Body acceptance?..Lost weight..Still see the "old me"..

I have a really bad case of BDD. When my weight increases I want to cover my mirrors with black crepe and go into mourning.

I don't know what you can do about the skin. I know some plastic surgeons can probably do a tummy tuck, and possibly something about the more superficial stretch marks.

I read once that our brains lag about three weeks behind our bodies. In other words, it takes about three weeks for our brains to accept the fact that our bodies have lost weight. You could try to talk back encouragingly to your image. You know, "Yes. I know there is cellulite, and stretch marks and sagging skin but this amazing body gave birth to children. It raised them and nurtured them and it became heavy because of that but now it's thinner and healthier.The loose skin and stretch marks are a blessing because they are the symbols of what I went through to get to this place." Or, you could get some ink. It won't take away the loose skin, cellulite or stretch marks but it will take your attention away from them! :happy:

I feel the same way. I know I'm in much smaller clothing now, but sometimes when I'm walking into a store or where ever, I feel like the old me and think people are still looking at the "fat girl". I saw a picture of myself my daughter took of me recently, and at first I didn't know who that girl was. It was me! I'm hoping my confidence comes soon!

I feel the same way. I know I'm in much smaller clothing now, but sometimes when I'm walking into a store or where ever, I feel like the old me and think people are still looking at the "fat girl". I saw a picture of myself my daughter took of me recently, and at first I didn't know who that girl was. It was me! I'm hoping my confidence comes soon!

I have been trying to find some clothes to wear that fits...I keep going to the plus sizes...I have a hard time going to the regular womens section...I keep telling myself...I am to big to wear them. I even still try on some plus sizes...they just don't fit any more. Often I just come home with nothing. I thought that I would enjoy shopping after losing this much weight...so far...I don't. I just have no idea what sizes to even try on.

I have kept this one sweatshirt jacket that was too big even at my heaviest...I put it on almost every day and wrap up in it...I don't know...there is something about it that is comforting. It is huge on me now but...it is my favorite thing to wear...the last thing I own of the old me.

I feel the same way. I am far from my goals, but I've lost a lot. It's hard to change the mentality and I'm starting to think I'll always see the "old me".

I recently started an exercise regimen meant to build strength, so I'm hoping that all the talk of lifting for drastic changes lives up. I don't know how much of it is true, but I've read that strength training helps tighten loose skin.

Anyway, I suppose this was just sympathy and not really helpful. I'm interested in what others have to say.

I know what you mean! I feel the same weight. I went from XL to S and when I see old pictures, I can totally see a huge difference. When I see myself in the mirror though or think about my body, I feel like I haven't changed at all.

I'm not even sure if that will ever go away because I don't see it changing anytime soon. I'm also afraid that I'll want to continue losing weight once I reach my goal just because I'm not happy with the way I look, eventhough I'll probably look the way I wanted to. I'm just not able to see it myself. I guess it's a good start that I at least know what's wrong and what I need to work on.