Being made fun of
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Remind yourself that happy people do not act that way - and then feel nothing but pity for them. PS. You are actually quite beautiful, which may be why they felt the need to attempt to knock you down.0
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And yeah i'm pretty sure they were talking about me. I can tell from them tapping one another and pointing at me then laughing and from hearing them say she's wasting her time here. I'm a very shy person, I wish I had a big mouth lol
1. prove them wrong (you're doing that already just by staying there and not letting them put you off)
2. if you're certain they were talking about you (sounds like they were from the above) report them to gym management. You have just as much right to work out there as they do, and they don't have the right to be like that to anyone.
3. It speaks volumes about them as people... they're young and it probably comes from a total lack of awareness and sensitivity at their age rather than a complete lack of character. I'm guessing in a few years they'll have grown up a bit and probably will be really embarrassed and ashamed about doing this kind of thing.0 -
And yeah i'm pretty sure they were talking about me. I can tell from them tapping one another and pointing at me then laughing and from hearing them say she's wasting her time here. I'm a very shy person, I wish I had a big mouth lol
You're not wasting your time. When I was in High School I was bullied, badly. I was once even attacked and had some of my hair pulled out while kids yelled to "get the fatty." I weighed 260 and decided to go to the gym after dealing with suicidal depression from all the bullying and hatred. While I was at the gym, people scoffed, they laughed.
I think the best revenge is looking great, and almost being at my goal weight after years of suffering and doing it for myself. Loving myself. People who bully are just insecure about themselves and they take it out on you. But, in my situation, I talked to my trainer after a few incidents. I never pointed anyone out to her, but I told her how it made me feel. Talking to her actually made all the difference in the world for me, because I may have quit, but she just kept encouraging me.
I think it would be good to talk to someone at your gym. They can be so much help. Trainers might as well be therapists in a way just because they're very encouraging and they're there to help you be healthy and happy. As my body's gotten healthier and stronger, so has my mind, and now I don't let people hurt me. I either stand up to them or brush it off and know they're not worth it.0 -
I am so sorry you had to go through that! This is something I totally discourage any of my clients to do, and that is to prejudge others who are simply trying to get in better shape. Everyone is in a gym for a reason (hopefully). You made the right choice in going to the gym. Please do not let those girls bother you. I guarantee that they all have something about themselves that they may not like, so in order to feel better, they choose to make fun of someone. Those girls are insecure, and very immature. Forget about them. Keep going. You made a conscious choice to be healthier, and to get yourself in shape. Those girls are not going to stop you from doing that. They can't, and they won't. Show them that you actually care about yourself. I guarantee you that you will end up having the last laugh!
I'll go ahead and add you. If you need any motivational support or advice, feel free to ask me.0 -
I'm really sorry that happened to you. I kind of know how that feels. When I ventured into the free weight section, these couple of young guys started laughing at my attempts at lifting. My thoughts were "just wait and see, I will eventually be able to outperform you boys!"
Here is a super great story that should make you feel better. Maybe someone will stand up for you if it happens again!
http://gustavoalfaro.com/2014/03/dont-make-fun/0 -
Put your earbuds on, hit "PLAY" on your MP3 player & do your thing ! An example --> I wear crappy old track pants & tees for my workouts...don't give a rat's a** about the fashion trend at the gym and the looks I get, I'm there for ME and ME only
Don't let naysayers get the best of you, just get in your "zone" and give it your best !
Cheers,
Nat
This x a million. The really serious people arrive early, looking a bit like zombies...actually, zombies dress better. But they have the 1000 yard stare of an athlete in the zone. It can be wall to wall bodies and you would think they are there alone, they just turn off the outside world and tune in to their body. A gaggle of giggling idiots standing around the equipment socializing is beneath your notice. Bullies can't stand to be ignored, it makes them impotent.0 -
All I can say is remember they are half the person you are. Imagine what they would do if they put on the pounds at some point in their lives.. I bet they would be too embarrassed to even try going to a gym! People like that talk big but have no real drive and in the end you are the one coming out on top. Heck I'm still too shy to even think about going to a gym! Good on you and be proud!0
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Some people are miserable and it's miserable to be around them. Don't worry about what anyone thinks of you. It's gonna be a long, cold road to success. Don't let anyone get in your way.0
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tell them youre a marshall on a stop between flights...thatll make them stop0
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Geez, whenever I see someone out on the street trying to do exercise, I always say something encouraging to them.
Some people have no control in their personal lives, so making others feel bad about themselves gives them some measure of control. It's stupid and it sucks, but I always try to think, "what in their life motivates them to say something like that?"
Karma will come around and bite them on their perfectly formed rear ends while you end up happy and dancing in the sunlight.0 -
You are so beautiful I can't believe that anyone could bully you. Don't let them get you down, they're obviously drama queen attention *kitten*, prolly scared that you're gonna blow them outta the water with your beauty!0
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And yeah i'm pretty sure they were talking about me. I can tell from them tapping one another and pointing at me then laughing and from hearing them say she's wasting her time here. I'm a very shy person, I wish I had a big mouth lol
Don't worry, the only thing you'll have to say is "Oops, Sorry I accidentally kicked you in the face!"
When i was in 7th grade there was a b*tch named Lauren that rode my bus. I was the quiet shy one that sat in the front seats with my music turned all the way up tuning everybody out. I weighed about 156 at the time and she was only 90ish. One day i heard her snickering with a friend about what a fat *ss i was and how i would never get a guy. On my way off the bus i slapped her hard in the face and walked off the bus. The next day her cheek was still a bit red and she never bothered me again.
This is the first time ive ever had to use cuss words on this site but nothing fires me up more then somebody that thinks they're better then others just because they're lighter.0 -
Sorry that happened to you. You know that sort of behavior is not okay and don't behave that way yourself so you are already a step ahead.
Sick people do sick things.
When someone is unkind I attempt to take a step back and realize everyone has their own demons, and that I don't need to allow their problems to become my own.
You are doing a healthy and positive thing for you. By continuing to go and achieve your goals you win.0 -
Cherry, there are people born without human souls and cannot feel empathy for another human. Anyone who gets pleasure causing another human pain, especially someone they don't even know, is subhuman. I know it is very difficult to ignore them. I've been mooed at, had eggs thrown at me so I know what you are feeling. But I know I am human and have value on this planet and deserve to occupy any space I wish. Keep working on your health and make sure to bring those tunes next time to drown out those degenerates.0
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And yeah i'm pretty sure they were talking about me. I can tell from them tapping one another and pointing at me then laughing and from hearing them say she's wasting her time here. I'm a very shy person, I wish I had a big mouth lol
Ah, don't let them get to you, you are doing the right thing, and the right thing by not mouthing off to them too. If it won't bug you to complain to the management, do it.
Lose weight for yourself even without any external reason, but you can take them as some extra motivation. Just think of it this way: you are pretty now, so you can lose weight and be a knockout and have your revenge that way!
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Just stay focused on your goals and ignore idiots!0
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darlink , darlink :drinker:0
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I had a girl in high school tease me and say I had thunder thighs. Same girl is very large now, but I certainly would never call her thunder thighs. That is just mean and not who I am.
Funny thing is, that was really the only time I ever heard anything negative about my weight. But it's not that I was never overweight - I was in my mid 200's for at least a decade (I was only 150'ish @ 5'8 in high school when the girl called me thunder thighs.). I think it was the way I presented myself - the inner self confidence. I look back at pictures of when I was that overweight and wonder how I did it.
I had a girlfriend who was the meanest woman I'd ever known. I don't think she was happy unless she hated someone. Funny thing is, she married my husband right after we divorced. She made my daughter's life miserable, calling her a *kitten* in front of a whole bunch of people at a public event. Thankfully they are divorced now, but she had already ruined my daughter's teenage years.
I loathe people like that and how they aim to make other people miserable. Believe me, it's not about YOU. They need to do this to make themselves feel better.0 -
My question sounds silly, but are you sure they were laughing at you? Could they have been just laughing and (because it's your first day at the gym and you might have been a touch insecure) you thought they were laughing at you?0
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Sorry that this happened to you, I know how much it sucks! I would either report it to management or use it as motivation. Just don't let it stop you from doing your thing!! You have every right to be there and I would suggest getting earphones and some really good music 0
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So I joined the gym today and was really motivated to work out. Once I was about to get on a machine a group of girls that looked about my age began to laugh at me and make jokes like I wasn't right there. I didn't let it stop me but I did feel really bad and uncomfortable. My question is how do you deal with people that do this kind of thing?
Like you said a group of 'girls' clearly immature, nothing for you to deal with, they'll grow up some day hopeully until then not your problem!
Women don't do this 0 -
So I joined the gym today and was really motivated to work out. Once I was about to get on a machine a group of girls that looked about my age began to laugh at me and make jokes like I wasn't right there. I didn't let it stop me but I did feel really bad and uncomfortable. My question is how do you deal with people that do this kind of thing?
Some people should really be ashamed of themselves.. Sometimes I actually can't fathom the amount of cruelness that some individuals have within them
Tell management or ignore them. There should be some sort of anti bullying policy in the gym. Don't lower yourself to their level because you are better than that sweetie :flowerforyou:0 -
DAFUQ?!? I would tell the managers at the gym about those stupid bishes. That's so disrespectful and they should be booted out on their little heineys.
You're doing great and getting in shape FOR YOU. Just try to stay focused on your goals and remember that the majority of the people at the gym aren't like that...they either don't notice you because they are too busy working out themselves or they think "that chick's doing awesome"!
Yep.
I'm sure it's a modern day thing to openly take the piss out of adults in public? I can understand if it's in the playground.0 -
My question sounds silly, but are you sure they were laughing at you? Could they have been just laughing and (because it's your first day at the gym and you might have been a touch insecure) you thought they were laughing at you?
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Let me guess, these girls were standing in a corner probably just socializing doing nothing??? Keep in mind that they are little girls with little brains. You are a woman with an intellect. You're on 2 different playing fields, they think the gym is a place to socialize, you think it's a place to become a total bada$$.
Have you thought about starting a strength program? I just started Stronglifts 5x5.
I bet if they saw you lifting heavy things their snickering would stop because it's something they can't do. :flowerforyou:0 -
@craftywitch & @randomtai I'm pretty sure they were talking about me since they were tapping each other a pointing at me and laughing. If that wasn't about me it sure looked like it0
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@craftywitch & @randomtai I'm pretty sure they were talking about me since they were tapping each other a pointing at me and laughing. If that wasn't about me it sure looked like it
Then I agree with the above poster. Start lifting heavy things and all that nonsense will stop. Or punch them in the face.0 -
Well let me put it this way, your a pretty gal and your at the gym because you have determination on a goal you want to accomplish on your own.......why are they not alone?hmmm guess they don't got that power you have to do it on their own...so haha to them!!! I would put on my headphones and use that to drive me to have a better workout!!!! They are nobody in your life so who cares what they think!!!0
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Sweetie, what rotten b-words those little girls are.
As a strong, motivated and thoughtful Woman, I am sure that you recognise that you can change your image any time you please but they will ALWAYS be ugly on the inside.
God bless you, hold your beautiful head up high and do exactly what they suggested, don't waste your time .... Giving another second's thought to their childish words.
Jealousy really is hideous, isn't it?! Xx0 -
We go to the gym to better ourselves. It's crazy that anyone would laugh at someone while they are in the process of changing. Try to use it as motivation. If you keep working out eventually they will have nothing to laugh at.
If it becomes a frequent occurence report them to gym staff. Hopefully it was a 1 time thing. People are just insensitive sometimes.
The other day my niece pointed to some guy, and said I bet he makes you feel better about yourself. I told her atleast he is here.0
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