Mixed Messages... WTF!

a6ftdiva
a6ftdiva Posts: 88 Member
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I have been wrestling with a comment I received while walking through Penn Stattion Thursday afternoon. I was approached by 2 men who were cat calling me, which made me feel good until one of them called me "MEATY"...(as in "just the way I like 'em")
not sure how I feel about that. LOL... he was still hitting on me pretty hard, but I couldnt decide if I should be flattered by the attention or completely disgusted by being called MEATY. UGH

I dont like how I look these days so I felt great for a few minutes and then not so great. all that keeps going through my head is the word MEATY. which doesnt exactly invoke a good feeling.

I am trying to focus more on the fact that they thought i was attractive even at this weight, but i just keep hearing MEATY.... its killing me....
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  • JMoore221979
    JMoore221979 Posts: 266
    You are beautiful. Don't think about what some dumb *kitten* said to you on the street. You will never see him again probably and in the end you are here for you. Love yourself and then who cares what anyone says!
  • judykat7
    judykat7 Posts: 576 Member
    Not sure what you are looking for? Meat is good but there are two parts, lean and fat. You know what you are and what you need/want to be for your daughters. I really wouldn't think catcallers at your age should be given so much merit. I mean when it gives you a lift - fine but wouldn't let it bother me. Will you be disappointed when you have lost your weight and that person no longer catcalls at you since he finds you not meaty enough?
  • FireOpalCO
    FireOpalCO Posts: 641 Member
    "Meaty" would have me freaked out as well. It sounds like he wants to put you on a rotisserie!

    Honesty I think cat-calling and other 7th grade behavior isn't about the women at all but about showing off in front of other males (and a particularly stupid way of doing it), so I would ignore anything they say. They are hoping to get a reaction out of you.
  • deedepe
    deedepe Posts: 1
    Maybe they meant "delectable," like a Reubens' woman! I'd take it as a compliment, albeit juvenile.
  • miss_phat_booty
    miss_phat_booty Posts: 117
    In some cultures terms like "meaty", "thick" etc is considered a compliment. I can't 100% assure you the man meant it as a compliment but I think he did.
  • ChaplainHeavin
    ChaplainHeavin Posts: 426 Member
    I have been wrestling with a comment I received while walking through Penn Stattion Thursday afternoon. I was approached by 2 men who were cat calling me, which made me feel good until one of them called me "MEATY"...(as in "just the way I like 'em")
    not sure how I feel about that. LOL... he was still hitting on me pretty hard, but I couldnt decide if I should be flattered by the attention or completely disgusted by being called MEATY. UGH

    I dont like how I look these days so I felt great for a few minutes and then not so great. all that keeps going through my head is the word MEATY. which doesnt exactly invoke a good feeling.

    I am trying to focus more on the fact that they thought i was attractive even at this weight, but i just keep hearing MEATY.... its killing me....

    As the saying goes, "It's none of your business what others think of you." .............especially if they are idiots. Regardless of whether they meant it as a compliment or insult, "cat calling" in my opinion is belittling of a woman.
  • canadjineh
    canadjineh Posts: 5,396 Member
    Call it right back "Honey, you ain't saucy enough for this meaty gal." Then laugh - I'm certain his friends will too. :wink:
  • gwencakes
    gwencakes Posts: 15 Member
    I get what you're saying. I'm sure they were complimenting you but you don't want to be thought of as thick. The balls on some guys to yell random stuff in a public place always mystifies me though! LOL

    Reminds me of a time I was out downtown. A guy was hollering provocative things to me from across the street, when I said no thanks, he replied, 'whatever your fat anyways!" Well ok...but you wanted to *kitten* me a minute ago. NICE.. DB's
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    Just respond by saying "You look like you've got a CUTE little package. I like the dainty ones!" He'll be freaking out over the words 'cute' and 'dainty' a thousand times more than you are about 'meaty'. :laugh:
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    Compliment, if from Jeffrey Dahmer or Hannibal Lecter.

    ??? from an average Joe.

    That's quite the strange compliment in a non-cannibalistic sense.
  • logg1e
    logg1e Posts: 1,208 Member
    Reminded me of this video, http://www.theguardian.com/world/video/2014/apr/04/everyday-sexism-turn-tables-women-men-video
  • The_Aly_Wei
    The_Aly_Wei Posts: 844 Member
    Hahaha i have been called "meaty" as well. At first i was off put...and then i realized i love meat. Points for creativity, eh?

    Take it as a compliment (unless said by Dahmer) :)
  • trisha986
    trisha986 Posts: 139
    Who cares what a man in the street called you. It's all about how YOU feel what YOU see in the mirror. Some people have called me "thick" and others "skinny". I think it depends on the person's taste. Meaty could mean curvy, in that you have a nice butt or rack, lol. But honestly, don't dwell on it as anything more than a compliment :)
  • Mpol2
    Mpol2 Posts: 442 Member
    There is a lovely Yiddish word for a woman with curves: zaftig. It's an appreciative and positive word. Take "meaty" the same way.
  • ianthy
    ianthy Posts: 404 Member
    Men that cat call at women ... they don't sound like quality. Ignore them!
  • Ashes_To_Beast
    Ashes_To_Beast Posts: 378 Member
    I know how you feel.. Ppl are so mean sometimes.. I got called a 5 this morning on an mfp thread... :sad:

    But then when I composed myself I realized she was probably just bitter and went back to work...

    But seriously I've never heard the term meaty before, but if they where hitting on you it wasn't a bad thing :drinker:
  • fivethreeone
    fivethreeone Posts: 8,196 Member
    If I understand you correctly, you're having trouble deciding what to think of the man's words.

    I suggest you decide to think it is a compliment.
  • WaterBunnie
    WaterBunnie Posts: 1,371 Member
    I'd take it as meaty rather than fatty and take that as a compliment. He wouldn't be wasting his time flirting with you if he didn't like what he saw!
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I've been called meaty...

    I was afraid maybe he was a cannibal, so I left.
  • _Calypso_
    _Calypso_ Posts: 1,074 Member
    Yep - I would not like to be called "Meaty" but on the flip side I'd rather be "meaty" vs "boney"... so its really a no win. I do think the guy could've chosen his words better. But the fact is - you are very beautiful and I would most certainly take it as a compliment!!!
  • Sovi_
    Sovi_ Posts: 575 Member
    Was he a Butcher?
  • SonicDeathMonkey80
    SonicDeathMonkey80 Posts: 4,489 Member
    I'd take it as meaty rather than fatty and take that as a compliment. He wouldn't be wasting his time flirting with you if he didn't like what he saw!

    Bacon, pork shoulders, and ribeyes are also meaty, but with a lot of fat and/or marbling. I'd have to ask "meaty, like what cut of meat exactly" before determining if it was a compliment.
  • _crafty_
    _crafty_ Posts: 1,682 Member
    I've been called meaty...

    I was afraid maybe he was a cannibal, so I left.

    I like your sweater meat.
  • lujako
    lujako Posts: 87 Member
    Filets are meat...which is a muscle...so being called "meaty" means your being called "ripped"! :glasses:
  • vim_n_vigor
    vim_n_vigor Posts: 4,089 Member
    They sound like people to ignore regardless of what they said...
  • SezxyStef
    SezxyStef Posts: 15,267 Member
    definately a compliment...

    he likes a girl with meat on her bones...

    ie curves in all the right spots...

    maybe it's because I grew up in the sticks but those cat calls don't bother me at all...esp if they are cute....:drinker:

    If they aren't cute they just get that "look" and immediately stop...
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    I've been called meaty...

    I was afraid maybe he was a cannibal, so I left.

    I like your sweater meat.

    Well yeah! That *kitten*'s edible AND delicious!

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  • bennettinfinity
    bennettinfinity Posts: 865 Member
    I get what you're saying. I'm sure they were complimenting you but you don't want to be thought of as thick. The balls on some guys to yell random stuff in a public place always mystifies me though! LOL

    Reminds me of a time I was out downtown. A guy was hollering provocative things to me from across the street, when I said no thanks, he replied, 'whatever your fat anyways!" Well ok...but you wanted to *kitten* me a minute ago. NICE.. DB's

    www.youtube.com/watch?v=M_Q-Y3dllVQ‎
  • sassyjae21
    sassyjae21 Posts: 1,217 Member
    Who in the world says MEATY? Dafuq?

    Clearly, he thought you were curvy/thick and thought he was giving you a compliment.

    Ugh...if you don't have a way with words, you should use them less often.
  • jasonmh630
    jasonmh630 Posts: 2,850 Member

    Take it as a compliment (unless said by Dahmer) :)

    This statement ^^^ made me choke on my water. Well played, mam.

    That is all. Carry on.

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