Being made fun of
CherryMonRose520
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So I joined the gym today and was really motivated to work out. Once I was about to get on a machine a group of girls that looked about my age began to laugh at me and make jokes like I wasn't right there. I didn't let it stop me but I did feel really bad and uncomfortable. My question is how do you deal with people that do this kind of thing?
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First, I'm really sorry that happened to you.
Second, you have a few choices:
1 you could talk to management, depending on the gym, they may have a policy about that. At the very least they should have supportive staff that will either step in or talk to you for a few moments to help you through it.
2. You could say something to them, it may or may not help, and I know not everyone is comfortable standing up to bullies, but you could try that.
3. Ignore them, turn up your music and work out.0 -
Earphones with good music
Are you sure they were talking about you? I tend to be a bit paranoid and think people are talking about me when really their conversation has nothing to do with me ... were they pointing at your or talking about that new girl two machines down or whatever that let you know it was you? If so, I'm sorry you had to deal with that, I think we all have to put up with people like that (who, really, tend to be insecure and trying to make themselves feel better).
And just remind yourself that in the years to come, you will be cute and fit and happy and they will probably still be sad little punks.0 -
So I joined the gym today and was really motivated to work out. Once I was about to get on a machine a group of girls that looked about my age began to laugh at me and make jokes like I wasn't right there. I didn't let it stop me but I did feel really bad and uncomfortable. My question is how do you deal with people that do this kind of thing?
"About your age" is around highschool age, which is where the mean little *'s commonly do this kind of stuff. Complain to the manager if its a paid gym, immature little creeps shouldn't get away with doing that.0 -
Man that sucks. I am self-conscious at the gym (especially in the weights section) so this would definitely make it difficult for me to go, even though in my head I would know that THEY were wrong and petty and their laughter said way more about them than it did about me. Honestly, I would try to find a different time to go when there was less likelihood that I would run into crappy girls (e.g. super early in the a.m.).
Mean people suck. Sorry you're dealing with this. And also, way to go on doing your workout anyway. UGH... that must have been really hard - which means you're courageous.0 -
Just make it your absolute goal to go every single day and become super dupa fit, and then, a few months on when they are still sitting laughing at people, whip out your super hot body and be like "laugh at this *****es!"0
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Hi,
I am sorry this happened to you. When I go to the gym I just kind of pretend everyone else is invisible because I am there to change my life not worry about what people think about me. Plus those girls should care that your there because it shows your trying to achieve your goal also. Just ignore them I know its hard but remember why you are at the gym in the first place for you not them. Best wishes! Or you could just find a better gym.0 -
DAFUQ?!? I would tell the managers at the gym about those stupid bishes. That's so disrespectful and they should be booted out on their little heineys.
You're doing great and getting in shape FOR YOU. Just try to stay focused on your goals and remember that the majority of the people at the gym aren't like that...they either don't notice you because they are too busy working out themselves or they think "that chick's doing awesome"!0 -
You deal with it by remembering why you are there and putting earbuds in, listening to music and ignoring them...
they obviously do not take their fitness as serious as you, keep on at it, you will have the last laugh when you scult the mega body they can only dream of or "photoshop" lol0 -
Darlink - do what I do every day - remember darlink you are fabulouz - darlink don't waste time thinking about it:drinker:0
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Bullies suck! If you don't take it up with management handle it how I would, get on the machine and work it about twice as well as they are even capable of. Show em what you got! Hang in there and stick with it! You can do this!!0
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Put your earbuds on, hit "PLAY" on your MP3 player & do your thing ! An example --> I wear crappy old track pants & tees for my workouts...don't give a rat's a** about the fashion trend at the gym and the looks I get, I'm there for ME and ME only Don't let naysayers get the best of you, just get in your "zone" and give it your best !
Cheers,
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I"m sorry that happened to you.
I've been there.0 -
are you sure they were even talking about you? sometimes when we are self conscience we are paranoid....if they really were, me personally....I would have confronted them...but I have a BIG mouth that can get me in trouble!! Best to jam the tunes, ignore idiots and work your booty off!0
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I'd speak with management. If it happens again, I would go directly to management with them still there and point them out to the owner/manager. That kind of behaviour is so immature and ridiculous and has no place in a gym. They're stupid.
Just don't let it discourage you, please. Kudos to you for going to the gym and working for a better you!0 -
First off congrats to you for joining the gym! I have lost 120 lb and I am still terrified to go to a gym and I am 37 years old. So you're miles ahead of me right off the bat!!!
But seriously...I agree with the others here, you have received good advice. Don't let those dumb girls take up another moment of your precious time and energy.
I would first of all just hope that they're as lame as they sound and won't even BE there next time you are in the gym. From the sound of it they are not as focused on fitness as you are and I think it's pretty likely they will be elsewhere much of the time when you are working out.
When you keep going there and exercising at that gym regularly you will be more in the zone and have the upper hand because you will feel comfortable as though you have every right to be there, which of course you do. I don't have firsthand experience with this in GYM setting but I do have experience with similar stuff at work or in other public places where I became more confident and comfortable once I was "a regular" and knew what I was doing and felt good about my routine :-)
Hope this helps a little. Haters hate themselves, remember that.0 -
Unfortunately most of us have to deal with people like this. I never understood how people can make fun of someone for wanting to lose weight and be fit...there's no reason to laugh at someone making the effort to do so at the gym. This is your life, your workout, your journey. You just need to focus on that and ignore those silly girls. If anything, use their laughter and insults as motivation for you to push yourself harder and you will be the one laughing in the end. Turn up your music and do your workout.0
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Thanks everyone, I think my biggest mistake was not bringing an iPod with me smh. I just feel like I can never win, If i'm sitting in McDonalds eating a bunch of unhealthy food people stare and laugh, if i'm in a gym trying to get in shape they stare and laugh... ahh human beings are too confusing!!!0
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And yeah i'm pretty sure they were talking about me. I can tell from them tapping one another and pointing at me then laughing and from hearing them say she's wasting her time here. I'm a very shy person, I wish I had a big mouth lol0
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Sorry this happened to you. Don't let it deter your from working out though. Next time you go to the gym ask to talk to the manager and explain what happened. It will at least make them aware of the situation in case there is a problem in the future. When I go to the gym I put on headphones and probably look a hot mess, but I don't care. It's one of the benefits about getting older. It's hard when you are trying to do the right thing and ignorant people try and ruin it. You are doing great, keep up the good work! If it makes you more comfortable maybe you could workout with a friend. Bullies sometimes like to target people who are alone. Keep your head up, because it's so worth it. I wish I had started taking care of my body/health at your age. You are on the right path, don't let some jerks stand in your way. Best of luck!!0
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Just make it your absolute goal to go every single day and become super dupa fit, and then, a few months on when they are still sitting laughing at people, whip out your super hot body and be like "laugh at this *****es!"
Honestly ^this. I got made fun of in zumba at first, now I'm asked what I'm doing.0 -
People like that are clearly ignorant and as said, probably bored with their own lives or insecure that they feel the need to direct this at other people. I would be shy and self conscious in that position too but you cant let them get to you, for two reasons: one, to satisfy their b****y ways and two, because you're the one making a change! Power through and don't let them stand in your way. Congratulations on being so motivated!!!0
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That has happened to me before when I was much younger. It is very immature behaviour. i have an acting background and I was really good at pretending such people do not exist even if they are quite obvious and in my face. This worked really well for me. I think that you handled yourself really well too!0
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You are Beautiful! They are just immature and doing it to make themselves feel better by putting you down. You have your whole life ahead of you to be healthy and Gorgeous....please don't let them stop you! There's a saying, hurting people hurt people........ Finding someone to look up to/or Mentor you it helpful also Keep it up !0
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This happened to me all the time. Then one day I just turned and calmly asked them why they did it. They didn't have an answer and they never did it again. They actually seemed to feel really horrible about what they did and started to be super nice to me.0
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I think most of us here have dealt with this in some way. Please don't let them get under your skin. Those kinds of people are going to deal with karma eventually.0
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Clearly, these girls are immature and lack basic manners. Now after stating the obvious, I commend you for working out regardless of their taunts. I hope it didn't keep you down for the rest of the day or prevent you from returning. Congratulations for taking steps to becoming healthier. My wish for you would be to face them and say, "Why are you being rude?" Just know that if I was there and saw someone mocking you, or anyone for that matter, I would blatantly call out their bad behaviour loud and clear!0
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Thing to remember is: You can lose weight. But they'll still be jerks.
They probably talk about each other like that as well when one of them isn't around.0 -
DAFUQ?!? I would tell the managers at the gym about those stupid bishes. That's so disrespectful and they should be booted out on their little heineys.
You're doing great and getting in shape FOR YOU. Just try to stay focused on your goals and remember that the majority of the people at the gym aren't like that...they either don't notice you because they are too busy working out themselves or they think "that chick's doing awesome"!
Haaa! Haaa! Haaa! Well said! Love it!
I agree totally!
You sound like a very sweet person with a touch of shyness added to the recipe. If this has ever been said to you before then this is my advise...
You need to have the "I'm a ***** and I'll kick your *kitten*!" attitude before you go in the gym. This takes practice if you are the kind gentle person. So practice on in the mirror and snarl and pump your self up. Get psyched. Yell a little, be ready.
Next trip to the gym, if they giggle again, you give them a dirty look and ask in a LOUD voice " What are you looking at?" They will usually stop. That is a way to call out their behavior loud and clear. If they still give you attitude, jump off the machine and go directly to the management. They should scatter like flies!
If they are mistakenly looking at another person, they will apologize and tell you no, they were not talking about you and move on. Watch them leave. Do not apologize back. Do not say, "Oh I'm sorry." Never be sorry!
Maybe just say "Alright". Remember you need to always appear strong on the outside. Then crank up the tunes and giggle quietly.
Good luck!0 -
Inform management.
Ignore them and don't let their comments bug you.
Achieve your goals.0 -
You have to learn that YOU CANT FIX STUPID... You are beautiful and do you think maybe they can see you being a threat once you get to the weight that you want??? Good, go in head up just smile and know you will be the victor.. Keep going.. Just smile that pis--- people off more than if you get into a confrontation. You go girl and yes I would report it to management..0
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