without having to hit any sort of a "rock bottom".

I'm not sure you are in "denial" as you certainly point out things that you are coherent about with regard to the diabetes, the need to exercise, the need to cut down on weight. However, the application of selecting how much you eat simply needs to be addressed. We could label that part "denial" at least in terms of whether or not you are aware of how many calories you consume on a daily basis compared to how many you actually need. If we are going to be brutally honest - that's where our brutality should be focused.

If you don't already, start to track absolutely everything you eat - and you have to be brutally honest here with yourself and not cheat on that. Load it all into the MFP App every meal, every snack, every day to start to see what kinds of food have what amounts of calories.

A cup of pineapple has 82 calories and can be very satisfying and filling.
A cup of ice cream has 283 calories in it.
A cup of Grape Nuts has 420 calories in it.
A cup of raisins has 494 calories in it.
A cup of sugar has 773 calories in it.
A cup of olive oil has 1910 calories in it.

And so on and so forth. Once you set your current Goals in the Diet Profile at MFP which includes weight, height, gender, age, your current activity level and your goal of how much weight per week you would like to use - you'll have a brutally honest number to deal with for calories. There are other sources to get this number as well, but for starters it will be honest and help guide you.

Just because you work out doesn't mean that your body really needs to chow down at random following the work out. Realize that you have fired up the oven, the burn - and the body will respond by burning the calories for up to 24 hours after a workout. Sure, give it a little recovery snack, and then follow it up with your normal calorie restricted meal. But don't overeat. Allow the oven/furnace to burn and do its thing.

If you approach it from a daily calorie count, sure - you are allowed to "stuff your face" after all that exercise, but only up to the number of calories that your Goal/Diet Profile says you can stuff. If your daily limit is 1400 calories, or 1600 calories, or whatever it happens to be, once you hit that number - YOU STOP for the day! Move on to water, herbal tea, black coffee, etc....and wait until the next day to eat.

Wash, rinse, repeat.

I would suggest you break up your weight loss goals into smaller targets. Say, your first goal is to go from your current 220 down to 200. If you set a goal of losing a pound a week (which is a very realistic goal), then it is going to take you 20 weeks come hell or high water. Once you are there in August/September, adjust your goal to the next target - be it 180, 175, 160 - whatever. One pound at a time. One week at a time. One day at a time. It doesn't happen overnight, but to do it right you need time, patience, and easily executed calorie counting and eating to run enough of a deficit to cut a pound per week.

It's really pretty simple. And that's the brutally honest answer that you might need to hear. It's so simple - any fool ought to be able to execute it. Plug in your data, and count the calories in vs. the calories out. Run a slight deficit, and watch the pounds melt off over the next 60-80 weeks.

We'd all expect to see your success story posted up on the success thread after you shed your 60-80 pounds and kick the Type II Diabetes out of your life.

SIMPLE.

So reading your posts its almost like you are asking for responces that are very negative and mean to get you motivated. Do you think by us being hurtfull is going to help? I don't think that is the answer. You need to take all the people that have responded as friends because first of all we care enough to write. Then open your diary and expose yourself for all to see. Log everything and then ask for help.