Beat the mindset of binges

I totally understand.

Your behavior and attitude reminds me of how I used to be:
Very "black or white" thinking. "All or nothing." I was also perfectionistic. It used to be real bad when I was younger. I used to have anorexia. Then bulimia. Then anorexia. (Not recently; way back when.)

I don't have any specific tips to give you, I'm sorry for that, but I'll say this:

For me, it took a lot of work to be OK with things being in "grey areas." For things to be "good enough." To be "mediocre" in some aspects. Listen-- life can't work perfectly all the time. You can't be perfect all the time. No one can. No one IS. We all have faults in our own way, and that's a part of being human.

When you can accept this fact, you will have so much less anxiety (and believe me, I KNOW anxiety!). When you're less anxious, you put things into a different perspective. You're more relaxed. And the more relaxed you are, the less you freak out about -god forbid- eating a food without knowing how many calories are in it. When you're relaxed, you're less likely to let things like that throw you off track.

I don't know if what I'm trying to convey is being properly expressed.... but I'm trying here lol.

It's really all about acceptance of yourself and not being so dam hard on yourself. The more pressure we put on ourselves, the harder we make ANY task to be.

I totally understand.

Your behavior and attitude reminds me of how I used to be:
Very "black or white" thinking. "All or nothing." I was also perfectionistic. It used to be real bad when I was younger. I used to have anorexia. Then bulimia. Then anorexia. (Not recently; way back when.)

I don't have any specific tips to give you, I'm sorry for that, but I'll say this:

For me, it took a lot of work to be OK with things being in "grey areas." For things to be "good enough." To be "mediocre" in some aspects. Listen-- life can't work perfectly all the time. You can't be perfect all the time. No one can. No one IS. We all have faults in our own way, and that's a part of being human.

When you can accept this fact, you will have so much less anxiety (and believe me, I KNOW anxiety!). When you're less anxious, you put things into a different perspective. You're more relaxed. And the more relaxed you are, the less you freak out about -god forbid- eating a food without knowing how many calories are in it. When you're relaxed, you're less likely to let things like that throw you off track.

I don't know if what I'm trying to convey is being properly expressed.... but I'm trying here lol.

It's really all about acceptance of yourself and not being so dam hard on yourself. The more pressure we put on ourselves, the harder we make ANY task to be.

I dont know if it helped the OP but this speaks to me!

I totally understand.

Your behavior and attitude reminds me of how I used to be:
Very "black or white" thinking. "All or nothing." I was also perfectionistic. It used to be real bad when I was younger. I used to have anorexia. Then bulimia. Then anorexia. (Not recently; way back when.)

I don't have any specific tips to give you, I'm sorry for that, but I'll say this:

For me, it took a lot of work to be OK with things being in "grey areas." For things to be "good enough." To be "mediocre" in some aspects. Listen-- life can't work perfectly all the time. You can't be perfect all the time. No one can. No one IS. We all have faults in our own way, and that's a part of being human.

When you can accept this fact, you will have so much less anxiety (and believe me, I KNOW anxiety!). When you're less anxious, you put things into a different perspective. You're more relaxed. And the more relaxed you are, the less you freak out about -god forbid- eating a food without knowing how many calories are in it. When you're relaxed, you're less likely to let things like that throw you off track.

I don't know if what I'm trying to convey is being properly expressed.... but I'm trying here lol.

It's really all about acceptance of yourself and not being so dam hard on yourself. The more pressure we put on ourselves, the harder we make ANY task to be.

I dont know if it helped the OP but this speaks to me!

LOL! I don't know if it helped the OP either, but I had a feeling she's in the same place.... maybe when she said this:
"Otherwise I will set myself off on anxiety and preoccupation with food and calories creating the all or nothing thinking leading to me binging !"

That's what got me thinking....

Binge eating and then beating yourself up over it does more harm then good. You binge eat, get depressed about it and then the cycle continues. (At least for me) I'm attempting to "trick" my own mind. I think educating yourself about nutrition and healthy foods is key here. The more Im learning about the differences in healthy and unhealthy foods, portioning, macronutrition etc. the more Im genuinely starting to want those unhealthy foods at huge proportions much less. Educating myself is turning me off of disappointing myself. I also notice now that Im becoming aware of successful nutrition regimens I find myself focusing much less on the calories and more on just planning healthy simple meals. Go figure I eat healthy and it ends up being less calories anyways! BONUS! Keep your protein up- it decreases cravings!!! and what I mean about "tricking" myself. .... I focus on the energy and "lightness" I feel from eating well and then focus on the negatives of unhealthy foods, like the bloating, the grease, heartburn, lethargy etc....and in turn I lose the temptation!---most of the time! It does help though.....hope I helped ya!