In denial, need brutal honesty

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  • Bookworm8290
    Bookworm8290 Posts: 2 Member
    Hi everyone, I'm the OP and I'm back. I'm in Australia and its early morning here so I've been asleep while all of you have been responding to me.
    Firstly, WOW! I am overwhelmed...by the number of responses, by how supportive the MFP community is, by the honesty of some of the responses and the willingness of others to share their stories, by everything and everyone. I am overwhelmed that so many of you care enough to have taken precious time out of your life to help me, a stranger across the other side of the world.
    Simply seeing my original post has been a real eye opener for me. I realise that I am in a really bad place mentally and emotionally. I am still trying to digest everything I have read here. It is a lot to take in.
    I have taken a step forward and as soon as I woke up this morning I confided in my husband. We have been having relationship problems for some time but today I let my guard down and told him everything. He had no idea how unhappy I was, how much I weighed, how much I have to lose etc. We realised that we both need to learn more about diabetes. It turns out that he is also unhappy and would like to lose a good 10kg (22lbs) and that we are going to do this together and he will support me.
    So I would like to say...
    Hi everyone, I am Bookworm8290 and I am a diabetic. This is the start of great improvements for me and I am so glad that I have found the MFP community.
  • workoutguru119
    workoutguru119 Posts: 2
    Looks like its time to do this! It is a fun journey… do not get discouraged and give up because it is taking too much time…. the time will pass weather you are eating healthy and trying to loose weight or not. Think about where you will be in a year from now. It could be a completely different life. It is all up to you. Do what you want with your future… eat for your future self, not your current one.
  • SingingSingleTracker
    SingingSingleTracker Posts: 1,866 Member
    Hi everyone, I'm the OP and I'm back. I'm in Australia and its early morning here so I've been asleep while all of you have been responding to me.
    Firstly, WOW! I am overwhelmed...by the number of responses, by how supportive the MFP community is, by the honesty of some of the responses and the willingness of others to share their stories, by everything and everyone. I am overwhelmed that so many of you care enough to have taken precious time out of your life to help me, a stranger across the other side of the world.
    Simply seeing my original post has been a real eye opener for me. I realise that I am in a really bad place mentally and emotionally. I am still trying to digest everything I have read here. It is a lot to take in.
    I have taken a step forward and as soon as I woke up this morning I confided in my husband. We have been having relationship problems for some time but today I let my guard down and told him everything. He had no idea how unhappy I was, how much I weighed, how much I have to lose etc. We realised that we both need to learn more about diabetes. It turns out that he is also unhappy and would like to lose a good 10kg (22lbs) and that we are going to do this together and he will support me.
    So I would like to say...
    Hi everyone, I am Bookworm8290 and I am a diabetic. This is the start of great improvements for me and I am so glad that I have found the MFP community.

    Welcome Bookwarm!

    We the "choir" certainly are willing to opine and help if we can. Just like others have done for us in the past. I personally wish all the best to you and your husband as you begin this new journey. You can really make it fun as a couple. The results are fun to track and see, and the you will feel so much better physically.
  • missiontofitness
    missiontofitness Posts: 4,059 Member
    Hi everyone, I'm the OP and I'm back. I'm in Australia and its early morning here so I've been asleep while all of you have been responding to me.
    Firstly, WOW! I am overwhelmed...by the number of responses, by how supportive the MFP community is, by the honesty of some of the responses and the willingness of others to share their stories, by everything and everyone. I am overwhelmed that so many of you care enough to have taken precious time out of your life to help me, a stranger across the other side of the world.
    Simply seeing my original post has been a real eye opener for me. I realise that I am in a really bad place mentally and emotionally. I am still trying to digest everything I have read here. It is a lot to take in.
    I have taken a step forward and as soon as I woke up this morning I confided in my husband. We have been having relationship problems for some time but today I let my guard down and told him everything. He had no idea how unhappy I was, how much I weighed, how much I have to lose etc. We realised that we both need to learn more about diabetes. It turns out that he is also unhappy and would like to lose a good 10kg (22lbs) and that we are going to do this together and he will support me.
    So I would like to say...
    Hi everyone, I am Bookworm8290 and I am a diabetic. This is the start of great improvements for me and I am so glad that I have found the MFP community.

    I think it's great that you opened yourself up to some tough love. And I think it's even better you've opened up to your husband about your concerns. Having his support will be so helpful for you during this journey.

    I'm glad you're taking some responsibility, and I hope you're able to stay motivated and reach your goals. You have a husband and children who want you around for a long time!
  • LassoOfTruth
    LassoOfTruth Posts: 735 Member
    Your doctor told you that you have Diabetes and you still don't care. What makes you think we are going to say anything to motivate you?
  • shelbih1ckey1990
    shelbih1ckey1990 Posts: 1 Member
    Think about your kids. What kind of example are you setting? A very bad one. As a mother you should be a role model for your kids- not setting them up for failure. Not only that but your health and life deteriorating isn't only affecting you. Your kids will have to watch you slowly die.
  • grandmothercharlie
    grandmothercharlie Posts: 1,356 Member
    You are not in denial or you wouldn't have admitted you have the problems you have. If you are in denial, everything would be fine! You just don't want to put in the hard work. And it is hard. You obviously know what you need to do, now do it!
  • enasab111
    enasab111 Posts: 7
    I am in denial about my health and have tried lots of things to really knock it in to me how bad things are but it's just not registering. All the people in my life don't know what is going on with me and I don't want to turn to them.
    I need to hit ROCK BOTTOM. I would like some brutal honesty please to wake me up and see what I have done to myself.

    I am 32 years old, 5'8 and weigh 100kg (220lbs). I have been told that I have Type 2 diabetes by my doctor but I don't care. I have had gestational diabetes with my 2 pregnancies so I know what diabetes is all about and I refuse to accept that I have Type 2 now. I had my gall bladder removed at 26 years old because I had obviously eaten so much crap in those years (it does also run in my family though). A couple of years ago I saw a personal trainer twice a week and increased my fitness levels but couldn't get the food under control and never ended up losing weight during that time. I have now been seeing another better trainer for the last 7 months, starting at 2 times per week and for the last 3 months, 4 times a week. Again, improved fitness and muscles. Over that time I lost 5 kg but have put most of it back on, again because I cant get the eating right.

    I want to lose weight for a variety of reasons including overall health, self esteem, easier to play with my kids etc. I also cant stop shoving food in my mouth and 4 intense workouts a week isn't enough to make the weight disappear whilst doing this.
    I am destroying myself and I want to change but I am in denial. Could someone please say to me what I need to hear instead of what I want to hear. I don't respond to motivational quotes but I do respond to brutal honesty, truth, the no bull**** approach, tell me like it is etc. Please don't spare my feelings. I need to hear this. Please. I don't have anyone else I can turn to.

    you know you have your problem, but you need to break down your problem into manageable goals so you can be successful. I think you need to be checked for endocrine issues (PCOS can make a person crave carbs uncontrollably) and get your psychological issues treated. It sounds like you can have an eating disorder OR you are just so down on yourself you will never take care of your problems. I hope you get it together because if you can't love yourself now...even if you can lose 100 pounds tomorrow you won't be happy.
  • Beet_Girl
    Beet_Girl Posts: 102
    Log log log it ALL!! Even if you eat a ton of crap! Just writing it down will likely reduce your intake, even if you're not trying to diet. Knowledge is power!
  • Booksandbeaches
    Booksandbeaches Posts: 1,791 Member
    I think you've received great advice. I'll just say this. Even if you choose to not log food a particular day, come here and read a few threads in the General Forum. Just get in the habit of reading about health, fitness and food. Just take that first baby step.
  • ovi212
    ovi212 Posts: 145 Member
    If you want to get healthy and stop ruining your life and letting this control you you can! Message me if oyu want help with making healthy choices, food, exercise and calories. No one can make the change for you so it's up to you how you want to proceed with your life.
  • sue_stef
    sue_stef Posts: 194 Member
    I will not bullSh** you
    you are killing yourself
    you are doing with food
    because of your refusal to take care of yourself your children will lose their mother years before they have to
    if you have diabetes I am betting you have high blood pressure
    this puts you at risk for a stroke
    the fun thing about a stroke is it will probably not kill you
    what it will do though is decrease your quality of life
    who will be the one to take care of you if you cannot walk well? or use a toilet?

    but you will do whatever you want to do
    so keep eating poorly
    Im sure the food is more important than seeing your kids grow up

    I have 5 kids I was diagnosed type 2 in december
    It was the day before my sons 9th birthday
    I changed my everything
    exercising
    food
    thoughts
    the works
    in that time I have
    gotten my sugars under control
    gotten my BP under control
    all from those simple changes
    oh and I have so far lost over 50lbs

    you can friend me if you like but know this I will not pity you nor will I coddle you
    you want a no BS way then change because you want to

    start small but by all means start
    as a diabetic you have to change BOTH diet and exercise
  • lindamcintosh370
    lindamcintosh370 Posts: 7 Member
    I had a step cousin who developed diabetes and the food meant more to her then her health and her children so she ended up blind and died in her early fifties is that what you want
  • ChristineD1234
    ChristineD1234 Posts: 9
    thank you for this
  • acb2144
    acb2144 Posts: 34
    bump for later

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