What is "the thing about" you?

Last weekend, my husband and I were at my parents' house sitting around talking with my mom and sister. My mom is a very fragile person, and she made the comment that I can "cut her heart with a knife" just with the things I say to her. Now, you'd have to understand the "off" relationship I have with my mother, but I don't walk on eggshells around her and her feelings are hurt very easily. That comment by her spurred this conversation...

Sister: That's just how Lyndsey is. She's going to be honest and tell you like it is.
Me: I just look at things from a logical perspective, not an emotional perspective.
Mom: Well maybe you should look at it from my perspective.
Me: I'm pretty sure I don't know how to do that.
Sister: No, but that's one of the things I love about her. If I want to know the truth, she's the person I go to. It makes her who she is.
Mom: Okay, but it comes off as mean and uncaring.
Husband: The way I see it is...if you have a question and there's a possible answer that you don't want to hear, don't ask Lyndsey the question.
Me: I tells it like it is. Sorry, but not sorry.

Apparently, the "thing about me" is that I'm going to be brutally honest with you whether you like what I'm saying or not. And also, I'm not an emotional person, so I'm not going to tip-toe around your feelings. If that makes me a b!tch, so be it, but I don't say things to purposefully hurt people, so it's not my fault that you're hurt by the truth.

So, what's "the thing about" you?

And refrain from saying generic things that apply to everyone - "the thing about me is, you don't talk *kitten* about my momma." Really? Because I love when people do that. *eye roll*

I've known many people who say the same thing. "I'm just brutally honest," but I think you can be honest, and still have tact. You don't have to hurt the person to get your point across. With that being said, yes there are those that really need a good kick in the *kitten* sometimes. lol..

The thing about me, is I lack confidence in myself, but always more than willing to cheer and encourage others. But that's why I'm on MFP to get my confidence back.

Don't deal with negative energy well, am very upbeat, can't deal with death or sadness because I'm too busy being in a good mood. Can't stand it when people say in their whiny voice "i'm sick" or "my back hurts". uggghhh

Me too, I hate when people die and it causes other people to be negative and sad. They're so selfish, going around mourning loved ones. :grumble:

The thing about me is that I'm kind of annoying.

I don't really think that you have to sugarcoat something to say something tactfully. Being blunt is always the easiest, but if you care about someone, you're not going to just blurt whatever comes first in your head.

"Honey, do these jeans make me look fat?"
"Yes, like a F8cking blimp, babe."

That would be exaggerating unless she really did look like a blimp.

Last weekend, my husband and I were at my parents' house sitting around talking with my mom and sister. My mom is a very fragile person, and she made the comment that I can "cut her heart with a knife" just with the things I say to her. Now, you'd have to understand the "off" relationship I have with my mother, but I don't walk on eggshells around her and her feelings are hurt very easily. That comment by her spurred this conversation...

Sister: That's just how Lyndsey is. She's going to be honest and tell you like it is.
Me: I just look at things from a logical perspective, not an emotional perspective.
Mom: Well maybe you should look at it from my perspective.
Me: I'm pretty sure I don't know how to do that.
Sister: No, but that's one of the things I love about her. If I want to know the truth, she's the person I go to. It makes her who she is.
Mom: Okay, but it comes off as mean and uncaring.
Husband: The way I see it is...if you have a question and there's a possible answer that you don't want to hear, don't ask Lyndsey the question.
Me: I tells it like it is. Sorry, but not sorry.

Apparently, the "thing about me" is that I'm going to be brutally honest with you whether you like what I'm saying or not. And also, I'm not an emotional person, so I'm not going to tip-toe around your feelings. If that makes me a b!tch, so be it, but I don't say things to purposefully hurt people, so it's not my fault that you're hurt by the truth.

So, what's "the thing about" you?

And refrain from saying generic things that apply to everyone - "the thing about me is, you don't talk *kitten* about my momma." Really? Because I love when people do that. *eye roll*

I've known many people who say the same thing. "I'm just brutally honest," but I think you can be honest, and still have tact. You don't have to hurt the person to get your point across. With that being said, yes there are those that really need a good kick in the *kitten* sometimes. lol..

The thing about me, is I lack confidence in myself, but always more than willing to cheer and encourage others. But that's why I'm on MFP to get my confidence back.

Some people are not capable of tact. Your baby is adorable, by the way. :flowerforyou:

The thing about me is I am stubborn to a fault. I will pick up a cause and kick that horse until it's not only dead but long since turned to dust, mostly because I am unwilling to admit defeat even in the smallest of things. I am intolerant of lies and liars and have no patience for braggarts or willful ignorance. I can also be kind of an a**hole.